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How to stop classmate from bullying me

This is definitely bullying. Even if you are a "bit annoying and difficult" as you say, personal attacks such as calling you fat and ugly are definitely way too far. This is what worked for me when I ...
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How do I tell other parents that their child is a bully?

I think you should disclose that information to the dad as you inform him that your son will come to neither the play-dates nor birthday party. Given that the father states that his son doesn't use ...
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Meeting someone who used to bully me

If it were me I would just practice what I would say. I didn't have this with my class reunion, but oddly I ended up with someone from my home town and had some angst over his class reunion. The ...
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How to help my girlfriend get her confidence back?

The seeds of confidence need a breeding ground. Be the potting soil she needs. As you already have help from a profesional, I would just recommand that you: Tell her you love her. Show her you love ...
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How to stop classmate from bullying me

Most of the answers so far are standard advise from people who have not been in the position of the victim. They require skills or traits that you may or may not have. Ignoring / staying calm - that ...
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How to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself

Is there a way to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself? Yes. Ask more questions and listen carefully. Most people like to talk about themselves to an extent (some ...
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Meeting someone who used to bully me

I have had this happen to me, so I'll pitch in. Meet and greet him like you would any other from way back when If he has grown up by the slightest amount he will be slightly ashamed and uncertain ...
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How do I tell other parents that their child is a bully?

Telling a parent that their beloved child is less than perfect is fraught with unpleasantry, but I think the parent needs to be told. If you want the father to actually hear you, though, you have to ...
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How to stop classmate from bullying me

I abhor violence but I actually do agree that sometimes a good hard knock works. I've taught my daughter this too and she is the sensitive type. One time on the jumpy house another girl was getting ...
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How to deal with aunt harassing my 15-year-old daughter for money?

TL;DR - Confront your Sister In Law, insist she deal with you directly rather than your daughter and then try reach an agreement with the help of your wife and after planning some key points for ...
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How to handle a younger sibling being verbally bullied, with sometimes racist remarks, at school?

Make racist remarks back at him? NOPE. When they go low, you don't. You have two equally valid options remaining: Tell the teacher. or Ignore him. If this is a one-off retaliation after he got the ...
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How to stop classmate from bullying me

I've found this guy a while back and his solution is very easy and fun to watch. The principle: "Bullies bully for the reaction, to get you crazy or to make you cry. If you take away the reaction ...
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How to handle a younger sibling being verbally bullied, with sometimes racist remarks, at school?

Option 2 seems to be the most viable option. But I have a story that I think you'll appreciate. I am from India. Attended school in India. Bullying is a big thing in India, but never something ...
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How to help my girlfriend get her confidence back?

When I was younger I went through a really rough time. My self-esteem was in the toilet and I wasn't coping very well. One thing that someone told me helped tremendously: You gain self-esteem ...
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How to deal with a teacher who bullies me?

I recently got a haircut. Ever since I got a boy-cut, everyone in my school spreads vicious rumours about me (...) I got physically bullied as well (...) Before my haircut, all these teachers were ...
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How to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself

There are tons of ways to show someone you are interested in getting to know them without explicitly revealing things about yourself Initiate Contact: If you are the one to approach someone else ...
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How to handle degrading neighbour / acquaintance couples?

Regarding Alice's husband, if he doesn't want to be a jerk then saying something simple like: That's not a very nice thing to say. will most likely be very effective at getting him to change his ...
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Meeting someone who used to bully me

My ideal outcome would be to end the conversation as quickly as possible, without being confrontational, but also without being false – I don’t want to pretend I like Brian when I don’t. You can do ...
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Unsure of how to handle upcoming high school reunion after being collectively ghosted

Quite easy to decide: Is there anyone else you want to see and vice versa? Would you go to a party instead of a reunion with the very same people? If the answer is yes, go, else don't go. It does not ...
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How to stop classmate from bullying me

The teacher is the person of authority in the classroom. She should be dealing with the situation, not you. If she is not, then she is not doing her job. The teacher should not tolerate you or ...
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How to handle degrading neighbour / acquaintance couples?

My husband had a friend who used to love making fun of his wife in front of everyone. I didn't say anything the first time I heard it because she didn't look unhappy - she was smiling/rolling her eyes ...
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How to deal with aunt harassing my 15-year-old daughter for money?

It is important to start at the beginning. In the moment it seems as if you don't know what's going on. That means the beginning is to examine the situation and find facts. Did your daughter borrow ...
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How to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself

The biggest thing you can do is show up. Go to events, meet people, make small talk with them. Accept invitations to hang out and get coffee. If this makes you anxious due to past experiences, keep ...
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How to deal with bullies who are teacher's pets?

Sound like classic bullying. Popular kids can be bullies. You should not have to learn to be happy with it. I suggest you keep a list of his bully actions and report to your teacher again. Ask ...
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Meeting someone who used to bully me

An alternative point of view. How much do you really want to be attending this reunion? As someone who was profoundly bullied all the way through school (and I mean all the way, from age 5 until I ...
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How to handle a younger sibling being verbally bullied, with sometimes racist remarks, at school?

Involve your parents. First and foremost, this is something your parents have to take action against by notifying the appropriate authorities (teachers, principal). If her school has a school ...
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How to help my girlfriend get her confidence back?

There is great advice in both answers above. This is a kind of concrete answer to fill in the gaps. This has been said already, but bears repeating: Therapy. Therapists are not all created equally. ...
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