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You are putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself. I too have siblings that are very busy/stressed etc. It's my responsibility to always be available for them but it's their responsibility to make the time. A few times each month, I call/text different family members I don't see often and tell them I need 10-15 minutes to catch up. They call me ...


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I get a lot of calls from strangers. They only want to sell me things, not change my family dynamic, but even from that point of view, I can tell you that your current plan is unlikely to be the smoothest possible approach. I can suggest some improvements. First, don't ask "do you have time to talk?" That is not a yes or no question. It depends what you ...


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Introduce yourself and explain your motives. You're trying to get in touch with a family member, and they haven't responded yet. That's a fairly understandable scenario, and not especially creepy. In contrast, if you withhold explanation, then the omission could be perceived as suspicious or creepy. They may doubt your credentials or your motives. At ...


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I think the general idea of your letter is perfectly fine, though I would modify it slightly to be a little more formal and add some more info. I recommend more formal, because letters in general tend to be more formally written, and you are addressing a stranger who is from an older generation. I also recommend mentioning the reason you are contacting them ...


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If you are friends on Facebook, drop them a line in messenger, something like Hi, I am doing my family tree right now (isn't everyone), and I remember my mum telling me you knew my father, is there anything you could tell me about his extended family? With these really open-ended question you haven't put them on the spot as well they can say it took them ...


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I have lived in Canada for 50 years. People have mentioned their religion and I have never seen someone react poorly to hearing someone was Catholic. 30 years ago I would hear "jokes" such as equating being Catholic with having a large family, but I never heard anyone worrying that a Catholic would try to convert them. Further, I never heard anyone trying ...


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