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When talking with relatives with vastly different worldview I have found, that fact based discussion is almost impossible, because set of sources they consider trustworthy has little to no intersection with my trusted sources. What I do in this situation is to try to build empathy instead of engaging in discussion. For this I found stories and personal ...


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You don't say much about how you decline, yet this is key. Compare: We are all having a [event] dinner this weekend, you'll be there of course won't you? See you at 3! No, I won't be there, I'm busy. to Your sister is coming over this weekend. I think we'll have a bar be que. Are you joining us? I wish I could! Unfortunately I have 120 exam papers to ...


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Several things here: I am sincerely sorry for you and your mother. It exists supports groups you may want to make contact with them. A patient that is well informed and has all his/her cognitive abilities is the only one to judge if he/she wants to follow a treatment and how. This is actually the Law. Secondly, you appear to believe that her disease may be ...


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When your mother says she is tired, she doesn't mean how most people use the word after a day's work. She means something like showering and getting dressed will wipe her out for the rest of the day. She is probably making a lot more effort than you realize in making her appointments. Also, you should realize that doctors don't always move as fast as you ...


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There's probably nothing you can do from so far away. I'm sorry. I know that is such a terrible thing to hear, but as long as your mother or father maintains autonomy over her medical treatment your only option really is to try and convince them of better options, like you asked about. Unfortunately, convincing an irrational person to listen to rational ...


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To clarify the analytical evaluation presented in this answer, I will introduce a summary of the main points, followed by my answer, to show that you can help by respecting your parents' intelligence; you present no indication of age-related mental decline. You appear to believe, based on your mother's denial of the moon-landing in 1969, that your parents ...


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A couple of points to make: Firstly, this seems to be an issue of assertiveness. You're not sticking up for your boundaries - you're not comfortable saying no, even though you have every good reason to. Your privacy is important and you have every right to protect it. I really recommend reading "The Art of Everyday Assertiveness" by Patrick King, ...


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Everyone has a different expectation of what constitutes a satisfactory answer to any given question he asks, even that question is as straightforward and simple as what 1 + 1 equals. That is due to the fact that there are certain subjective presumptions of prior knowledge inherent in both the question and in any attempted answer that are by no means ...


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People like this, in my experience, like to pick away and have little to no sense of boundaries. They want what they want, and other people are there to provide it for them. I've seen other people teach boundaries by being firm yet polite. You don't need to be hostile to her, but you do need to establish what you are willing to talk about and end a ...


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