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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
Just don't
If you're paying $15 as a tip on a $55 hair cut, that's a total of $70 per haircut. You've flat out said other hairstylists are charging more than that for the same basic work. Except this ...
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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
You are going to upset them.
For years you have been visiting this person, paying the same amount for the same service. Now you are wanting to cut their tip in half because you found out your friend ...
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Telling my mother that I have anorexia without panicking her
If you want to talk to your mother about the issues you're facing right now, I would not advise you to use the word anorexia.
Please be assured: I am not questioning your diagnosis in any way. I ...
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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
There are two basic models for the hair business. Either your stylist works for the salon/shop directly and makes roughly minimum wage plus tips, or they rent a booth and are an independent contractor....
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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
Reducing your tip will be noticed by the hairdresser, and you can't prevent upsetting or offending them. You've given them more for quite a while (as your question seems to suggest) and reducing this ...
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Telling my mother that I have anorexia without panicking her
Some of this is similar to avazula's answer (which is great!), but I wanted to share the approach that I've used too. The main differences I think is that my mother is in the second category (tends to ...
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How do I tell my wife that a family member has just died with an illness they both have?
Start with a very short opening. You don't want to just walk in and say, "so .... died today". Open by saying there is some sad news in the family.
Keep it short. After your opening, just say what ...
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How to break bad news about the death of a family member to the family?
The following advice applies to just about any culture, but it is particularly good for an Asian culture because of its strong family orientation. (I am Asian American.)
Basically, you and others are ...
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Telling my mother that I have anorexia without panicking her
Try discussing it in terms of your appetite being unusually suppressed.
I've dealt with medication-induced anorexia on and off for the past 15+ years, and I found out quickly that if you don't look ...
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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
If you do not mind telling a white lie, use one to proactively address the issue and cushion the blow.
A few years ago I was going through a divorce and bankruptcy, and I had to stop tipping my ...
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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
One way you can try to approach this is to imagine that your boss found out that someone does a similar job to you, but for less money and now wants to discontinue Christmas/Retention bonuses (or ...
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How to talk to my parents about living abroad
One of my children moved literally to the opposite side of the world - it takes equal time to fly there going either east or west from my house. 4 of my siblings have moved thousands of miles from ...
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How to break bad news about the death of a family member to the family?
This type of information, especially with family is best done face to face. If you are calling people to give them news then suggest they come to the hospital now.
If you give them the news first on ...
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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
@corsiKa has an excellent, succinct answer to the practical side of the matter, I just want to throw this in as an addendum that's a fair bit too long for a comment.
Simply put, you've been paying as ...
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How can I tell someone who's in a vulnerable state the truth?
In this kind of situation, you should come to him prepared to offer him an alternative or your assistance/support in finding an alternative.
Right now, David is receiving some amount of comfort from ...
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How to tell friends that I don't want them in my team?
There's no easy way to do this. Their feelings will be hurt either way. Essentially you are saying that winning is more important than spending time with these friends. I am a competitive person too, ...
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How can I tell someone who's in a vulnerable state the truth?
Basically, it looks like David is trying to replace one addiction with another one ( as far as I know this is a regular thing for those who recovered from heavy drugs - like methadone,morphine,...
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How to significantly reduce my hairstylist's tip, without upsetting her?
Your post boils down to this...
I would like to stop tipping my stylist 20%... [reducing her tip to] five dollars, at most.
How can I [do this] without upsetting her?
It is now okay, because $5 ...
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How to talk to my parents about living abroad
I've been in your shoes.
I moved from Brazil when I was 30 and until then I lived far away from my parents (we're from the countryside of São Paulo, I lived in Rio for about 6 years) and visited them ...
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