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I've been the "old member" of the team for a while and most likely will be for what's left of my career. Although that hasn't consisted of exclusion, there are usually a lot of "old" jokes and references to watching TV in black and white, how all we had was rocks growing up, dinosaurs, computers using punch cards, discovering fire, etc. ...


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First, a small frame challenge. You can move together even if you're not married. Just as you can get a job in that other country, so can she. It could be a fun adventure together in which you both work on the project of finding the appropriate pair of jobs, and a place to live. Of course, this would also move you quite a long way along the living together / ...


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I use the following technique in a bouldering gym where I used to go. I approach to someone and I ask them "Hi, I see you easily climb that wall, will you show me how do you climb this route?". Always they make a comment about climbing and then they climb the route I asked them. After that I make a flattering comment and ask their names while ...


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I once sold a rather expensive item to a friend. The item's new price was more than 1000€ and it went used for just under 1000€ on Ebay. We agreed to a price slightly (50€) below the Ebay price. At the time I suggested the price. I chose a price that left me no better nor worse off, regardless if my friend agreed to the deal. As such I could communicate ...


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Most likely, these young people are trying to impress you. Maybe they are feeling intimidated by your status (of being an American or a European). (We, Indians, subconsciously (and at times consciously) feel that Americans or Europeans or Australians are better than us.) So, maybe these young people are trying to tell you that they too have quality and that ...


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The most effective way I've found to get an opinion out if someone who is hesitant to give it is to ask them specific questions in a narrow scope. Consider the difference between What did you think of the book? And I wasn't quite sure what to think of the character Maria. Sometimes she seems like a villain, but other times I felt bad for her. What do you ...


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In non-violent communication theory, as well as my own experience, a healthy relationship in essence is only possible if both partners are involved in satisfying their own needs at the same time they are involved in satisfying the needs of the other person. When you set yourself goal to go abroad you only care about your own part of the equation. But how is ...


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Got to say this question was the exact opposite of what I was expecting/hoping for. See I'm 25 and the vast majority of my coworkers (through my last two positions) have been late 30s to early 40s. They're all married, most have kids, and I haven't heard of most of the movies and such that they reference. I would reiterate baldPrssian's point to just be ...


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In seminary we learned about counseling others and I've volunteered with the elderly. For the most part, people in advanced years and declining health know what's happening. We all face our own mortality - some do it earlier than others. Some choose to ignore their decline, others choose to act like it's not happening, still others are realistic about it. ...


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India is like the whole of Europe from cultural diversity aspect. You can stereotype North Indians to be more vocal / bragging (generalization) and south Indians to be more humble. Works either ways too. Situations like these are more often individual dependent and generalization is not very accurate. I would recommend you to build personal rapport with them ...


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These based on personal experience to achieve mutual benefits 1) Knowledge Sharing - I used learn from someone older than me especially lifestyle, set an expectation and learn how to handle to it. Most of the time if you ask politely to seek for guide, very likely they will share their experience. i.e. Most of people at age of 40 and above have high blood ...


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My sister (65 at the time) handled this for us, I witnessed it years ago, and it worked fine. Once, when we met at our mom's, she started talking about her own will and what would be done, how, what she had decided, who was in charge, well, everything was set up. That started an informal discussion between us, where we mostly said or asked who had already ...


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You could add, at the end or at the beginning as an author's note, that you are new to this and you are still learning, so "please pardon my mistakes. However, constructive criticism is appreciated." That way, you will know your mistakes, and will be able to build up on them later. Even if the corrections are not understandable at this level, but ...


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