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You have a valid problem. Possibly your family does not realize how they are inconveniencing you. Most likely your mother loves having you over so much that any excuse will suffice. At some point you will have to choose between being the ever-obliging child and taking a stand as an adult. There is no disrespect in having a conversation with your mother ...


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Just say no. Don't explain why. Don't offer other solutions to the problem she claims to have. Don't get emotional or rude. Simply say "no" as directly as you can. Anything like "I'm not going to do that" or"that's not going to happen" is fine. Use your tone to make it gentle and respectful. If she interrupted something you were doing to make her demand, ...


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This is a case where there is no way of entirely avoiding hurt feelings-- no matter how soft and tactful you are about it, the message your mother will receive is "I'm just not that close to you." It seems like that's accurate and true, but it will certainly make her feel bad. You can soften or delay the realization to some extent, but sooner or later she'...


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It's just a little kiss. Unfortunately for you, there's no way to say no to your mother without her having a meltdown. If your relationship has reached a point where kissing is off the table, then you know exactly how she will react. "If someone can't accept your no, then you know the person is probably not a true friend or doesn't respect you. Stand ...


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I'm sorry that you are having to deal with a family that doesn't treat you with the level of respect that you wish they would. The difficult reality is that we can't change how others treat us and many times it is difficult for people to change how they treat us even after a long time has passed. This is especially true of family who saw you as a child for ...


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There are two very different issues here in terms of your family and friends accepting your desire to have things a certain and specific way. Imagine that you're in the kitchen, you do something involving the water jar, and then you put it next to the kettle. You're feeling pleased that everything is in its place, and then suddenly someone is there teasing ...


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I've asked him many times if he has a life plan or goals but he only gets angry and doesn't answer me... but I did assume my responsibilities because I knew they were mine... First of all, what makes you assume it's your responsibility? It's not your or anybody else's responsibility to change him. Actually no one is responsible for changing other people in ...


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This is a difficult situation to tackle. I had similar problems with one of my friends. The most important thing is that you do not show your brother that you are frustrated from him. I know you must be very annoyed by his unchanging behavior but if you want him to change, you'll have to have a relationship with him that can inspire change. Why would he give ...


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First off all - there is no "soft" way. You cannot really make people feel how you think they would think if you said things in certain way (as you can see even the sentence is wibbly-woobly). In other words - there might be no way to hurt her feelings less. What I tried is just "stop" hand gesture while saying: "what would be no from me". And I've made it ...


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