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Fact : (Supercell) generated earnings before taxes and other items of $1 billion, up from $897 million a year earlier. That’s an enormous profit for a company with just 213 employees and only four games on the market. First, a bit of background reading: Compulsion loop (in game design) Why Mobile Games Make You Their Slave and You Pay for the Privilege ...


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I agree with a bunch of the answers, but here are my two cents. My money is on the problem stemming from the fact that she's unemployed. Back when I had a severe video-game dependency (namely RuneScape) I was a dropout from university, and I was using it as a way to cope with my problem. I had no aspirations, no wants, was socially isolated, depressed and un-...


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I would approach this not as a "waste of effort" but as an "opportunity for new things". Your dungeon master has been enjoying writing an interactive story for you guys for 2 years already which by no means is lost effort. You guys have been immersed into his story and been enjoying it so much that even though you're tired of your current character you ...


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I've been a bad loser. I've thrown tantrums like you describe your girlfriend does. I have recovered (reasonably), but it took me years. Your girlfriend may have different variables during her recovery, so it may take longer or shorter, but it will far from instant. This is something you can't solve for your girlfriend. She has to learn to accept that ...


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Then don't kill the character. Just have them "retire". The character buys a farm/tavern/smithy and settles down. Or perhaps the character goes off on a vision quest. The nice thing about this is that if the DM really is attached to the character, its still available for the DM to use as an NPC, if the DM can think of a good story reason to have that happen....


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Try cooperative board games where you have to work together to win instead of competing against each other. I personally recommend Forbidden Island and Arkham Horror. Background: My wife has similar temper tantrums when she loses and I have to throw the game for her to feel better. She tells me this is because sometimes (more like always) she just wants to ...


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Try and think why she might behave this way. Everybody thinks differently and not everyone finds enjoyment in the same things. I think perhaps the thing some people don't enjoy about board games and card games is that, while there is a small amount of "skill" in understanding the rules and strategies, they are mostly dependent on random chance - the order ...


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Why not invite more people to play? Having 4 players instead of 2 means even if she's 2nd or 3rd, she still wins over the last one. The result would depend on whether she wants to win over someone, or finish first though... If the 3 other players are having fun, she will feel more pressure to not leave and spoil the game (ie, exploit peer pressure). ...


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When something starts to interfere with your life, no doubt about it, it is an unhealthy addiction. There are several possibilities here and it may not be as serious as you think. She may not realise how it is impacting her (and your) life. So start small. Just say tell her how you feel about it. Perhaps say: Have you thought about how much of a hold ...


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Short answer: Ask :) If it is a concern for you, simply ask the person who suggested it what the stakes would be. Something like: Hey, I quite like the idea of us all playing poker, but I'd really rather not play for actual money. If you're just planning to play with plastic chips then I'd be happy to join in. Otherwise, I'm just not comfortable ...


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No matter what kind of game you play, any stakes higher than zero change the nature of the game. If you play for virtual points, it's no more than a freetime activity. You can play to win, but your reward is no more than the knowledge that you won. You can play very casually as well with no true regards towards who wins. You can play for the sake of playing ...


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Addiction often takes root in something deeper. Maybe she feels socially isolated. Maybe she is desperate for attention, or depressed, or feels like her life lacks meaning, feels like there's nothing better to do than "wait it out", or is just stressed out. You mention she doesn't work - why is that? Does she have trouble finding work? Does she find work ...


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There isn't anything that can completely solve your issue as it just comes down to personality. Some people just don't take losing well. Except for the already suggested Co-Op games that should work well because you are not competing with each other I would suggest getting some more Euro Style* games where there are multiple strategies for victory and it ...


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(Warning: anecdotal response incoming) I have been "addicted" to many, many (oh my god, far too many) games. Runescape, Candy Crush, Madden Mobile, Clash of Clans... If you can think of a game, I've probably had an unhealthy relationship with it. Even Cookie Clicker had me playing several hours a day for a few months. Here are a few insights I've picked up ...


