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I used to visit a barbershop back before my hair decided to vacate the premises. The response I heard from other men was "I'm waiting for Bob". So the barbers would look for whoever was next; he'd say "I'm waiting for Bob" and they'd move on to the next customer. Based on what I saw there, barbers in the US are used to that behavior. No ...


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I‘d suggest that you take a specific situation in one of those larger meetings. As soon as he credits you, you raise your hand or - if this is normal behavior in those meetings - just jump in with something along the lines of Thank you, Bob, and let me add that this approach was developed by Susan, and I am as fond of it as you are. By thanking him, you ...


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Lame excuses just lead to more asking. If you don't want to see him, just reply "No thankyou" or "Sorry, but no" or other fairly terse things when he invites you to get together. Someone who is willing to go through someone else's wallet and then berate them over what was found there is not someone who will get the hint after 4 or 5 lame ...


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I use the following technique in a bouldering gym where I used to go. I approach to someone and I ask them "Hi, I see you easily climb that wall, will you show me how do you climb this route?". Always they make a comment about climbing and then they climb the route I asked them. After that I make a flattering comment and ask their names while ...


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I once sold a rather expensive item to a friend. The item's new price was more than 1000€ and it went used for just under 1000€ on Ebay. We agreed to a price slightly (50€) below the Ebay price. At the time I suggested the price. I chose a price that left me no better nor worse off, regardless if my friend agreed to the deal. As such I could communicate ...


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Most likely, these young people are trying to impress you. Maybe they are feeling intimidated by your status (of being an American or a European). (We, Indians, subconsciously (and at times consciously) feel that Americans or Europeans or Australians are better than us.) So, maybe these young people are trying to tell you that they too have quality and that ...


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India is like the whole of Europe from cultural diversity aspect. You can stereotype North Indians to be more vocal / bragging (generalization) and south Indians to be more humble. Works either ways too. Situations like these are more often individual dependent and generalization is not very accurate. I would recommend you to build personal rapport with them ...


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In seminary we learned about counseling others and I've volunteered with the elderly. For the most part, people in advanced years and declining health know what's happening. We all face our own mortality - some do it earlier than others. Some choose to ignore their decline, others choose to act like it's not happening, still others are realistic about it. ...


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My sister (65 at the time) handled this for us, I witnessed it years ago, and it worked fine. Once, when we met at our mom's, she started talking about her own will and what would be done, how, what she had decided, who was in charge, well, everything was set up. That started an informal discussion between us, where we mostly said or asked who had already ...


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