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How do I tell someone I recently met that I am in a relationship?
Undoubtedly you and Susan talk about things that are not related to work. Assume that the conversation goes on about a popular band that is touring. You could simply say:
Oh, I would love to take ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?
So, I also saw that research once in a training, and I think that one of the reasons why your strategy is not working might be related to a misinterpretation of
...specifically that men do not ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?
I think that the major reason your strategy isn't producing the results you want is because you've overinterpreted a very precise piece of information, and have based your entire approach around that ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?
Given the constraints you've laid out in your question, you can't.
You want to be seen (roughly) as a peer to these students, but also want them to treat you as a professional that is off-limits for ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?
It's been a while since I've dated, but I've been married for quite a while. So maybe I might have some insight here.
When I'm on a date with my wife, I want to be her focus - and she wants to be ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
If possible, something should be done while it is happening.
Move. If you are sitting, ask him to get a you drink (or some other request that will allow you both to move). Then, while he gets up and ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?
Note: I am answering as a teacher, now teaching in a high school. In the past, when I was teaching assistant at university, I have been in the situation where students were trying to flirt with me. I ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?
I'm on the spectrum myself, and I understand that dating can be quite the challenge. I've had a fair bit of success with it (I'm now married), so I've got a few tips that can help you out.
Why your ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
Ideally you want to have conversations about this subject before it happens. Realistically, unless you want an awkward situation in the moment, you need to clarify expectations in advance.
Talk with ...
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Why do people flirt in customer service situations?
The very first comment got it right:
Some people just enjoy flirting. That's probably the extent of it for some people. – curiousdannii
It is simply a 'feel good' activity and apparently ...
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How to start a conversation with an introvert/nerdy classmate?
Your approach might work if she has noticed you and is also interested in you. However, if she hasn't noticed you or she's noticed and isn't interested, then such a blunt approach is likely to make ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
Apart from the aforementioned discussion with your partner, a very simple, subtle, non-confrontational approach is to ask for an introduction.
Something along the lines of:
"Hey, honey¹ why don't ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
There are good answers here already about how to directly either get out of that situation or address the issue with your partner, but I'm going to take a different approach and suggest a shift in ...
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How do I tell someone I recently met that I am in a relationship?
The trick here is to discourage her without harming the work relationship.
I would suggest you continue being polite to Susan, but make sure to passively communicate a lack of interest:
If she ...
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How do I deal with people being overly forward on the bus?
The thing is, the type of people who ignore clear signals are not interested in playing by the rules. It's a power move: they're leveraging your uncomfortableness and reluctance to cause conflict in ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?
I have found in my dating and married life, as well as with friends and family, that everyone is different.
We do not need to generalize men as non-talkers and women as talkers that make them ...
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Why is this random act of kindness considered offensive flirting?
Offering help with ulterior romantic motive is usually fine, provided the intent is clear and the recipient has the option of turning down said help. If both conditions are met, I could see the offer ...
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How to get to know a service staff without interrupting her work?
You have a simple way of meeting her outside her working hours.
A friend of the friends I was with there knows this girl quite well.
Here's the key! First of all, work to get better acquainted ...
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How to communicate that you are not flirting with someone
There is no good time to communicate verbally that you are not flirting with them. However, from the start you should use your paraverbal, nonverbal, and situational to communicate that you are not ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?
Your best non-offensive way to answer that type of stuff is a smile with a deflecting comment like, "Hey, that's not robotics!" and start talking about something else without answering the question.
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How to get to know a service staff without interrupting her work?
How to get to know a service staff without interrupting her work?
You can't. Getting to know someone via socializing/talking, etc, at any meaningful level beyond just client-customer, is something ...
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How to communicate I'm not interested in any relationship other than friendship?
How to make it clear you're interested in friendship only
One option, as you point out, is to have a frank conversation with him. As much as I am a general advocate for candor, that may not be the ...
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How do I tactfully get clarity about maybe-flirtatious behavior?
There are two possible underlying truths:
she is flirting with you (but might not even know it, and certainly might not be willing to say it)
she is not flirting with you
You have identified two ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?
An important point especially pertinent to the first several dates is that the goal should be to try to get know each other so that you can both decide whether to continue to pursue the relationship. ...
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Why do people flirt in customer service situations?
I do what works. I am a pretty good read with people. With men, if I think it will garner me more expeditious response, then I will flirt if I think it will help. Other times I might be a raging ...
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How can women avoid talking during dates while keeping men at ease?
You're dating without a purpose. Stop.
As you mention in a comment, you're not sure why you're going on dates, just that you're supposed to. This is where you are coming undone. You have no aim, so ...
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Reassuring my wife being jealous of my close female friend
My undestanding of the situation is two-fold :
You apparently displayed many (more ?) signs of affection/interest at Diana than your wife (whatever the reasons).
Your wife resents such signs, reacts ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?
Warning: I never was in a similar situation before. But I had to deal with comment or question that were making me uncomfortable. So, here is what I suggest doing:
Wait for the thing that makes you ...
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