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Say both at the same time. "I very much agree that X did you wrong and I will try and help you in that regard in any way I know. But you cannot blame all Gs. There are bad people in any group of people, like X in G. I share your pain, but that's no reason for racism/ageism/whateverism." Well, that's how I handle these kinds of situations. It ...


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The phenomenon you're experiencing has a name: "not all men". It applies not only when men are the group G, but for any group. What you need to understand is that they are not condemning the whole group, so you don't need to correct that. That G, X, [did terrible thing]! All G are [string of nasty adjectives.] Despite having said "All G are&...


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I was recently in a relationship where I repeatedly had this same issue: I felt like we had agreed on something concrete, but when it came time to do that thing, he was suddenly not on board. It was frustrating, but I did learn a few things that made it easier to manage. The first and easiest potential issue to solve is that she's not actually agreeing to ...


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I am going to have to disagree with Kate in her answer. I think there is a strong distinction between a few examples of inflammatory behavior coming from specific members of particular groups, and stereotyping unfairly, and emotionally, in the heat of the moment, that all members of that particular group are problematic. Self restraint and rational thinking ...


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