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Golf has a handicap system to allow players of different levels to have fun together. I don't play golf, so I don't exactly know how it works, but I believe a similar system could work in your case. For example, in a card game you could begin with less cards, or be allowed one card less than the others, or not use certain cards. Or have less max health ...


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This is not a waste. The time they spent on including the character in their world was not a waste. Why? You had a good time playing them so far (I assume). This character is a part of that world's history and always will be. If they die, their death will become part of the history as well. It is likely they have been a hero and that there are people who ...


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Unfortunately it is becoming the norm for children (and adults) to spend a substantial amount of time using phones, tablets,...etc. What you can do to help your sister is to invite her to participate with you in any real world activities that you do. You will build a better bond with her, and at least temporarily keep her away from the electronic devices.


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Sit everyone down and talk it through. Some friends and I like to play Settlers of Catan from time to time. There used to be maybe eight or nine of us, and given that the game's for up to four (or six, with an expansion pack), only about half of us get together to play at any given time. That means that there are sometimes inconsistencies in how minor rules ...


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Focus on the positive Board games often have many dimensions and someone may be ahead in one (or a few) dimensions, while being behind in others. For example, you may have a lot of "points", which may be how the game is ultimately scored, but she has plenty of "resources", which can be used to gain "points" in the long term (...


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Maybe poker etiquette varies or something, but where I come from (United States, Florida) the question "What's the stakes?" is pretty much the standard question you ask as you go up to the table. If they just point to the chips, you ask: "Real money or just in fun?" Suggest other stakes besides money. In a place where everyone has to live and exist, stakes ...


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As I mentioned in the comments elsewhere, it could be that you need to spend some time investigating other types of games. Perhaps your SO feels that the games you are playing are tailored more towards your own particular strengths, and so it's not that she is particularly bad, but that she has a natural disadvantage before the game even begins. As an ...


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Games are addictive and that is bad, every gamer above the age of 13 should know this. But if you are honest with yourself how would you react if someone says to you: "Stop this game, I don't like it and you are spending to much time on it." no matter how you wrap it up. Thats not how your mom got you to stop playing games when you where younger. I think ...


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You know game nights are fun when people keep coming back As someone who has been on both sides of the situation, I think you are thinking about it too much. Don't worry about, your friends wouldn't have played with you this long if your winning a lot bothered them so much. I played Counter Strike with a group of friends back in the day and we had this ...


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Your fiancée is filling her needs with the game. Her brain has found that it is easy and reliable to fill them with it. These needs are: Certainty Variety significance Love/Connection Growth Contribution I explained them in more detail here. It might not be the end all and be all of models, but so far it has worked quite nicely. So, in order to take ...


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If she is a fan of sports, find a game where her favorite team overcomes a very big deficit. Her: There is no sense in playing, it's over anyway. You: Did the Patriots quit when they were losing by 28 points? No, they keep playing and won the super bowl. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=016LXFHpFCk Or something like this: https://www.youtube.com/...


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Lots of good answers here already, but I wanted to add one thing I didn't see: Re-emphasize game elements other than winning It's frustrating to try to play a strong game and then fall short (my friends and I had to institute an "it's fun to win" rule so that the person who was clearly going to win games of Risk could actually do so). But winning and ...


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I have no experience with minecraft but I have been (am?) a moderater for an OpenTTD community. Dealing with toxic players is hard and there's really no right way to handle all cases of toxic behaviour. Our general rule of thumb was to first talk to the player. Try to understand why he's being toxic and see if you can easily talk him out of it. If they got ...


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I don't have experience with running a game server specifically, but since being a StackExchange moderator I've learned some tips for dealing with problematic users (both from direct experience on this site, and from hearing how mods on other sites handled issues). Step 0 is always: when in doubt, talk to the other mods. You all need to be on the same page ...


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If she really has an addiction, you should seek professional help. Addiction is a very serious disease, it cannot be fixed with a power of will or any kind of "distractions", meditation, etc. (But certainly these things can help, if used along with psychotherapy.) Maybe there are some self-help groups for gaming addicts, similar to those using the 12 step ...


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