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I have several friends who have changed name and/or gender while I've known them. I know one who has changed her last name (but not her first name or gender) 5 times in the decades I've known her. I do it this way, ... sort of like the work that Jo NewName was doing here 5 years ago ... Jo NewName? Who's that? We didn't have anyone like that here then! Oh,...


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If in any way possible, avoid using their deadname. Try to describe your former colleague and connect this to the chosen name, then keep using it, without a need to discuss the chosen name and pronouns. "Do you remember the project lead of the the KERMIT project? She goes by Isobel now. Anyway, she did this thing I just remembered and will keep on ...


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You can - respectfully - ask. It's that simple. "Please, it's difficult for me to follow conversations that switch languages frequently. Would you mind keeping conversations in English around me?" There's a decent chance the answer will be "sure, sorry to confuse." Of course, the next question is "how do I get them to follow my ...


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