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How to help my girlfriend if she gets greatly depressed over small things?

Hormonal birth control pills come with a very interesting set of side effects listed, some of which are of a psychological nature (mood shifts, etc.). It would, perhaps, be best for both of you if you ...
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In an early relationship, how can I handle my partner's deep depression and not be an enabler?

It kinda sounds like you're already enabling her. Trust me, I've been there and done all of the things you're describing in, sadly, more than one relationship... As for saying "no" and breaking the ...
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How to deal with a person getting sad during a date?

If she's telling you these stories on your second date, it means she is preoccupied with them and wants to talk about it. She most likely doesn't want you to change the subject or cheer her up, she ...
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Preventing certain topics from being raised by a close relative

I have, myself, several mental health issues (anxiety, depression and some other stuff). For me, talking about certain things can be really difficult and, like your friend, I will need to rest after ...
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What to do if I/Someone I know is feeling depressed/suicidal?

This answer will deal with not just what to do if you personally are dealing with depression/suicidal thoughts, but also if someone you know is feeling that way too. Any numbers, websites or hotlines ...
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How to deal with a person getting sad during a date?

The answer obviously depends on what you gain from this date and what you hope to gain from future ones. If you find that this made you uninterested in the girl you should obviously make a quicker ...
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How to help my girlfriend if she gets greatly depressed over small things?

I agree with AndreiROM, this could very well be a side effect of her new birth control. You should encourage her to talk to her doctor to explore this possibility and discuss options. Now, about ...
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How to suggest someone to find a hobby without offending them?

Depression I think half of the problem here is your initial framing and her depression. Anything said to her in that way with her current state of mind will (in all likelihood) be taken as an insult ...
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How to help my girlfriend if she gets greatly depressed over small things?

This sounds like myself and my wife. @Em C has great suggestions, but the biggest help for us was: Talk about this when she isn't upset. Make sure she feels safe. Don't get upset. She isn't in ...
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In an early relationship, how can I handle my partner's deep depression and not be an enabler?

So… I'm not depressive, just bipolar (and ADHD… go genetics!), but I can get into a pretty nasty funk a couple of times a year (take seven pills a day to mostly feel normal, and that still fails…). ...
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How to talk to a dean about depression

This is the dean's job; he's probably good at it. If you try to express yourself and do it badly, that's ok, you can back up and say it again another way. The dean will ask you questions and help you ...
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How do I safely ask my girlfriend about her past depression?

I've been on both sides of this issue, so I'm going to provide 2 parts to my answer: one from the perspective of the person being asked and one from the perspective of the person asking. I'll start ...
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In an early relationship, how can I handle my partner's deep depression and not be an enabler?

Before I say anything else, I will say this one more time: You should probably get some kind of advice from a professional. This is really early in your relationship and I'm glad you didn't wait ...
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How to stop recurring conflict in family home

Background During my college years and right afterwards, I was in a very similar situation as you currently are. I was depressed, spent most of my time staring at a screen, and didn't take good care ...
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How to tell my in-laws that they are making my spouse depressed?

Well, this is a lot to unpack. Since telling you what to say is impossible given that we don't know anyone, the suggestion would be to ensure first that you are taking care of your wife. As someone ...
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How to deal with a person getting sad during a date?

I was very young when I met my husband. A few dates into it, I did a weird thing that I didn't seem coming and told him every rotten part of my life. I think in hindsight, I already could see how ...
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Blocking a suicidal friend?

I'm going to take a stab at this, just because we get a lot of these... The advice I received from a licensed psychiatrist, for dealing with suicidal people in person, or over the phone, in my own ...
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How to communicate support to someone who is emotionally disconnected?

First, I would suggest that you follow the NIMH advice; especially the last two points. From https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml Tips for Family and ...
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How to support my friend who is going to have surgery?

Like your friend I've been a young person going through a couple of heart surgeries (minor ones relatively speaking and I was in my early twenties). Also like your friend, I have high-function ...
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In an early relationship, how can I handle my partner's deep depression and not be an enabler?

This may not be the answer you are looking for, but get out of that relationship. I speak from experience and the primary regret I have is to not leave sooner. A person with a serious mental illness ...
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In an early relationship, how can I handle my partner's deep depression and not be an enabler?

My wife is bi-polar and was in the middle of a sub-manic phase when I started dating her. As much sympathy as I had for her when she told me her story on our first date, we were careful to be very ...
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How can I explain my reduced social activity when depression is stigmatised?

Most people should understand that we all have different capacities for social interactions. Some people love being with other people, other people a little less so. Some people are extroverts, others ...
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How to suggest someone to find a hobby without offending them?

Answer So, to list all the actual technical questions you are asking... How to suggest someone to find a hobby without offending them? she took it to herself and I felt very bad about that because ...
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How to approach a friend about depression?

I am in a similar situation with a friend, and while I still look back at some of the ways I've responded and realise with hindsight there were better ways to approach it, I've found this resource ...
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Can't get through to someone who needs help

First, understand that the job of being a therapist, helping a depressed person feel better, and ensuring they don't kill themselves, is one that takes years of study and training. It's not something ...
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How to deal with a person getting sad during a date?

In my case, she felt extremely embarrassed to be crying in front of me. I want to add one more point of view to the previous answers. A person who is so helplessly sad may appreciate it if you "...
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How can I steer my depressed / low self esteem friend away from belittling herself on unrelated topics

First of all, depression is a serious mental condition and should be treated by professionals. Don't expect anything you say to make her depression dissappear. But you can help her see herself in a ...
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How to ask a possibly depressed, not-so-close friend if they need help

Question: How can I offer help in a way which a) Would make it likely for her to accept if the need exists. I think serious topics like this are often served well by having a direct approach, and ...
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