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First off, I think you misunderstood the 'theory' part of social penetration theory. It's a theory researchers use to describe the development of friendships, instead of a method to follow for making friendships: Social Penetration Theory explains these differences in communication in relation to the depth of interpersonal relationships. Developed in 1973 ...


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What is this theory? What exactly does it theorize? A theory, posing that depression and excessive reassurance seeking leads to interpersonal problems. It is nothing more than a framework used to study the interpersonal aspects of depression: How a depression influences the interpersonal interactions between a depressed person and the people they interact ...


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Depression often leads to a lack of self-confidence. Though there is a human tendency to seek attention, prove our worthiness and get accepted by society, a lack of self-confidence leads people to ask if they're worthy and can be accepted. Those who are depressed often ask for worthiness and acceptance from their social relationships in order to alleviate ...


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Depression is a major subject and also a somewhat broad term. It is estimated that 1 in 6 individuals in modern western civilizations suffer from it over their lifetime in such a way that it (severely) affects their functioning. It includes major depressive disorder (single episode or recurrent), dysthymia (chronic depressive mood which may include ...


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Even if you have the best intent in the world, using social strategies from theories could cause blowback, as people may be aware of what you're doing. Think criticism sandwich. People who know what this is (manipulation) don't fall for it. Same is true for Social Penetration Theory. We're always better off by gauging the relationship and the person and ...


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I can't speak to any particular research or study about this dynamic (I'm not even sure how that would be studied), but I can try to give you insight into what happened, and ways to handle that situation in the future. The reason that people reacted to his answer enthusiastically is because it revealed something in common that they could bond over. Die Hard ...


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I think you, as a retired psychiatrist, no doubt are well-versed with these principles of which you may perhaps wish to remind yourself from time to time: When a friend shows her care in a way that is unhelpful, it does not mean she would want to burden you or impose some sort of solutions on you. It probably means she is so desperate to help you out the ...


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“Is it true that we need to give something for people to react to?” No. Don’t worry about it. Always be true to yourself. It is not your job to say what people want to hear when you express your now personal tastes. A new hire introduction is just that; a way of getting to know new hires. And their reaction to you might have been silent but that doesn’t ...


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Back when they existed, I had an interview at a video rental store. The manager asked what my favorite movie was. I responded honestly with a cult science fiction. I never heard back from the store. A friend pointed out that they probably wanted to hear something popular and new, that everyone was hyped up about. So to answer your question, I can think of a ...


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Disclaimer: I have only superficial knowledge of Transactional Analysis and can be fairly skeptical about it's pertinence as a model. However since you made a very clear explanation of what could be problematic interaction and desired outcome, I will make an answer using another communication framework that I know better. The situation as I understand it, is ...


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I think I can see one reason why your approach didn't work: It marked a significant change from your normal behavior towards that person Anyone is going to become skeptical if a friend's attitude suddenly and drastically changes. They might feel they're being played with, irrespective of your true intentions. This is liable to undo any positive effect your ...


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How can I use Social Penetration Theory to increase the closeness of my relationship with someone who has already categorised our relationship as one where self-disclosure is not normal? According to the theory, you can increase in intimacy by expressing more of your true self with someone. But this is not guaranteed. Sorry to say, if you share ...


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