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Let me add my two cents, having been involved in an "in-laws situation" myself and in relation to how I deal with my sons-in-law. It's important to realize that your daughter and your son-in-law are now both individuals and also a unit. They can speak for themselves as individuals, but they can also speak for themselves as a unit. So, if one side of the ...


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Reconciling a broken relationship is a hard thing. I've tried that with other relationships not nearly as broken as yours, and there's a lot of baggage to deal with. Let's start with viewpoints: I don't read you were an active participant in this. However, I also don't read that you didn't refuse to take part in it. If I were your SIL, I'd lump you in ...


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I've been in the son-in-law's position. My prospective parents-in-law did not approve of me, though it was because of my age (I'm five years older than my husband, not a big deal now, but it was when he was twenty.) and my religion. I don't know what your son-in-law heard, but for me it was that my MIL called me his "little friend", and said "you know what ...


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If this happened more than once, then you should already have set up a specific conversation about it. Forget about "sending hints", especially if you do this only at the heat of the moment. If I liked to brag about my salary, I'd love if people asked me how much I make, but I would still send a hint implying that I don't like discussing the matter. This is ...


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I'm unfortunately quite familiar with embarrassing parents that refuse to stop partaking in a certain behavior or conversational tactic no matter how much you ask. In my case, my father would almost always insist on flirting with waitresses at restaurants we went to, even though he is significantly older than them and even when my mother is present. It was ...


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I'm guessing that the reason he does this is to brag. In a world where money sometimes gets confused with status, earning above average suggest a above average status. I'm making a small assumption that he uses that to show off. When I get asked how much I make (or in this case, when your father asks you to tell someone) I reply with a simple: "Enough :)"...


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Background My condolences on the loss of your mother-in-law, that is a very difficult situation. Something to note, everyone is grieving and may make even simple interactions more difficult (even if it has been months since the passing). It sounds like the eldest brother might feel like he needs to step up and try to fill the shoes of his parent. On top of ...


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I only have a partial answer. I'm not a parent, so I can talk about the parenting issue. However, I often have trouble expressing myself. When I'm talking to someone and the conversation gets heated, I lose my words and I'm unable to clearly express myself anymore. I also have the same issue when I have to talk in a situation that I find stressful. Like ...


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