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For situations that concern married partners: interactions between the couple or external factors that affect their relationship.

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Dealing with a depressed partner with personal hygiene issues

My wife and I have been living together for about three years now (we just got married under a year ago). Recently, I have been having several issues regarding my wife’s personal hygiene. I’m looking ...
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How to gain trust after failing to support my wife in a difficult moment

We have been married for 15 years without big issues, but lately things have started to change. I'm not good with interpersonal relationships (sometimes too cold. I'm aware that I lack empathy), while ...
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How can I deal with my wife always changing her mind about things we already planned?

I like making plans whether they're short term or long term (> 6 months). Always have. My wife, however, tends to "forget" about plans we had already discussed and gets upset when I try ...
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How could I have communicated better to my wife that I don't like my toddler's shoes?

I have three toddlers whose shoes I have to put on and take off several times a day. Two of them have shoes that I can put on and take off very easily. The third has shoes I struggle with every day, ...
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What to do when my spouse has different political feelings than I do [duplicate]

My wife and I have been married for 6 years now - we live a fairly happy if fairly mundane life. I work a regular 9-5 job and she works from home. We own two cats and have no children. We connect ...
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Can a marriage survive when one side doesn't show due to COVID restrictions? [closed]

Two strong-willed families will assemble in the US Mid-Atlantic region. Except, one entire side will not be there due to unforeseen COVID restrictions and quarantine requirements. Only the groom ...
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How can I explain to my partner that the relationship with parents depends on cultural expectations?

Me and my wife come from different countries with very different social norms and expectations (Russia and Spain). We live in Germany and handle the differences between us rather successfully as we ...
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How to cope with my wife's unfinished plans? [closed]

Me and my wife are married for almost 10 years. One thing that bothers me is that my wife makes a lot of plans but never finishes them, and this puts a lot of financial and mental burden on us. Some ...
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For the girl of my heart? [closed]

I am a 20 yr old university student, pretty much matured. The story begins 2 years ago when our uni new admissions was started, at that new batch I saw a girl and I've found her so attractive that I ...
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How to help spouse improve her cooking, without making her feel overly criticized?

I'm at a loss here, I love my wife, she's a hard worker and a great support for me in basically everything. But when it comes to food I don't know what to do. I think she has the capacity to be just ...
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Mitigate and discuss conflict about inclusion of my son as step-son

My wife and I have two kids, I have a son from divorce (divorced years before the second marriage). What has happened more and more recently, she seems to somehow to disapprove his existence like "ok ...
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How to encourage spouse to speak up more when making decisions?

We have been living together for 4 years and had our first baby 3 months ago. My wife is a very good mother. I am a straightforward guy and I speak up as soon as there is something that I think is ...
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How to counter/explain wife's double standards and avoid negativity [closed]

I have been married for almost 5 years. My wife and I have a son who just turned 3. At the beginning of our relationship things seem to be really on track but since our son arrived, i've been battling ...
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My wife has now decided she doesn't want have children, but I fear it's just because of mental illness (depression) [closed]

37 y/o male. Wife (33 y/o) and I have been married for about 7 years. We fell in love deeply and quickly and were married within 2 years of when we started dating. We never really discussed having ...
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How to approach boundary setting when family composition changes?

My wife's sister is very close to our family, and over the course of the last few years, it's become a common practice for her to do her laundry at our house. I don't generally mind this, my wife ...
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How can I lay out my reasons to my girlfriend for why we shouldn't get married?

My girlfriend isn't a citizen of the US and I am. We've also have only been dating for 4 months. So when we first started dating she said that if I wasn't ready for commitment in the range of 1-3 ...
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What can I do to improve my current marriage situation? [closed]

Since our son was born (almost a year ago) my wife isn't the same anymore - she is often angry at me and keeps blaming me for all kind of stuff. This has to stop - I can't take it any more. During ...
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How can I find out if my gf only wants me for a green card?

I'm a US citizen and I began dating a girl from an online website. We've known each other for a month and have been officially dating for about two weeks. She told me on the second date that she ...
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How to tell my violin teacher who's interested in me that I'm actually married after I sent positive signals back for months? [closed]

I'm a 30 year old male and I've been married for 10 years. I work in an all-male environment. I don't have female friends. I have no male-female relationship experience outside of my marriage. In ...
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How to get my wife to accept bisexuality before our daughter comes out of the closet?

My oldest daughter is 19 and told me last halloween that she's bi. My daughter is amazingly high functioning (mentally, socially, even professionally) but is living at home at the moment because ...
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How do I help my wife control her irritablness and anger so she doesn't induce me to a rage? [closed]

My wife is very irritable. The slightest annoyance can make her stern, change the way she speaks, and cause her to increase the volume and pitch of her voice, and essentially hammer her point to ...
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How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd [closed]

I know that people have their own points of views according to different religions, cultures etc. and so on, but how can I deal with people who outwardly come to you and find it wrong or a problem or ...
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How can I tell my husband I need time for myself without work?

I studied Computer Science and now work full-time as a developer. When I come home from work, I want to spend some time with my husband and the kid until bed time, and then play video games or crochet ...
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How to re-build intimacy with romantic partner

Me and my wife have been married for almost 5 years and together for 7. We are both relatively young, she is still in her twenties. The past year or so, I have not acknowledged her very much. I have ...
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How can I say "No" to a best friend asking for Marriage?

