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noise harassment torture not requested not agreed or authorised activity to harass victimise invade personal space or private time bathing or when using the wc to be harassed is also not acceptable behaviour However, after assault the victim is entitled to defend him or her self either by way of vocal insult or physical aggregated behaviour that may incur ...


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Kate's answer is on how to make sure that you understand your girlfriend correctly, which is not bad, but I feel doesn't really answer the question. As someone who experiences something similar to what your girlfriend might experience, I would like to share how you can support her. Reading what you have described about your girlfriend, I feel I can relate to ...


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First, at the moment that she states an intention to do something with you in the future, you need to ask her questions. This applies whether you suggest something and she says yes, or whether she suggests something. Btw the phrasing "offering" is odd, it sounds like the thing under discussion is some sort of favour or gift to you rather than ...


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I suspect the problem is not as bad as you think. As long as Bob is not making truly ridiculous statements such as "The earth is flat.", it seems from your example that he is just insufficinetly informed about the facts (that you know) and hence comes off as making false statements. Many people do not really know what "research" means, ...


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First priority: to prevent the argument from happening Avoiding getting into an argument would ultimately boil down to avoiding disagreement in the first place. I can think of several ways to help do this. The first way would be to avoid subjects which you already know you and your interlocutor disagree in. For example, if I know that someone is a staunch ...


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So we get stuck in this loop of him repeating his statements and me trying to correct him Correcting him is helpful if you want him to learn something, but will only succeed if he is currently willing and capable of learning, which drunk people are often not ... Fortunately, it is not necessary to convince him: You are your own person. Your choices are ...


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Stop trying to negate what the other person says. If your ultimate goal is to avoid an argument, disagreeing with someone belligerent is not going to work. When their opinion is "attacked", their goal is to defend themselves. To give more information, or, if they don't have any, to repeat themselves with different words so that maybe you'll ...


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The best way to end an argument is to just stop arguing. If you keep disagreeing with them, you are keeping the argument going. Instead I would recommend just giving some half-hearted agreement or at least conceding that they make a reasonable argument. There are many ways to do this, such as by saying: Okay. Maybe. I guess. Fair enough. I'm not sure. I don'...


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Is Bob, or has he ever been, a salesman? How good are you at saying no to a salesperson? This is a specific sales technique. Until a potential client says a definite No, you treat them as though they are saying Yes and just need a little persuading. Notice right at the the beginning. What did you do to give Bob an opening? (click for answer) Here is my ...


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I'm not sure how helpful my life advice will be here (since I'm only 19), but here's my take. You will almost never regret not saying something. In my experience, you will never win an argument no matter how well-versed, eloquent, and well-researched your response is. You will never achieve a perfect argument, because your crafted argument will only be ...


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If someone really doesn't want to listen, I often prefer not to go against it at all. I would vaguely say that I may agree. .....can't you just skip the research and only write the thesis?" "Maybe, I'll look in to that, that would surely save me a lot of time." And maybe even add "Thanks for the tip!"


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Stop explaining, start saying If you want to end a discussion, that someone else wants to continue, you have to end it. There is a big difference between saying This doesn't work, because ... and This doesn't work. Everytime you present something after the because it is an argument, and something that can be attacked. You are presenting a conclusion, and ...


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My mother has a tendency to blurt out similar things as Bob. Often, these are in the form of 'well-meant advice'. Do note my mother isn't generally drunk when she does this, nor does she have a history of alcoholism that may impair her cognitive functions. To prevent arguments from happening, I've often resorted to an appeal to authority. Instead of saying '...


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Chasing the perfect job, in my younger years, I found myself in your shoes more than once. What I learnt from that is one very important point: never badmouth. Ever. No matter how bad that company is, let people (family, acquaintances or professionals) read/learn about it by their own professional channel or news network. Don't be that kind of person, the ...


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I believe there are ways to counter the lack of nuance, black and white thinking that comes associated to this phenomenon. Play dumb Usually when we have a complex topic summarized in one word, and applied in the wild, it's always possible to not know the reference, genuinely (I often don't), or perhaps because you'd like to be sure of what interpretation of ...


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Framing is used to have others think in a certain way about a problem. Winning the argument by assuming you already won. A classic example of framing outside politics is found in parenting smaller children. (Not "do you want to put on your shoes?" but "which shoe do you want to put on first?" - Don't leave a doubt that they will put on ...


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Always remember that the burden of proof lies on the claimant. Furthermore the burden of proof is, in some cases, due to more people than the one we put our claim onto. Jack: Earth is flat Jill: that's not true, science proved it multiple times Jack: oh really, prove it Jill: you prove it, and not to me, but to thousands of scientists whose proofs you don't ...


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I've never felt important to me some other people believe things I consider completely wrong, so when I'm presented beliefs in the vein of 'Earth is flat' (I can definitely think of similar claims in some members of my family) I would only address them if they are presented specifically to me. In the case I really don't have the energy for an argument, ...


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If your goal is actually to debate and discuss these topics, tell your brother: I don't want to discuss this with [YouTuber Name], I wanted to discuss it with you. What do you think about it? Also, consider not pushing back so hard on what your brother says. If you rebut a point of his and he scrambles for a video to prove your rebuttal is wrong, then ...


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I once knew a young adult that heavily relied on videos to argue points in a debate, and usually found that terribly irritating. That person still was able to sum up in my case but would end most of the time referring outside video sources that I had not any remote envy to check. Our discussion usually were shortened by this, but I realized as well that the ...


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It's completely normal, that your housemates want to talk to you and you shouldn't make yourself a stranger. Someone preparing food sounds like a very legitimate time to start a chat with a person who shares the same house with one. You should keep that conversation short and friendly. You have no obligation to 'carry the chit-chat on until you reach the pub'...


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Nobody likes to be rejected by their friends, but just about everybody wants to help their friends. I've found that by phrasing the need for time as a FAVOR that they can do for you, to be an effective and inoffensive way to get my space/time. Some examples: Jeff, I really want to continue this conversation about X, but right now, I'm running out of time ...


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