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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?
If you don't want to discourage someone sharing an article, but you want to point out that it's a hoax, you should:
Start by saying something positive about the article or thank the person for ...
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How to say "I'm an adult now" to my parents?
My point of view is a mix of one time rebellious youth and then a parent's point of view....
Your parents will always be your parents, and parenting doesn't end when you come of age. To some degree ...
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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?
This has actually been a pretty big problem in the US over the last few years... People see something they really like or really hate and share it. It happens so much that many people have trouble ...
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How to console grandmother who is sick because of age?
I remember, as a Westerner, listening to a radio show about dealing with an elderly, dying relative in China, and thinking about how very, very foreign it all was to me. Please know that I speak only ...
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How to break bad news about the death of a family member to the family?
The following advice applies to just about any culture, but it is particularly good for an Asian culture because of its strong family orientation. (I am Asian American.)
Basically, you and others are ...
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How to say "I'm an adult now" to my parents?
In my experience, people tell other people the reasons for disagreeing because they believe the other person still gets a vote. If a complete stranger came to you and said "stop jiggling your foot ...
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How to console grandmother who is sick because of age?
I've been dealing with these issues for my (90-something) parents.
The most important, and necessary thing (which you have been supplying), is your presence. That is more important than words.
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Is it okay to point out someone's keeping quiet in a discussion/meeting?
I used to run some work meetings and attended many others that were run by other departments as well. We had many types, but all fell into the 2 categories you described, some were what we called "...
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Is it okay to point out someone's keeping quiet in a discussion/meeting?
In my opinion "forcing" someone to participate is not the right thing to do.
Someone who isn't "contributing" may be taking it all in, mentally summing up, and just waiting for the right time to ...
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How to start a conversation with an important person?
When you don't know anything about a person, you have a conversation with them by asking them things:
How many people work for you?
How long have you been in the police force?
What is it like being a ...
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How to help a friend that is suddenly socially withdrawn?
You can't force them to do what they don't want to do. What you can do is make yourself available for when they are interested in social activities in your friend group.
They might have some sort of ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?
I can often be shy in social situations. One thing that helps when I lead meetings is to ask myself, "What would I wish the organizer would do in this situation?" You're not putting yourself out there ...
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How to say "I'm an adult now" to my parents?
Immediately upon reading your post I was sure it was coming from an Asian household. Since you are at this age and they still treat you like a child, there is nothing you can say or do that will make ...
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How to address a friend's misunderstanding of an intention?
My approach to this situation would be honest, if I offer someone a mint and they say they think it is because their breath smells I would say something along the lines of
"Not really, I am just ...
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How to help a friend that is suddenly socially withdrawn?
If your friend simply wants to spend some time alone then that is fine and acceptable behaviour.
If they have a mental health issue, or a personal issue that they don't want to talk about then that ...
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When is replying a chat with "thanks", "OK", appropriate?
Personally, this would somewhat bother me in a case of a longer gap between messages. So what I do instead is thank a person right away:
– Hey, do you have Bob's number? Thanks.
– Here: +x xxx ...
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How to handle first encounter with a disabled person?
How to handle the encounter with the disabled in this situation?
Well, first greet them as you do to other people. They are maybe differently-abled people, but still they're people like others and ...
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Invited to a wedding, but didn't get an invitation, what should I do?
I'm not familiar with Indonesian weddings, but since you're asking in general, I'm giving you my Indian perspective, which is sort of relevant to Indonesian as well.
It's unfortunate that you missed ...
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How can I explain my reduced social activity when depression is stigmatised?
Most people should understand that we all have different capacities for social interactions. Some people love being with other people, other people a little less so. Some people are extroverts, others ...
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How to refuse someone asking for additional help "while you're at it"?
Based on your answer to my comment, you could just tell your friend very politely something like,
Hey, I was looking forward to just chilling with you after finishing {task 1}
and I'd really ...
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How to politely deal with a friend who asks for a favor and brings up favors I asked previously?
There are two reasons a person would mention previous favours while asking you for one that you are not agreeing to.
they see these things as transactional: I have helped you x times, you have only ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?
In a group of introverts, a good solution is to offer online/paper feedback options to everyone. Freeform, or multiple choice, as appropriate.
Also, ask people if they would feel more comfortable if ...
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Is it okay to point out someone's keeping quiet in a discussion/meeting?
I've often found myself not speaking up in many meetings because 1) the active participants don't leave enough room between expressions and 2) I don't believe the thoughts I'm having are very ...
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How do I say "no" to an ill friend who wants to leave hospital?
Consider the possibility that their main motivation was an addiction to either alcohol or a specific med, which they can pick up in their house but not in the hospital; and much of this is withdrawal ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?
One thing that I've noticed is that if two or more "shy" people get together, the least shy person tends to step forward and take the lead.
You appear to be the "least" shy person in the group. So ...
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How to start a conversation with an important person?
I am writing as an Asian-American, so I know something about "Asian." although nothing about "Javanese."
I disagree with another poster who advised talking about "current events." Those, and a ...
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Is it okay to point out someone's keeping quiet in a discussion/meeting?
Normally, it's a good idea to be "inclusive." But there are times when people don't want to be included. They may be shy about expressing themselves, or whatever.
There are times (critical ones) when ...
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How to communicate in a training to ensure small details done?
That's a tricky situation to be in. I was in your shoes, supervising 30 to 40, all volunteer helpers, following Hurricane Andrew in South Florida. (1989/1990?)
What I found most effective was to ...
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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?
Question, then show and question, then state it plainly
The best way to make someone retract a statement if they themselves are made to examine it and then reach the conclusion.
So first: ask.
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