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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

No one likes to be ignored, but with digital media, that's unfortunately something you will have to get used to. People often read messages pretty quickly but do not always have the time to ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

You can't expect people to answer you right away when you send them a written message. They might be busy, they might be too tired to answer, they might haven't taken any decision yet and so one. ...
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I sent an interesting link to a friend that he didn't ask for at all, and he replied with "thank you" - what should I reply?

Nothing You did something that you thought he might like. He thanked you for it (either because he liked it or because he just wanted to be polite). Unless you want to initiate chit-chat for some ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

Just because it is called "instant message" doesn't mean you get an instant reply. There are countless reasons why someone may not respond to a message. They might be driving, at work/school, or ...
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I sent an interesting link to a friend that he didn't ask for at all, and he replied with "thank you" - what should I reply?

I think you're overthinking this a little, they're thankful for what you sent them. A simple "you're welcome" would suffice, but if you want to carry the conversation on, you could say something like: ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

Ignoring IM's is part of proper use, start doing it, too. View ignoring of instant messages (IM's) positively. Some more determined people are ignoring IM's intentionally as part of their personal ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

You give them a call. Email, IM, text messages are asynchronous media. You can't expect people to drop what they are doing to answer you. Read / Received receipts mean the message was delivered and (...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

The fact he read your message doesn't imply that he has to reply. I know this might sound rude, but it's perfectly fine to not answer when someone you barely know sends you a message. There are ...
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Can I quote a private message in a public post?

The person who sent you the message could have posted publicly and instead chose to send it privately. Even if you think there's no privileged information and the sender shouldn't be concerned, that'...
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Guy I met very briefly won't stop messaging me

Ya... Sounds like Asperger's/autism. Let me tell you about my very specific interest at great length, over and over again. I know, because I fight the urge to do it. The easiest way would be to "...
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How can I continue a conversation in an old, unreplied message thread?

I am also bad about this. I have a smartwatch that will frequently mark messages as "read" and I won't see them until much later. I have found that typically I can just say: Wow! I am so sorry - ...
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Can we use abbreviations in professional communication?

Is it good to use the abbreviation words in my professional communication? It's not, unless you're using it multiple times. When writing professional documents, you should always remain that way. ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

How can I set boundaries to let people know I expect a reply, even if it's like "I don't feel like doing this anymore"? Boundaries are supposed to protect what is precious to you. You first need to ...
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Message being seen but not responded, what is the correct response?

I often forget to answer such meaningless messages. It's not personal. I have probably read the message while I was busy, maybe at work, maybe shopping, maybe talking to someone else. I put my phone ...
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Message being seen but not responded, what is the correct response?

There is tons of reason why the message is marked as read but you did not get a response. One of the reason is as Rory Alsop mentioned in the comment. Perhaps your friend is being busy at that moment ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

TL;DR The "instant" in instant messaging is a horrible misnomer. It isn't instant, and it's frustrating to expect it to be so. It engenders confusion in reasonable people. Longer "Instant" ...
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How to react to accidentally calling someone the wrong name

TL;DR A quick and honest apology has worked best in my experience Amount of apology is case-by-case, person and context dependent Some self deprecating humor goes a long way towards dispelling ...
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Can we use abbreviations in professional communication?

The simple answer is, that it varies. Here's what I'd consider: The communication medium If you're using Skype (assuming the instant message component, rather than video chat) there's less ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

I would suggest following up with information on why a reply is important. Thinking about why you need a reply will help you deal with delays in messages. What is the name of the website? [...
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Message being seen but not responded, what is the correct response?

I faced the same situation. What I did that time is I don't bother him/her to reply. Let him/her take his time to calm them down. Then I think instead of asking that what I did wrong (because this ...
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Can we use abbreviations in professional communication?

Is it good to use the abbreviation words in my professional communication? With peer, unformal communication, it's, most of the time, fine, so : YES / PROBABLY (*) With peer, for the record, better ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

I've read all the other answers and I don't think they're great advice. (No offense.) This is IPS but also general business. You need to keep that in mind as you approach it. In this situation Be ...
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How can I politely point out to a non-native English speaker that they have used the wrong word?

In the case of a non-native English speaker using an incorrect word that is not particularly close to the intended word (whether I understood the intended meaning or not), I typically ask something ...
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How do I respond to my doctor's message in which she mentions she's doing voluntary work?

I exchange a LOT of emails (and skypes etc) with people I don't know well, to set up times for things, and sometimes mention personal reasons for rejecting a particular time. I am never offended if ...
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What should I take into consideration when resuming conversations online after an extended lack of contact?

Online friendships are surprisingly resistant to downtime. Unless you've left the person "on read" when they were expecting a follow up from you, chances are they won't think you've ghosted them at ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?

I have a personal ranking of interaction and with each step down I assume that the answer my be delayed: face to face videocall phone call IM mail snail mail This helps to set expectations for the ...
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I sent an interesting link to a friend that he didn't ask for at all, and he replied with "thank you" - what should I reply?

In addition to the other great answers, I feel like I should bring up a relatively new phenomena on the internet. For the purposes of an easy-to-understand explanation, I'll use a frequent example ...
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How to save face and apologize after a text was taken the wrong way?

Interpersonal skills are the behaviors people use to interact well. You're blocked, that's the other person putting up a boundary. Respecting that boundary is the interpersonal skill that you could ...
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How to tell a parent to stop spamming?

I don't think you can tell your father "please stop spamming me" without hurting his feelings. However, it's probably possible to not hurt those feelings too much if you tell him something ...
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Message being seen but not responded, what is the correct response?

You may be making a mountain out of a mole hill. It's just a (chat/text/etc) message, especially if it's "how their day was" that's not usually a vitally important question, so answering it probably ...
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