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How does one respond to statements like "It's all yours"?

I think that this falls squarely in the realm of common courtesy. You seem like a practical person, as am I. I tend to agree with you that many of these types of interactions are totally unnecessary,...
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How does one respond to statements like "It's all yours"?

I do not think that the statement is superfluous, as they are making clear that they are finished (in some situations, there may be more to do after you got the coffee, like getting sugar/milk or ...
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How can I politely tell someone who is ineffectively holding a door open for me, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

If you feel that they are obstructing your path while opening the door, saying "Excuse me" while indicating you are fine holding the door open will trigger them to stop holding the door and actually ...
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Under what circumstances is it okay to not hold a door open?

I usually determine this by distance and perceived ability. Are they close enough to the door to not feel obligated to walk faster for my benefit and are they able to easily open the door themselves. ...
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What do you say to a woman who asks you to dance when you don’t want to?

"No thanks, I'm not much of a dancer. Would you like to grab a drink with me instead?" Honest is a good way to go. Decline, state the reason, and offer an alternative. It also makes it clear that you'...
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How can I invite a friend but not his girlfriend?

There is no polite way to say this as it is an incredibly rude gesture. The underlying problem seems to be that you do not trust your friend's judgement in women. You could go with the honest approach ...
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How does one respond to statements like "It's all yours"?

As Heinlein said: “Moving parts in rubbing contact require lubrication to avoid excessive wear. Honorifics and formal politeness provide lubrication where people rub together. Often the very young, ...
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Offering to ride along with women when it's dark

There's no harm in offering at least once. If she straight up says no, or is condescending, then you can presume she's not interested and you have no need to ask her any further. If she doesn't give ...
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Are there "rules" for vaping etiquette?

Asking if it's ok seems completely appropriate, particularly if you're in someone else's home or car. Even though there may be a reduced health risk, most vape products have an odor that other ...
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When should I offer my seat on public transport?

It's entirely down to personal preference. Yes it is generally acceptable to offer your seat to an elderly or disabled person (there are even some seats in places where you must give up your seat if a ...
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Under what circumstances is it okay to not hold a door open?

TL;DR: If they're 20+ seconds away, don't hold the door. If they're 10+ seconds away, it depends on the person. I have this issue a lot, especially when it comes to going into my dorm. The outer doors ...
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How can I invite a friend but not his girlfriend?

Try viewing the situation in a broader context. It's not really just about this birthday party, after all. If your friend is in a long-term relationship, this is going to come up every time your ...
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How can I invite a friend but not his girlfriend?

There's no polite way of "hinting" anything. You're going to have to deal with the problem head on, and hope for the best. Just tell your friend the truth: "We all like you, but none of us likes ...
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Offering to ride along with women when it's dark

I'd make it about myself. You could say: Wait up! May I ride along? I feel safer when I don't have to ride alone in these creepy outskirts. When you use this method you cannot discriminate between ...
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How can I politely tell someone who is ineffectively holding a door open for me, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

In this situation you want something quick, to the point, while telling them you appreciate the act, and most importantly, that their act has succeed in its intention and is no longer required. A ...
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SARS-CoV2: When conflict arises over wearing masks, what should I say?

(Since you edited your question, I can now try and give a proper answer). Considering that those "badly-wearing-mask people" live in the same country as you, where safety advice from the ...
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How does one respond to statements like "It's all yours"?

To elaborate on @wildbagel's answer: As a person who "almost literally cannot encounter a person without saying something" myself (a "silence-filler", as some friends have put it), I wouldn't ...
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Should food containers be returned to the donor?

I'd imagine it would be more for the take away container. If we're thinking of the same thing (A small foil tray which is usually thrown out after the food is eaten) then returning this would seem ...
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Does a greetings card require a return in kind?

The only real answer to this is "no". You're rarely (if ever) "required" to do anything for the purpose of courtesy, particularly in this day, when it's not in any way codified. Otherwise, this is a ...
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When should I offer my seat on public transport?

In the UK on much public transit, you may see a sign like this near the entrance of the vehicle: The text reads: Priority Seat for people who are disabled, pregnant or less able to stand The ...
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How and when to best approach a stranger about a “wardrobe malfunction?”

I think in a way no matter how you approach this there will no doubt be some awkwardness because as you said they are a complete stranger and they most likely will be embarrassed because of the ...
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Under what circumstances is it okay to not hold a door open?

I generally hold the door open if it would not fully close before the person reaches the door (since I'm holding it, I should be able to make a good guess). Especially for heavy doors, having to stop ...
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How can I politely tell someone who is ineffectively holding a door open for me, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

You should politely, but clearly, indicate that you want to open the door yourself. "Don't worry, I'll get it. Thanks!" And in terms of body language, you can take a small step back. Or a larger ...
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How does one respond to statements like "It's all yours"?

There are times when courtesy would imply that someone who finishes with a machine while someone else is waiting should let the other person know. There are many other times when it isn't necessary. ...
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How does one respond to statements like "It's all yours"?

Australians use the term "No worries" in reponse to statements like these. It's a good response that doesnt really mean anything but has a positive connotation and we use it a lot to counter other ...
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Offering to ride along with women when it's dark

Say something like "Hey, it's dark, I'm not very sure if the roads are safe, do you want me to ride along ? I wouldn't mind". She would either say yes or no. If she says no, you can just say "Ok, stay ...
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SARS-CoV2: When conflict arises over wearing masks, what should I say?

Be content with your efforts to protect yourself. Know that you are doing everything you can to prevent the spread of Covid. And let everyone else manage themselves how they see fit. I'm right! I've ...
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How can I politely tell someone who is ineffectively holding a door open for me, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

I actually was just in this situation as the "offender". Weird. Let me tell you my side of the story, that might help you to understand why someone might actually act this way. short description of ...
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