TL;DR My one childhood friend asking me for marriage. He is my very good friend. I want to say him 'No' for marriage. Background Few months before, I have seen a guy on Facebook in recommended ...
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How should I discuss on which side of the family to spend Christmas with?

This year I suggested that we make the 19 hour drive to go see my family. Travel Saturday and Sunday, and then travel back the next weekend. My wife seems to be on board with it, however, she still ...
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Dealing with double standards from my wife [closed]

My wife and I have known each other and been good friends for around ten years, but only got together four years ago. Fast forward to today we are married, have our own place and a 2.5 year old son. ...
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How to resolve conflict when neither spouse concedes?

For reference, my significant other and I are in our early twenties. We have been married for less than a year. We argue frequently- nothing too toxic, no swearing (which is offensive in our culture),...
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How do I talk to my wife about her minor scheming?

Starting about a year or two ago, my wife (let's call her Sally) has been rather dishonest about some of the activities we've been apart of. Most of the time I don't notice, but my friend notices far ...
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How do I insist my wife gets rid of her recently bought pet spider, given that I'm arachnophobic?

The title summarizes the issue quite well: I'm arachnophobic and my wife wants a pet spider. She knows I'm terrified by all kinds of bugs, and she wants to buy it anyway. I know phobias are not good.....
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How can I get my partner to keep up with her chores? [duplicate]

My partner is bad about keeping up with small chores, like putting away the dishes after eating, which results in them piling up and turning into big chores, which then turns into a big problem for ...
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How can I ask my wife to share more of our responsibilities?

I feel like too much of the responsibilities of being an adult fall on my shoulders, and that my wife does a lot more taking than giving in that regard. I would like our relationship to be more of an ...
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How do I convince my sister that her boyfriend who helped her a lot is not good as a life partner? [closed]

My sister, 27, who is 2 years older than me, found her boyfriend on a dating app. My sister was in depression during those days and it was her boyfriend who provided her with emotional support. Now ...
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How to tell my wife about a (possibly romantic) relationship with another woman?

I am happily married male, mid-thirties, Central Europe, two nice kids. With my wife, we have a great relationship and no big issues, just the normal ones (if she only didn't burn the meal that often :...
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How to talk to my brother-in-law about my concerns about his intent to propose to his girlfriend?

I was born and raised in Italy and got married to a wonderful girl from Spain whom I met in the UK. A year ago my brother-in-law has met a nice girl from Italy and held a long distance relationship ...
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How can my wife have her cake if I won't eat it too? [closed]

My wife's birthday is coming up next week, and I'm looking to get her a cake - she rarely ever has gotten her very own birthday cake, and I want to get her something she will really appreciate. She ...
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How to get my wife to remember to say "please"

We've been married for over five years now, have two little kids and our relationship is as good as can be. We both value harmony very highly and thus tend to avoid an open conflict whenever possible -...
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How to convince my wife that my best friend and I are just friends?

I have a friend (a woman), who I met around 8 months ago. Since then, she has become my best friend and we are extremely close. Understandably, my wife is envious of the relationship and even ...
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Asking a girl you love (without being rude) to be your girlfriend when you're married [closed]

I know a girl from the internet (we both live in Germany), and looks like everything is fine between us (we are talking every some hours, smiling, flirting ..etc). I am currently married, but, as my ...
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How can I have a conversation with my wife to be ensured of her faithfulness?

I am living in India and I married a beautiful wife recently (this was an arranged marriage). I am working in office from 9AM to 5PM, she is a housemaker. We are living in a building where most of the ...
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Coping with different spending philosophies in a marriage [closed]

I am British, in my mid-twenties, and in a pretty well paying job. My wife is Chinese, a few years older than me, and while having a moderately well paying job previously is currently is a student. We'...
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Not having to explain my reasons for wanting to keep my last name

As a female in the UK, I'm expected to drop my last name and take my (male) partners' name when we get married - there's no law against me keeping my last name, though it's generally frowned upon. ...
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Are there any ways to avoid unwanted approaches when not wearing a wedding ring?

I am happily married man and have no interest in engaging in a relationship outside of it. I have heard that wearing a wedding ring alerts women to the fact that I'm married and not looking for ...
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How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage?

I am a recent graduate from a school in the United States that has a large number of international students. During my time there, I became friends with someone who I will refer to as "Suzy." Suzy and ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

Background: My wife and I have been together for about 8 years now (married for 6) and we have two gorgeous children. My wife, unfortunately, has been suffering from mild depression for quite a while, ...
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Maintaining honesty while being comforting in response to insecurity about relationship?

My wife and I are happily married and have a great relationship, but my wife is on occasion plagued by feelings of insecurity and concern that I am unhappy and want to leave the relationship. These ...
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How to deal with a friend who is "throwing" online games

I have a friend with whom I have been playing a certain online game for many years. I also play with his wife. I have been friends with both of them for over three decades, first individually, and ...
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Wife does not work but wants “own” money/allowance

My wife and I have been married 4 years (United States). We had a baby 6 months ago and 8 months ago my wife quit working, it started to be to much on her physically and now we both like that our ...
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How can I tell my wife that her fears and mistrust are hurting us?

I've been married now for few years (around 2 years), and everything is ok between my wife and me. Before me, she was married (for around 8 months) to a husband who cheated on her with her sister (who ...
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How can one stop dubious advances of a married former partner without hurting them a lot?

I am sorry if this is a duplicate, the closest situation I could find here is this one. This is a bit long but given that I am not entirely sure if there was any advance to be concerned about in the ...