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By way of a disclaimer, I do just want to say that this is, of course, an interpersonal skills site, not a mental health site, but as the two are linked in your question it is difficult to talk about one without the other. I'm not a mental health expert, but from your description of Alice, she seems to be exhibiting mild paranoia (she thinks people are "...


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My friend (Bob) had invited me and another person (Joe) to bowling. ... I was 15 minutes late, ... To me keep it simple and focus on what I want to address - his not being there. "I wish you would let me know, when you decide not to meet me. It does not feel good." It's a separate issue from his complaint. If he brings it up, feel free to apologize ...


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I understand this question is old, but this sort of situation does tend to come up every so often for a lot of people. It feels like it's pretty situational how to best deal with it. One option that I need to take more than I'd like to which isn't listed in any of your existing answers don't really address is, "I'm sorry, but I just can't right now." This ...


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I've noticed, in regards to how others react to me, how others react to each other, and how I react to others, abrasiveness is frequently just a matter of sounding annoyed. I mention this, because without your vocal tone, what you wrote sounds fine to me, and apparently to dhein. I've previously had issues with this myself. It doesn't really matter if I'm ...


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Manage your expectations You claim that she's not putting in enough effort into the friendship, but that hardly seems true, because you talk on instant messenger on a weekly basis, so clearly she still wants to be friends. You, however, seem to expect the same type of closeness as you had before you moved, when you lived in the exact same town. That's an ...


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I share your cringe. It's helpful to keep in mind that he might not necessarily refer to the women, but the culture. If a culture emphasises family values (as Eastern European cultures do) then the role of a housekeeper will come up. Similarly, men from those cultures are also expected to make good husbands and providers. It's not necessarily sexist to ...


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Your lives are definitely in very different places (literally and figuratively) so some drifting would make sense. You don't mention in your question how frequently you two instant message or the kinds of things you two speak about. In my interpretation though, the fact that she is still keeping up with instant messaging means that she doesn't want to lose ...


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