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How to deal with a jealous girlfriend?

This behavior should be a big, Big, BIG warning sign for you. Whether she simply likes to be in control, has insecurities due to bad previous experiences with other partners, etc. you should work to ...
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How can I convince my partner to accept my best friend instead of wanting to break up?

Directly and honestly. I think that your last line contains the exact information you need to express to your partner: My friendship with [best friend] is really important to me, she's been a very ...
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As a woman, how to avoid angry stares from other people's wives or girlfriends

With brief interactions with strangers, I agree with the other answers that there is little you can do. They are projecting their relationship insecurities on to you - this is not your fault, and ...
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How can I convince my partner to accept my best friend instead of wanting to break up?

To make it easy, I'll use the genders of your situation, but I believe this applies fairly directly when the genders are reversed. Generally speaking, girlfriends don't love it if their boyfriend has ...
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Girlfriend's sister's boyfriend talking excessively to my girlfriend

These kinds of rules are at best childish and at worst abusive. Telling a partner who they can and can't talk to isn't as much about jealousy as it is about insecurity and control issues. Trying to ...
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How to deal with a jealous girlfriend?

What is it that you like about this person? Does she have many things to offer in other areas? As a woman, I can tell you that this behavior is very alarming and not normal. Your GF has some major ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?

If possible, something should be done while it is happening. Move. If you are sitting, ask him to get a you drink (or some other request that will allow you both to move). Then, while he gets up and ...
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Girlfriend become aggressive when we bump into other women

her being on very low self-esteem That's the heart of the problem. It's not that she doesn't trust you to stay with her, it's that she doesn't trust herself that she's as good as anyone else, ...
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How to convince a girlfriend I have not been unfaithful

Honestly there is not much you can do. You see, her jealousy isn't caused by you or your actions. It's caused by her beliefs and insecurities, some of which may be subconscious. These are related to ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?

Ideally you want to have conversations about this subject before it happens. Realistically, unless you want an awkward situation in the moment, you need to clarify expectations in advance. Talk with ...
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How can I convince my partner to accept my best friend instead of wanting to break up?

I would have to disagree with the idea a lot of answers/comments have expressed that the partner is manipulating and forcing OP to choose. From OP's description it seems clear that his partner called ...
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How to explain to a friend I don't like them stopping talking to me due to a jealous friend/sexual partner?

This answer is something of a frame challenge. It looks like you've already clearly voiced your displeasure with the situation, and the situation continues despite your displeasure. So, I'm going to ...
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How to tell my girlfriend I'm uncomfortable with her getting jealous when I look at other people?

Red. Flag. Tell your girlfriend to - in no uncertain terms Stop being an abusive spouse. Apply the same trust towards you as you afford her This one is optional, but would help Get therapy. Anger ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?

Apart from the aforementioned discussion with your partner, a very simple, subtle, non-confrontational approach is to ask for an introduction. Something along the lines of: "Hey, honey¹ why don't ...
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Girlfriend's sister's boyfriend talking excessively to my girlfriend

It sounds like you have two separate issues here. Betty's partial isolation John's unrelenting texts with your GF I'm going to only address issue 1 since that's what you included in the bold, but ...
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Girlfriend become aggressive when we bump into other women

We have often heard of the gender-reversed situation- a man telling a woman where she can look, what she can do, and where she can go so long as it's with him because he "doesn't trust her". What you'...
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Girlfriend become aggressive when we bump into other women

Wow. She's telling you what you're thinking, and punishing you for it. That's pretty much a definition of abuse, and when you add, To make everything worse each confrontation we have on the ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?

There are good answers here already about how to directly either get out of that situation or address the issue with your partner, but I'm going to take a different approach and suggest a shift in ...
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Wife hanging out with her brothers, makes husband jealous

The husband needs to figure out what his problem actually is. Typically, a husband gets jealous of his wife hanging out with guys due to "competition", but these are her brothers. I honestly hope ...
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As a woman, how to avoid angry stares from other people's wives or girlfriends

I'm not sure that there is really anything you can do. From your description of the event, it doesn't seem like you are doing anything inappropriate at all. If you truly wanted to change your own ...
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How to deal with a jealous girlfriend?

I agree with setting the boundaries, that's your initial defense mechanism to start with. But I'm seeing a lot of hostility towards jealousy in the thread, but jealousy is a completely natural ...
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How do I talk with my girlfriend about her jealousy?

I think there are a couple problems here in the way you are been talking to your girlfriend about her jealousy. First, there seems to be a bit of a communication issue. When you say "None of these ...
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How to deal with a boyfriend's coworker that make you jealous?

Let's analyse the situation for a second. You have a problem with Stephanie's behavior towards Max. After some discussion, Max seems to understand your point of view. However, you are afraid of the ...
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How to deal with a jealous girlfriend?

Some elements of your situation remind me of Dr. Joseph M. Carver’s Loser archetype, “a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship.” This remark by ...
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How can I express to my boyfriend that I don't feel comfortable with this situation without sounding like blackmailing him?

Well. First things first, you should tell him how you feel. That is never blackmail, as long as you internalize it. They are your feelings, you own them and the reaction to them. (He is not making you ...
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How can I convince my partner to accept my best friend instead of wanting to break up?

It is actually quite common for a partner to not want their significant other to spend time alone with a friend of the opposite sex. My and my brothers were all playing some video games one day and ...
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How can I convince my partner to accept my best friend instead of wanting to break up?

Your partner cannot be second best and continue to be your partner. You used the word “emotionally” in a sentence about giving up the friend. What things do you derive from this friend that you ...
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