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It sounds like you've already tried what would have been my first suggestion - stand your ground - and it didn't go so well. A valiant effort! I'll refer to the back-and-forth "you answer first", "no you answer first" exchange as "the ping pong game" in the suggestions below. Two background observations and then some possible ...


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The problem here appears to be that others dislike making decisions and then complain about the decision being made. One thing that I've found in these kinds of situation is to change ownership of the problem. You feel manipulated into making a choice and then having the choice disliked. This makes the problem yours. The solution, rather than stressing ...


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How can I convince my sister's husband to switch to boxer shorts? You can't. This is way too personal for you to be involved in. Between this being about underwear, and about it being a treatment for a potential medical problem, which is in turn about his family life...you can't get involved. This is not your problem to fix, do not even try. It's between ...


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This is a VERY delicate situation. Under normal circumstances, what kind of underwear a person wears is absolutely none of anyone's business. You wouldn't take a coworker aside and tell them their underwear was too sexy for the office, for example. I am sure that before this you had absolutely no idea what kind of underwear your brother in law wore, and that ...


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The short answer is: you can't. Only your sister can motivate herself to take something seriously. However, you can help her to motivate herself. The first step is to engage with her. You're not going to tell her things; you're not going to give advice. When I teach fatherhood classes, one thing we say is "don't give un-asked-for advice" which ...


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While some may claim this is a matter of opinion, it is fairly well-documented that most western cultures generally consider it crass, or "tacky" to discuss their salary. Certainly, in my home country of the United Kingdom, I know this to be the case. This article from Business Insider discusses how other countries feel about it, and apparently ...


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As someone whose perspective differs sharply from even the people closest to me, I've had this same experience repeatedly throughout my life. I've come to understand it's not just my experience or your experience. This has been the experience of every visionary throughout history. And also every genuine crackpot. This is just how people react to unfamiliar ...


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The first thing you need to realise is what you're working against. You are claiming you have a groundbreaking new theory that goes against a lot of established knowledge in a field where you have no formal academic qualifications. Regardless of the validity of your idea, that puts you in the same camp as all "science cranks" who claim to have ...


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A possible approach is the sandwich technique. https://www.brighthubpm.com/resource-management/56534-the-sandwich-technique-for-giving-feedback/ Here's one way to adapt it. Hey John! Good to see you! I hope you don't mind if I don't talk much today, I've got this work to finish. Oh, no need to leave, it's good to have company, I just can't talk right now. ...


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