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How to invite terminal ill / very sick friends to a party?

I've been the dying person (I got better, long story.) Trust me, inviting me to a party would not have "reminded me of my limitations." I already knew. It's more likely that I would be offended at ...
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How can I ask my guests to leave?

There's nothing wrong with the truth in these cases. You could say something like: Oh my goodness, I can't believe it's 6:30! The time has flown by hasn't it? I actually have a 7 o'clock thing I ...
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How do I convince my Mom I’m not inviting my brother to someone else’s bachelor party?

The answer I'd give Mom is: "It's not my party". I wouldn't offer excuses or tell her anything beyond that. Yes, she may want your brother, for some reason, invited to the bachelor party. But it's ...
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Dad wants me to invite his mother to my wedding. How to push it back?

First of all, it's not your father's decision - it's yours. Your father made a demand of you, but the choice rests with you. You organize the wedding, you're paying for it, you get to decide. From ...
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How to politely reject inviting a friend to my family's Thanksgiving dinner?

He asked you for an invitation that wasn't yours to give. You're not the host, you're not the one who prepared the food, and you're not the one who will be inconvenienced by a last-minute guest. ...
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How do you ask friends to visit a dispensary without looking like a junkie?

Instead of asking them to join you right away, ask them what they think about using recreational marijuana. Asking them about their opinion from a neutral standpoint (a simple "I noticed its legal in ...
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How do I effectively forestall gifts for my birthday?

Have your friends bring only modest cards to wish you well. I have a friend (USA) who threw her own birthday party, and invited all her friends. She too said "no gifts", but she mentioned that she ...
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How to respond to someone who asks if they will be invited to your wedding?

However you word this, unfortunately, the person may choose to take offense. Just be as diplomatic as possible when letting them know they won't be invited, something along the lines of: "I'm ...
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How do I indicate interest in going somewhere without inviting myself along?

Don't ask to be invited, but let them know you're available. I always say, "That sounds fun. Let me know if you're looking for more people." This makes it clear that you are interested, but doesn't ...
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How do I effectively forestall gifts for my birthday?

Giving money is hard for some people, 10 bucks can look like a lot less than a box full of towels from the dollar store that maybe cost you 5 bucks. Bringing nothing is even harder for some people. ...
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How can I invite a friend but not his girlfriend?

There is no polite way to say this as it is an incredibly rude gesture. The underlying problem seems to be that you do not trust your friend's judgement in women. You could go with the honest approach ...
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What could you possibly say to a friend who cooked a meal you didn't enjoy at all?

There is no polite way to tell someone you care for that you didn't enjoy their cooking. If you go to a restaurant that charges a lot of money but serves substandard food, you might have a leg to ...
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How do I effectively forestall gifts for my birthday?

Ask for consumables, e.g., food. Food will only clutter up your life until it is eaten. You note that your calendar is pretty full, so experiences don't help. However, I assume that even with a full ...
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How to tell friends that they are welcome without their kids?

As you've seen, young children being raised the way you describe (different meals for small people, allowed to eat away from the table, playing with whatever they see instead of only things their ...
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How to invite terminal ill / very sick friends to a party?

A few years ago I helped my grandparents write down their invitations (to a 50 year wedding anniversary). They too had relatives with serious health problems and terminal illnesses at the time. What ...
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Dad wants me to invite his mother to my wedding. How to push it back?

I got a message from my father telling me that it's my wedding, but he feels I must invite that branch of the family anyway, because it's just 2 more people. [...] It's totally unfair for her, and I'...
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How to tell friends that they are welcome without their kids?

how can we politely invite the adults but tell them to leave the kids at home What about Hi everyone, we’d like to invite everyone to dinner at our place, on Saturday, Jan 20 - for this time “...
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How to decline a wedding invitation from a friend I haven't seen in years?

I'd like to pose a slight frame challenge: why not go to the wedding. You say you don't feel like going because, despite a good faith effort on your side to keep in touch, they never responded and ...
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How to decline a wedding invitation from a friend I haven't seen in years?

You're over-thinking it. People who send out invitations want you to respond in a timely manner. Not responding is literally the worst thing you can do. Respond with a simple "Best Wishes" and ...
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How do I convince my Mom I’m not inviting my brother to someone else’s bachelor party?

You seem to suggest that your relationship with your brother is good. I also assume that both of you have good relationship with your mother. Having been in a similar situation, I discussed this with ...
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How can I invite a friend but not his girlfriend?

Try viewing the situation in a broader context. It's not really just about this birthday party, after all. If your friend is in a long-term relationship, this is going to come up every time your ...
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What could you possibly say to a friend who cooked a meal you didn't enjoy at all?

Unless your host explicitly invites criticism (and, to be clear, asking how the meal was appears to be inviting compliments, not criticism), don't criticize the food. You should always find something ...
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How to respond to someone who asks if they will be invited to your wedding?

Answer: This depends on your priorities. If you want to make sure you keep him as a friend then invite him to the party If on the other hand you are ambivalent about his friendship, (you don't ...
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How do I approach telling someone that they are not invited to an event that I am having?

Let him participate, but have a talk with him beforehand. My advice is to have a chat with him about the event. Set up expectations and ask him if he thinks he can reign it in for an afternoon. If he ...
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How to talk with a girl about the fact that she keeps standing me up?

Having lost my father when I was a little bit older than her, I remember what I went through at that time: up's and down's, and swinging moods. Sometimes you're ok, sometimes not, sometimes you need ...
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How can I invite a friend but not his girlfriend?

There's no polite way of "hinting" anything. You're going to have to deal with the problem head on, and hope for the best. Just tell your friend the truth: "We all like you, but none of us likes ...
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How to invite people to an event who don't get along?

Option 2 sounds like the safest and most honest way to handle it. If Person A is likely to be uncomfortable, but you still want them to show up, it's probably better if you give them a chance to ...
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How do I find out if I'm invited to a party?

Normally you don't invite yourself If you don't know someone very well you can't know whether that person wants to invite only very close friends to his birthday party or if it's going to be a big ...
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