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How can I ensure people know 'What happens on the pitch stays on the pitch"

You can't. "What happens on the pitch stays on the pitch" is your opinion, but not theirs. If this guy doesn't like what you say on the pitch and is offended by it, your choices are: Remove him ...
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How to interrupt someone while they are telling a group wrong/embarrassing information?

In this particular case, John is speaking in public. You see that he is going to embarrass himself tremendously. You want to keep the embarrassment to a minimum. And you don't have the luxury of ...
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How to interrupt someone while they are telling a group wrong/embarrassing information?

If it was me, I might say something like, John, you bring up an excellent point. Calling it a 'Mom's Room' is kind of confusing. But calling it a 'Breast Pumping Room' sounds kind of awkward....
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How to interrupt someone while they are telling a group wrong/embarrassing information?

Honestly, when someone is dumb enough to jump in to complain about something they know nothing about, embarrassment can't be avoided. In this particular case, John's blunder could have been ...
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How to Encourage a Volunteer Group to be Timely?

Start at precisely the agreed time and only very briefly pause the discussion to welcome late-comers. They are the ones who broke a promise, it is only right if they feel a bit awkward (and not you). ...
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How to leave when I'm not part of the conversation?

I know that situation pretty well. While I'm not particularly introverted, I do tend to keep my mouth shut when I have nothing in particular to say in a situation (especially after sports, as in your ...
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How can I ensure people know 'What happens on the pitch stays on the pitch"

I've been playing for over 40 years now (since 1976), and have been on a lot of teams. I'd like to think I've learned a thing or two about inter-personal skills within a soccer team. So here's what I ...
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Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name

So you have two names that you respond to. One of which is your legal, given name. And the other which is something your friends call you. It sounds like you have a nickname. From the OED, a nickname ...
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How should I handle the "loudest" voice in a group project?

In most any organization 10% of the people do 90% of the work... Sometimes taking a "management role" is a way to get away with that. Sometimes these people feel like they're "natural leaders." a ...
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How do I diplomatically get someone to hurry up and make a trivial decision?

Oof, this I can relate to. My friends and I are planning a trip to a big city in the midwest and we had two people who had been "maybe's" for 4 months. I'd been bugging them once every few ...
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How do I diplomatically get someone to hurry up and make a trivial decision?

At decision time Since this is the core of the question I'm putting my advice to it first. I have very little patience for this sort of behavior, so when it's time to go out/start the game/initiate ...
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Raising the stakes in a game without sounding eager or greedy

No matter what kind of game you play, any stakes higher than zero change the nature of the game. If you play for virtual points, it's no more than a freetime activity. You can play to win, but your ...
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Get team member to participate in project

You write in your comment: From my experience with this teacher, frankly said: he sucks! I really doubt that he is gonna do anything. I bet he tells us to deal with it ourselfs OK, then I'm going ...
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How can I ensure people know 'What happens on the pitch stays on the pitch"

A sports field is not a magical consequence-free universe separated from reality, although many would have it so. Harassment whether it is verbal or physical is just as unacceptable there as at the ...
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How to Encourage a Volunteer Group to be Timely?

By appeasing their lateness you are sending out a clear signal that being late is okay. Stop doing that. It's not too late now but from day one you should have enacted repercussions to the tune of: ...
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How do I stop people from expecting me to reply to SMS messages?

Be honest about the cost and approach it with a desire for mutual problem-solving. Say something like: I actually have to pay for every message, so I try to save those for urgent stuff. I can use ...
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How can I ensure people know 'What happens on the pitch stays on the pitch"

When I played at (an all-boys) school a teacher (a.k.a. "games master") might shout things like "come on, you old woman!" to spur us on. That kind of exhortation could be socially offensive though, e....
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How to enter a group conversation with relative strangers?

The first time I did a networking event, I did not know what to do. So I just stood somewhere alone in an empty space. That of course, was not the right approach. Luckily, this was an event where ...
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How to make a new trainee feel comfortable at lunch?

I can definitely relate to how the trainee feels. I too get very quiet when I'm in a larger group that I'm fairly new to. There are a few reasons for this: There's an inherent discomfort around new ...
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How can I jump into a fast-moving group conversation?

I am a very loud speaker and I sometimes have the same issue. This usually happens when I'm not really part of the group. When I am "the stranger". However, this also tends to happen when ...
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What to do when a group conversation is not interesting?

Try to learn a bit about these subjects for future conversations. I go to a liberal arts college, which basically means that it's a small school with a lot of people who like to talk about a lot of ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?

I can often be shy in social situations. One thing that helps when I lead meetings is to ask myself, "What would I wish the organizer would do in this situation?" You're not putting yourself out there ...
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How to interrupt someone while they are telling a group wrong/embarrassing information?

For your example of "someone getting something technical wrong": Most of the time technical mistakes are irrelevant to the conversation, and no one else even realizes there's a mistake. Since you ...
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How can I politely ask someone to blow their nose in public?

From the perspective of someone with allergies: I'm usually acutely aware of my sniffling, so it can be mildly embarrassing and annoying when someone mentions it. So I'm glad you're being mindful of ...
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How to approach talking to a group of girls as a guy without being awkward?

A male injecting himself into a group of girls and trying to join the conversation is often awkward. There is a fair chance that they are talking about "girl things" and you'll be seen as an outsider. ...
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Declining to do exercises I think are unsafe without making a scene

Stretches are meant to have an effect, it is unlikely to not feel anything. You surely find information about that somewhere on the internet, perhaps with more details to what you should feel with a ...
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Declining to do exercises I think are unsafe without making a scene

Every exercise class I've ever been in as an adult, the instructor has given out alternatives. For example, if we have a station that is pushups, she'll demo the full pushup, then show doing it on ...
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How should I handle the "loudest" voice in a group project?

There's more in 2 brains than in 1. So, you can (and always should) listen to anyone willing to improve for group's sake. Do you have to stick to what they unilaterally decide? I don't think so... ...
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