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I have found in my personal experience that you will likely do more harm to your friendship than help to your friend, in this case. No matter how good a friend you think B is, you should not intervene unless you think she is in some kind of danger. It is more likely B will believe whatever C says anyway - because people in love tend to do that in my ...


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I was admittedly more often Bob-like than on your side of the problem but this is what helped me, also when facing the problem myself: Address a single occurrence on the spot Prepare yourself, stay alert in wait for the next idiom and then casually say something along those lines: I had to go but my boss was really holding my feet to the fire so I... ...


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Given that this question was asked nearly two years ago, I assume you've already taken some sort of action. However, I have been on the other side of an eerily similar situation about seven years ago, so perhaps I can provide some insight into how your friend may (have) respond(ed) to the apology. Note that my situation is idiosyncratic, just like all ...


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I've noticed, in regards to how others react to me, how others react to each other, and how I react to others, abrasiveness is frequently just a matter of sounding annoyed. I mention this, because without your vocal tone, what you wrote sounds fine to me, and apparently to dhein. I've previously had issues with this myself. It doesn't really matter if I'm ...


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I strongly disagree with the accepted answer. I have a few friends who tend to get involved with "bad" people. This is how I handle it. If they are not together: I address my concerns. In your case I would have said something like: Dear B, from my perspective it seems like getting together with C might not be a good idea. I think this because he ...


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As mentioned in comments, there is nothing wrong in asking for explanation about what he means and you can also can tell him to stop talking to you that way. Approach him and say it as you want, but, say it. Maybe it's not related, but, you can also ask him why he talks to you like that (perhaps he learned from a book, a video, or it's the way he was ...


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Manage your expectations You claim that she's not putting in enough effort into the friendship, but that hardly seems true, because you talk on instant messenger on a weekly basis, so clearly she still wants to be friends. You, however, seem to expect the same type of closeness as you had before you moved, when you lived in the exact same town. That's an ...


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You could take St. Thomas More's tack in A Man for All Seasons: To me [your music] seemed delightful. ... I should in fairness add that my taste in music is reputedly deplorable. Not, of course, in those words, but something along those lines: Sorry, I'm not the reader you're looking for. Your poetry is probably delightful but it doesn't strike a chord ...


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