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Always. My dog is a black labrador; an abused rescue I found at a shelter. When I got him (a male), he was limping and terrified. If you touched an ear, he would yelp like you kicked him: somebody had been dragging him (or lifting him) by his ear. An x-ray of his leg showed healing from a cracked bone, and his knee had been dislocated for so long it couldn't ...


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How about frequent changes of direction? On foot, this can be done in a heartbeat; but repeatedly turning the car around is gonna get old real quick ;) . This is a non-confrontational way to discourage antisocial behaviour


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Coming from my experience in receiving compliments from men I didn't know very well, I'd suggest focusing on complimenting the shirt vs complimenting the person wearing the shirt. For instance, saying something as simple as "That shirt looks good on you, the color brings out your eyes." can be taken as 'flirting' by some (especially strangers who don't ...


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I'd be direct but offer him the opportunity to still come clean on his own. Maybe something like: Hey, I heard from the buyer that the money was transferred to your account. Would you be able to double check and see if you missed the transaction last time you checked? If not, we should call them back and see what's going on. This allows your cousin to ...


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I'm female, so I don't have a lot of the concerns you would have, necessarily... or a different set of concerns, but the solution I would personally accept if a guy moved in next door to me would be to get a small business card-like piece of paper that I could put on my fridge or enter into my phone. The piece of paper should be formatted and printed in a ...


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Can you violate table manners in public? Of course you can. Everyone can. In fact until someone learns them it's likely that they will be unintentionally violating them. Table manners are just codified expectations of behavior, normally considered part of "polite society". This is a reciprocal expectation. You can't hold someone's poor manners against them ...


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I think you handled the creeper appropriately, and yes "creeper" is an appropriate word to use in this case. One thing I would suggest is to walk to the nearest friendly neighbor's house and ask for assistance, and/or ask them to call the police. You were right not to allow him to follow you home. Something tells me that you might live in one of those "fun"...


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Judging from already available answers, this will be an unpopular suggestion, but here I go. In my experience, the most sensible course of action is to not be confrontational at all, and 1. to query about their motives 2. to empathize with them 3. to query about their identity 4. to try establish a connection with them. I understand this is not an easy ...


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Reddit has a lot of threads regarding this question. Generally, the most honest way to do this, according to what I've seen on that particular forum, is to gracefully say, "I'm sorry but this isn't working for me. Thank you for your time; I'll pay for drinks/dinner (whatever you have), and I hope your next date works out better for you than this one ...


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There's usually not much benefit in arguing in a situation such as you described. When people have passionate opinions on topics, it is extremely difficult to discuss a different perspective without one or both sides becoming defensive (or offensive). This Scientific American article discusses two of the major obstacles in perspective-changing: ...


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In basically safe places, as pubs and bars in the US and the UK are supposed to be, the protecting behaviour towards the woman accompanying you does not make much sense anymore. I feel like the courtesy of holding a door outweights it. This is my rule of thumb: If the door opens outward, I open it, hold it and let the other person pass. If the door opens ...


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It's probably best not to say anything. Unless there is something remarkable about the involuntary response, there really isn't a reason to reply to their reflexive remarks after it. Think of it this way: There wasn't any indicator that their cough or yawn was relevant to the conversation at hand. In this case the remarks of "sorry" or "excuse me" aren't ...


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Is it in general a bad question to ask westerners ? Some westerners (and people from anywhere) are inclined to be very private, but I've stayed in many hostels and hotels and I can't imagine someone not asking me where I'm from (or being surprised when I ask them). It's normal smalltalk for tourists (and business travelers). And is it especially bad ...


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Don't touch anyone or anything without asking. This applies to dogs, children, people (especially the bellies of random pregnant women and yes people do that), you name it. There is simply no reason not to ask. Now in emergencies, obviously this is exempt. But otherwise always ask and the simplest answer is, it keeps things civil and good and polite and ...


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Jess K.'s answer is spot-on, but I wanted to add some additional detail. The challenge is not only what your friend says but how he says it. Body language, eye contact, tone, cadence, and other things all can create a flirtations subtext, even when your friend is trying to act calm and cool. When flirting, men tend to lean in, make direct body contact, ...


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No - it is not rude to offer your seat. To anyone. If a particular individual decides to be offended, that is up to them, but you are within your right to free up your seat for any reason you like. Maybe because you liked their smile. Maybe you just wanted to stand up for a bit. It really doesn't matter. Don't second guess this, just give your seat up if ...


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The etiquette is for people with dietary restrictions to tell the host about it beforehand. But it happens that these people forget to tell the host, and to prevent awkward situations at the dinner table, it is perfectly fine (very nice and accommodating even) as a host to ask the group for dietary restrictions. To prevent such a question from being ...


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From an outsider's perspective training/exercise with a dog looks a lot like play. Particularly curious kids won't recognize a difference. You could just try explaining it to them in age appropriate terms. Sorry kiddo, the dogs are training right now. It's like they're doing their homework, it helps if they're not distracted. Or These are very ...


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TAKE THE CARD. It's not dishonest, because everyone knows that just giving someone a card doesn't make it 100% or even 50% that the person will ever call you or use your services. You are asking how to do something that is, well, inherently rude--and you seem to actually want to be honest. Any advice I would give you would involve social lies like "I'm ...


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Yes. In fact, "table manners" are a matter of circumstance, as anyone with a background in etiquette should tell you. It is not physically possible for you to conform to my manner of eating, so I would be obliged to either conform to yours, or to politely ignore yours, depending on the specific nature of the issue. For anyone beyond the confines of your ...


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I've been in your friends' position. The way the benevolent benefactor made me feel comfortable was to set bounds. Consider it from your friends' point of view. "He's invited me, but I know this stuff is expensive. I don't want to be a burden and then find out he thinks I overshot, me being a 'big eater' and all. Is it safe to get that dragon roll after ...


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In this case a simple... How was the restaurant? ... should work. Without saying which restaurant, if they haven't opened the box they'll be a little confused and ask "which restaurant?" At which point you can laugh and mention the gift card in the cocoa. If they seem embarrassed or anything, just laugh it off thank them again and tell them that you ...


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There are two possible situations of this kind. The first is, he got the ticket in the line of duty. E.g., he had to park in the "wrong place" to unload your furniture, and got a ticket as a result. The second was he got the ticket outside of the line of duty. He ran the traffic light on his own, with no need to, and no prompting from you. In the first ...


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As someone who works in technology as well, it seems like business cards proliferate like rabbits in Australia. Vendor reps expect to give out cards. They prospect for leads and don't expect that every card they give out will lead to a sale - they want you to know what they sell and maybe keep them in mind in case you need a service/product that they ...


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If you are the caller, it's required that you give your introductions unless they are known colleagues and relatives. From Phone Etiquette by Hiltmon: It is the caller’s responsibility to ensure the recipient knows exactly who is calling before jumping in to the conversation. However, if you are the receiver and the caller doesn't introduce himself/...


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