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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?

So, I also saw that research once in a training, and I think that one of the reasons why your strategy is not working might be related to a misinterpretation of ...specifically that men do not ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?

I think that the major reason your strategy isn't producing the results you want is because you've overinterpreted a very precise piece of information, and have based your entire approach around that ...
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How to quickly end a date?

Reddit has a lot of threads regarding this question. Generally, the most honest way to do this, according to what I've seen on that particular forum, is to gracefully say, "I'm sorry but this ...
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How can I tell my date that one of her close friends outed her to me as trans?

Trans woman here, so this is entirely how I would handle it from my perspective. First, I like the inclination that you have to tell her that someone is outing her. That is dangerous. People lose ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?

It's been a while since I've dated, but I've been married for quite a while. So maybe I might have some insight here. When I'm on a date with my wife, I want to be her focus - and she wants to be ...
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How to quickly end a date?

You can always say "I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me. Goodbye." At any time. That said though, it would usually be strange to say that so soon. The only reasons generally would be if the ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?

I'm on the spectrum myself, and I understand that dating can be quite the challenge. I've had a fair bit of success with it (I'm now married), so I've got a few tips that can help you out. Why your ...
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How to tell a girl that I want to "try" to date her

The best way to ease into dating is by setting up some activities that you will both enjoy in and of themselves, rather than activities that hinge on your enjoying each other's company. The most ...
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How to quickly end a date?

As a person who dates, I would find it very rude if someone left after only 1-2 minutes. Most people need at least an hour to have any idea if they are compatible with someone, either in terms of long ...
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Why does a man pay for the first date with a woman?

The book "Is There Anything Good About Men?" By Roy Baumeister is a non-fiction, readable account of his psychological research, which I think will answer your question and provide many other insights....
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How do I progress a newly formed friendship into a romantic relationship?

There are a couple things I want to clear up before I get into your main question of how to progress the friendship into a romantic relationship. First off, being introverted simply means you find ...
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How do I ask people out in an online group?

I think there's another step you can take, that could eventually lead to having more contact with these women, although it doesn't directly focus on asking them specifically for a one-on-one chat. My ...
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How do I ask people out in an online group?

I recommend taking small steps first. Something like this continue being yourself in these large-group situations. Laugh at people's jokes, say interesting nice things when you're talking, respond to ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?

I have found in my dating and married life, as well as with friends and family, that everyone is different. We do not need to generalize men as non-talkers and women as talkers that make them ...
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How can I tell my date that one of her close friends outed her to me as trans?

This kind of stuff makes me incredibly paranoid---if someone went around gossiping about my transgender status (particularly in the workplace), I wouldn't handle it well; it's the kind of thing I ...
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How to quickly end a date?

This is based on dating for many years before meeting my wife, both people I met offline and online (although not via Tinder, that came after my dating days). Further I will assume that your date isn'...
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How to quickly end a date?

I use dating apps quite a bit and this answer is based on my experience. You should finish the date, especially if it's only an hour long. They at least invested the time in coming out to meet you. I ...
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How to avoid being manipulated when asking for someones preference?

It sounds like you've already tried what would have been my first suggestion - stand your ground - and it didn't go so well. A valiant effort! I'll refer to the back-and-forth "you answer first&...
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How to appear less insensitive when texting with women I would like to date?

I may be wrong here, but I see in your responses a pattern of needing to share your opinion on everything, and needing to be right as well. Let me offer you some words you could use in response to ...
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How to proceed after being ignored on Dating app?

I am neither 30 nor from the Balkans, and I’m also not in the online dating world. However, I find it hard to fathom that common netiquette would not apply - as this exact type of conversation can for ...
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Who pays for the date?

I've lived in China for years. TL;DR: This is not necessarily a date. It's good to attempt to pay for the bill (if given a chance), but I expect it's unlikely you'll succeed. First of all, in ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?

An important point especially pertinent to the first several dates is that the goal should be to try to get know each other so that you can both decide whether to continue to pursue the relationship. ...
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Dutch dating etiquette

Ok, so what it looks like is that your challenge is managing expectations from both yourself and the girl regarding dating and relationship progressing. Cultural-wise, the western society is much ...
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Tactfully asking a date you are interested in having further dates with to slow down physical escalation

The most important phrase here would be, possibility of keeping the courtship going? I would like to preface this by saying that there is no guarantee that Bob will be able to keep things alive. The ...
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When and how do I start discussing finances with my new boyfriend?

I've had, on several occasions (vacations, family gathering with hotels and food, travel), this kind of situation to deal with. With friends, family, and SO. With friends and family, it was quite easy,...
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How to quickly end a date?

To be honest, unless you are willing to be very rude, there is no way to terminate the date that early. But I'd wager that you are not setting your dates properly to begin with. I'll first give you ...
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Why does a man pay for the first date with a woman?

This is a hard question to answer definitively; why a broad cultural practice started, became common, and endured is fundamentally hard to find evidence for, with conclusive evidence being harder ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?

You're dating without a purpose. Stop. As you mention in a comment, you're not sure why you're going on dates, just that you're supposed to. This is where you are coming undone. You have no aim, so ...
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How, as in "what way", am I expected to go about using a dating app correctly?

Regarding your second edit I think there was indeed some misunderstanding, so I'll address that. Regarding the swiping, it's quite simple, the app is expected connect two people that have swiped "...
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How can I assist my girlfriend to be independent and career minded

You probably can't do these things. She is behaving true to her culture and upbringing. She is hoping to change you into a gentleman like she witnessed in her homeland, while you are trying to change ...
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