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There's probably nothing you can do from so far away. I'm sorry. I know that is such a terrible thing to hear, but as long as your mother or father maintains autonomy over her medical treatment your only option really is to try and convince them of better options, like you asked about. Unfortunately, convincing an irrational person to listen to rational ...


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To clarify the analytical evaluation presented in this answer, I will introduce a summary of the main points, followed by my answer, to show that you can help by respecting your parents' intelligence; you present no indication of age-related mental decline. You appear to believe, based on your mother's denial of the moon-landing in 1969, that your parents ...


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When your mother says she is tired, she doesn't mean how most people use the word after a day's work. She means something like showering and getting dressed will wipe her out for the rest of the day. She is probably making a lot more effort than you realize in making her appointments. Also, you should realize that doctors don't always move as fast as you ...


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When talking with relatives with vastly different worldview I have found, that fact based discussion is almost impossible, because set of sources they consider trustworthy has little to no intersection with my trusted sources. What I do in this situation is to try to build empathy instead of engaging in discussion. For this I found stories and personal ...


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A couple of points to make: Firstly, this seems to be an issue of assertiveness. You're not sticking up for your boundaries - you're not comfortable saying no, even though you have every good reason to. Your privacy is important and you have every right to protect it. I really recommend reading "The Art of Everyday Assertiveness" by Patrick King, ...


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You don't say much about how you decline, yet this is key. Compare: We are all having a [event] dinner this weekend, you'll be there of course won't you? See you at 3! No, I won't be there, I'm busy. to Your sister is coming over this weekend. I think we'll have a bar be que. Are you joining us? I wish I could! Unfortunately I have 120 exam papers to ...


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