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How do I politely tell her I only want to hang out with her? I'm pretty sure you have missed some important information from her, here. It's untold, but shown. Having a friend of hers coming with you sends a rather clear message: "I'm not against hanging out with you, but at this time, I'm not sure, so I'll play it safe." Why safe? Because she won't be ...


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Adding this answer for the minor gap in the other answer: what if she isn't actively inviting her friend to avoid uncertainties? It's not beyond the realm of possibilities that she's simply inviting a friend because she wants to invite a friend to hang out; without having an ulterior motive. However, there is an issue with your expectations. I know it's ...


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My Experience Having lived in Southeast Asia (Singapore) all my life, and also being at your sister's current age range, I understand how you (and your sisters) feel. I've seen far too many of my friends turn into frequent party-goers, constantly disregarding family. When parents advise me to mix with the right company, not return home too late, not do ...


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You don't. One of my best friends is the younger sister in this situation with a brother 10 years older than her. From her perspective, she's an adult (and has been one for 4 years now) but she's still being treated like a child. Being told not to hangout with certain people. Being told she has an "attitude problem" and she needs to be nicer to her ...


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You do not want to trouble the teacher and that's nice of you... ...but he/she is troubling you and this is worth at least an attempt to fix ...and you won't have the chance to trouble him/her anymore anyway, in the future, as you're leaving high school. So I'd suggest to go ahead and attempt the fix. Phase 1 - Request for clarification I'd go with the ...


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Go to a movie with her and welcome her friend. Enjoy yourself - you are in her company after all. Your goal is for the three of you to be relaxed and comfortable in each others company. Kick all thoughts of girlfriend/lover/wife/love-for-the-ages out of your mind. Assuming the three of you had a good time say, at the end, that you had a great time. Don't ...


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There are a number of things she could be intending by inviting a friend: She took your offer to "hang out" at face value and does not think you're hoping to date her. She's invited her friend because she thinks it would be even more fun with you and the friend. She understands you want to date her. She does not want to date you, but does want to stay ...


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If you want to play mediator between the two, you need to realize that it's a delicate job. Any sign of siding with either of them will be the end of it. With that out of the way, the first thing you need to do is open the lines of communication between them. Get them talking! The first order of business would be to set up a meeting between the two, ...


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TLDR; she wants things to be explicit. It could be that she had ambiguous relationship with a murky ending. Could be something else altogether. I won't try to guesstimate the reason. You have two choice. Come out in the open and explain that it's a date. If you are not sure and need time, let her friends tag along. Whatever you want to do can be done in ...


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(I come from Europe, so the following may seem foreign to you) You cannot decide who your adult sisters choose as friends. You can, however, try to affect your relationship with them. They are going to move out soon. The things you do today can decide whether they will still be family or strangers afterwards. You believe that your sisters' unwanted ...


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This is very late on my part, but since it may still be relevant: Life is full of difficult decisions. You might not WANT to deliver that speech but you did it in the end. You might not WANT to trouble anyone, but that oftentimes simply the cost of rebellion. Going forward, you will face situations that don't have a clear-cut answer. Sometimes, you will have ...


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It's a few days after the graduation, and this is how I dealt with it. I did give the speech I simply had to. There was nobody else that was going to give the speech and I don't want to put my teachers in a bad position. The teacher's bosses were there. (The chairman of the school, who we never met before and don't know about.) I added some lines before ...


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I'm way past dating and any of that, but at the time if a girl invited her friends along to anything, it also meant you accept her AND her friends. Even if things were to get serious, if her friends didn't like you / get on with you, and her friends are important to her (which they appear to be) then it likely wouldn't go anywhere. Now, if you've been ...


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You don't. Your sisters are adults now. As adults, they don't have to listen to you, or to their elders. You can advise them that you think this isn't in their best interests, as can your parents. You can't tell them though, because you do not have that authority over them. If they feel you're trying to tell them what to do, they may (rightly) get annoyed. ...


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I feel I'm arriving after the battle here, but I'd still want to bring my two cents on this topic, considering I had a friend on a very similar situation. Each time he suggested they'd hang out together, the girl would bring a friend of hers to the meeting, who'd prevent the both of them to get close to each other. It turns out the two girls were interested ...


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Part of stubbornness is a dynamic that evolves where a lot of time, giving in, conceding or admitting fault of some sort would not be a bid deal, if it weren't a capitulation or reward for that other party who is equally stubborn. The term "cut off your nose to spite your face" would apply to this. Even though it probably hurts them to do so, they feel that ...


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