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Reddit has a lot of threads regarding this question. Generally, the most honest way to do this, according to what I've seen on that particular forum, is to gracefully say, "I'm sorry but this isn't working for me. Thank you for your time; I'll pay for drinks/dinner (whatever you have), and I hope your next date works out better for you than this one ...


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You can always say "I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me. Goodbye." At any time. That said though, it would usually be strange to say that so soon. The only reasons generally would be if the person is fundamentally not as they described themselves - physical characteristics, age or whatever - or if some other issue becomes apparent such as discovering ...


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As a person who dates, I would find it very rude if someone left after only 1-2 minutes. Most people need at least an hour to have any idea if they are compatible with someone, either in terms of long term partners, casual flings, or just being friends. Of course, there are exceptions to this rule, such as your date lying about their marital status. That ...


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This is based on dating for many years before meeting my wife, both people I met offline and online (although not via Tinder, that came after my dating days). Further I will assume that your date isn't your type, but is otherwise inoffensive. If your date turns out to be impolite, creepy, aggressive, or otherwise not behaving appropriately, you have every ...


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This answer is based upon the etiquette I've been taught and always heard since childhood. Its rule have been followed for decades by people I know/met, and I've seen it used in Western Europe countries (Belgium, France, Germany1). The Netherlands being so close to those countries, it might apply here too I believe2. So: sending greetings/Christmas cards ...


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I use dating apps quite a bit and this answer is based on my experience. You should finish the date, especially if it's only an hour long. They at least invested the time in coming out to meet you. I think it's rude to end it earlier if the other person is having a good time. If it's your first date, especially with someone you never met, I think it's clear ...


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There's no fixed standard for it; it depends on the people and their own preference. This website (in Dutch) identifies 3 different moments. The lower bound seems to be January 6th (the celebration of Driekoningen), the middle seems to be January 15th (two weeks) and the upper bound seems to be January 31st (because doing it in February is not done). So I ...


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To be honest, unless you are willing to be very rude, there is no way to terminate the date that early. But I'd wager that you are not setting your dates properly to begin with. I'll first give you the tips you are asking for, but please keep reading through the tips I think you actually need. The direct answers: You may tell the person you'll be a "...


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When I was a child I was forced to write greeting cards to my old relatives to wish them a happy New Year. I really disliked the thing all in all so I would postpone for as long as I could. My parents would say I have to send them before the 31st of January because otherwise it'd be rude and look like I had forgotten about them in the wishing well process. ...


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