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I usually find what works is phrasing it a bit like "I don't mind, but just wondering if you were using my computer?" - You could add in a bit about why you need to know or if you are just curious, add "just curious..."


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As a non-confrontational way of eliminating the problem, I would suggest locking your screen (and have your password known only to you) so that your coworkers couldn't possibly use your computer even if they wanted to. Yeah, you won't know who used your computer or if they used it at all but still, your aim is not knowing if your computer has been used, it'...


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This is something I used to run into with my college roommates. It's all too easy to go from "Is this your bowl in the sink?" to "Yea, but you leave your clothes in the washer for days, so who cares?" to a downward spiral with no end. In my years living with messy people, my chief advice here would be to ask yourself: What's your actual goal here? ...


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I tend to ask very generally about the issue when I find myself in such situations. ie. instead of "Have you used my computer?", I would say: It looks like my computer got moved since I last used it, you haven't noticed anything have you? In this way my question is limited to the thing you noticed that made you suspect someone used your computer, I'...


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My way of handling situations similar to this is to excuse myself from the conversation saying something like: This really isn't a topic I feel like discussing right now, can we get back to [insert previous topic]? This is usually enough with my friend group to softly burst the story tellers bubble a bit so to speak, this gives others a chance to ...


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I have been in this situation and situations very similar to this one before, this is how I handle this. Usually when this happens (with friends or very good friends) either me or another of the people in the group will try to divert the conversation. You and others did this, but it did not work. If this still fails after, let's say three tries, then ...


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I can empathise with you, as I have a similar experience which I will briefly relate. I had a very good friend from childhood who was a complex person who struggled in social groups, but one-to-one we understood each other and had a great friendship. We were solid friends from age 9 until about 18, whereupon we fell out of touch, mainly because I had ...


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This is one of those issues that, in my experience, is easiest if you talk adjacent to the actual topic. For example, sometimes people simply don't know one way or another about something that they're doing wrong. These are the easiest times to correct them because they aren't attached to their wrong ideas- it's just a coincidence. When I saw that my ...


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How do warn him about this without embarrassing him, or making it look like I'm judging him or that I snooped? (I didn't!!) You better do not reveal to him about your knowledge of this matter. It could be just your perspective. You can present the concern/scenario only (not the solution with step by step protection or caution) to him as a perspective of ...


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Neeku, I totally understand your feelings. I have been basically in the same position as you (except I only have 1 sibling, an older brother). There seems to be two issues you mention: One is not getting a thank you about the presents you send to your nephew. The only "solution" is to actually be brave and politely ask either your brother or sister-in-law ...


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There are several problems with expressing your opinion out loud. Whatever this person may have for reason to behave the way he does, it is quite clearly a strong motive. Buying three cars is expensive, and moving one of them halfway every time you go out with one car is tedious. You would have to be prepared for his cars to be very precious to him. By ...


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Time for a small frame challenge. The problem as I understand it is that the boy doesn't realise that the 2 doorbells means you're just neighbours sharing the same front door. From my experience with my nieces, nephews and neighbours kids I can tell you the best time to teach a new concept is in the moment they're stuck on it. In this case, when nobody ...


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