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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

No one likes to be ignored, but with digital media, that's unfortunately something you will have to get used to. People often read messages pretty quickly but do not always have the time to ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

You can't expect people to answer you right away when you send them a written message. They might be busy, they might be too tired to answer, they might haven't taken any decision yet and so one. ...
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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?

If you don't want to discourage someone sharing an article, but you want to point out that it's a hoax, you should: Start by saying something positive about the article or thank the person for ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

Just because it is called "instant message" doesn't mean you get an instant reply. There are countless reasons why someone may not respond to a message. They might be driving, at work/school, or ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

Ignoring IM's is part of proper use, start doing it, too. View ignoring of instant messages (IM's) positively. Some more determined people are ignoring IM's intentionally as part of their personal ...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?

It is in my opinion rude, but maybe not for the reasons you could think. You have the right to think their texts are pointless, of course. And you have the right to tell them : Sorry, I'm somewhat ...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?

It isn't rude to read and not reply directly. But from the three examples you gave, I would say it would definitely be considered rude by the other person if they never go a reaction from you. To ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

You give them a call. Email, IM, text messages are asynchronous media. You can't expect people to drop what they are doing to answer you. Read / Received receipts mean the message was delivered and (...
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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?

This has actually been a pretty big problem in the US over the last few years... People see something they really like or really hate and share it. It happens so much that many people have trouble ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

The fact he read your message doesn't imply that he has to reply. I know this might sound rude, but it's perfectly fine to not answer when someone you barely know sends you a message. There are ...
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How can I correct text of another person during a chat without being pedant or making fun of the other person?

Sometimes in cases like this I reply using the correct spelling or phrase (or pronunciation), without explicitly pointing out that the person made a mistake. In this case you might reply with Let me ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

How can I set boundaries to let people know I expect a reply, even if it's like "I don't feel like doing this anymore"? Boundaries are supposed to protect what is precious to you. You first need to ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

TL;DR The "instant" in instant messaging is a horrible misnomer. It isn't instant, and it's frustrating to expect it to be so. It engenders confusion in reasonable people. Longer "Instant" ...
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When is replying a chat with "thanks", "OK", appropriate?

Personally, this would somewhat bother me in a case of a longer gap between messages. So what I do instead is thank a person right away: – Hey, do you have Bob's number? Thanks. – Here: +x xxx ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

I would suggest following up with information on why a reply is important. Thinking about why you need a reply will help you deal with delays in messages. What is the name of the website? [...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?

My friend finds this very rude. However, I do not. It depends on the sender personality. Ask yourself when you read the message "What I expect if I were the sender?". Sharing stuffs? "Yeah, it's ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

I've read all the other answers and I don't think they're great advice. (No offense.) This is IPS but also general business. You need to keep that in mind as you approach it. In this situation Be ...
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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?

Question, then show and question, then state it plainly The best way to make someone retract a statement if they themselves are made to examine it and then reach the conclusion. So first: ask. ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

I have a personal ranking of interaction and with each step down I assume that the answer my be delayed: face to face videocall phone call IM mail snail mail This helps to set expectations for the ...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?

While I agree with Cronax that many people perceive it as rude, I disagree strongly; they are rude for demanding an answer. The sender does not know what you are doing when you receive their message. ...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?

I think this depends entirely on your culture (and possibly your age group) In my age group, messages like the ones you describe are not expected to be answered. They are purely a share. In general I ...
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How to handle office chitchat

I suggest using a technique I call "The random fact conversation". It consists of stating a weird/fun fact about any subject. In your case, you can focus on a subject you like and wouldn't mind ...
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How to apologize for an unintentional personal attack?

First, let me explain why A thought your behavior was (perhaps bordering on) a personal attack. You're using a particular style of argument, where you get someone to imagine something that is very ...
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How to keep offering support to someone in grief

It's easy to overthink these kind of situations of a new friendship with the added stake of possible future relationship. It's also difficult to imagine what feels someone in grief when you've not ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

If you need some info at a particular moment, your best bet is to call. There is no accepted rule as far as I know when it comes to time replying to a text message. If you need to know if something by ...
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Deal with an introvert person

My fiance is like this. She doesn't tend to do little texts or emails. It made me nervous and took me quite a while to figure out how to handle it. Turned out she is just very focused, and whatever ...
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Is it passive agressive to just write "ok" after an deleted message?

Before rushing to judgement, consider alternative explanations. If she is reading WhatsApp on her phone, she might have seen the whole message in a notification on the top of the screen, which means ...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?

I fear that my senders might think that I am a rude person or don't care about them or something I will answer from my point of view. To me, it depends on the topic of the message and the context. ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

There are already some good answers here, but most of them give general advice about instant messaging. While I do agree, you cannot always expect a response right away, the examples given in the ...
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