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Household chores in long distance relationship
While in general there is a huge spectrum of how people feel about tidying and cleaning, I have noticed that people who live alone tend towards the ends of that spectrum. A q-tip or a dirty dish will ...
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Having a conversation with girlfriend over possible future, when she shuts everything down?
Red flags everywhere.
I dated a girl (early 20's) a bit about half a year ago, while she was
on a break from her ex relationship.
Classic rebound relationship. She doesn't like you for you, but ...
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Household chores in long distance relationship
The problem isn't that she's not cleaning...
The real problem here is that you don't like the work you have to do.
It sounds like your partner doesn't realize how big a problem this is for you. As ...
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Having a conversation with girlfriend over possible future, when she shuts everything down?
This sounds complicated, and I've been in her position and it is not an easy one.
When I was in my early 20's I was in a controlling and verbally abusive relationship. My father was similar toward ...
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Household chores in long distance relationship
Actually I think much of your situation is ancillary detail. You'd likely have the same issues if you lived together full time.
You're still talking about two common issues in relationships:
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How to tell long distance girlfriend we both did wrong without her closing up again
Let's take a quick look at some of the things that happened and their inherent implications to your situation.
. . . and confronted her in front of all her friends . . .
This was a big mistake. ...
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My boyfriend blocked me, I would like to make up with him
In my experience, the only real apology that matters is changed behavior.
This is something that I have been on both sides of. Apologies with written or spoken words, gifts, gestures, etc. are nice in ...
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How should I address scheduling phone or video calls with my long distance girlfriend?
Firstly, you're going to love Nottingham. It's a great place to study/live. There are plenty of things for you both to do when your girlfriend visits.
When I studied in London, my girlfriend at the ...
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Household chores in long distance relationship
I met my wife when we were both in our late twenties. While meeting someone after you've established a stable home life gives a lot of advantages, one of the disadvantages is it's harder work to ...
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How should I address scheduling phone or video calls with my long distance girlfriend?
My current girlfriend and I started off long distance (Antwerp to Auckland, which is about as far as a long distance relationship can get). We spent about 9 months with feelings for each other while ...
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How should I address scheduling phone or video calls with my long distance girlfriend?
I think this is a very personal decision based on the maturity of the relationship and your communication styles. I have been in a long distance relationship for 2.5 yrs (friends for 2 yrs before that ...
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What should I take into consideration when resuming conversations online after an extended lack of contact?
Online friendships are surprisingly resistant to downtime. Unless you've left the person "on read" when they were expecting a follow up from you, chances are they won't think you've ghosted them at ...
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Having a conversation with girlfriend over possible future, when she shuts everything down?
I've been in an identical situation and it was torture, so I'm sorry for the painful and energy draining situation you're in. I know her regular contact makes it all worth it, but there's a far better ...
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Household chores in long distance relationship
Adding another answer because the answers so far concentrate on how without first considering why she may be exhibiting this behaviour.
She probably still feels like she is a guest in your flat. As ...
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How to talk to my parents about living abroad
One of my children moved literally to the opposite side of the world - it takes equal time to fly there going either east or west from my house. 4 of my siblings have moved thousands of miles from ...
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My boyfriend blocked me, I would like to make up with him
So, your behavior in the past has been at issue by your admission. How has it been so? Have you mildly overreacted or gone nuclear?
It seems like this latest outburst is the nuclear option as far as ...
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How do I tell a friend that's trying to start another long distance relationship that it isn't a very good idea without hurting our friendship?
I’ve learned that telling people I disagree about something is always going to carry the chance of upsetting them. It’s just going to be a risk; whether or not it’s worth it is up to you and your ...
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How should I address scheduling phone or video calls with my long distance girlfriend?
Something you could do is that a few weeks after both of you settled and began your activities (so you can have an idea of what your weekly timetable will look like), is to contact your girlfriend and ...
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Household chores in long distance relationship
As far as cooking, my fiance and I have evolved a pretty simple system: one person cooks, the other person cleans up. Sometimes we cook together but even then it's pretty clear who did the lion's ...
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How do I tell a friend that's trying to start another long distance relationship that it isn't a very good idea without hurting our friendship?
You disagree with something your friend is going to do and you would like to warn her that she is probably making a bad decision.
First, I would recommend to not be so blunt. People don't like when ...
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Household chores in long distance relationship
There have been a decent number of really rational responses here and my take on this is a little different.
You're trying to "fix" her. You can't. I have my doubts that's it's even possible for one ...
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How to talk to my parents about living abroad
I've been in your shoes.
I moved from Brazil when I was 30 and until then I lived far away from my parents (we're from the countryside of São Paulo, I lived in Rio for about 6 years) and visited them ...
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How to Find a Long Distance Friend in Online world?
Yes, this is possible, lots of people have deep friendships online. I have personal experience with this because I was homeschooled for many years and didn't have many opportunities to make friends in ...
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Having a conversation with girlfriend over possible future, when she shuts everything down?
My problem is that she gives me some very vague and contradictory answers to some questions, and they are sometimes opposite to her actions.
I have found people's actions to be more reliable than ...
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