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I would say it depends on the situation. It'd be fine to hold a tissue to it for a minute or two. Holding it for an hour would be distracting. If it's in any way a distraction to others in the meeting, taking it elsewhere seems like the better option. You may excuse yourself from the meeting. If some people might be shocked at the sight of blood, just ...


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I'm almost certain the recruiter won't mind that you at least ask to use your loyalty card, and will probably be happy and grateful that you will be saving 10% off the bill. I would bring it up before you actually go to the place, as to avoid confusion and to give her a chance to make sure that it is allowed. Don't mention that you will gain points. While ...


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I used to run some work meetings and attended many others that were run by other departments as well. We had many types, but all fell into the 2 categories you described, some were what we called "round table" which meant more of a brainstorming or discussion session, others had formal agendas. You could be more sensitive in wording. Instead of pointing ...


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In my opinion "forcing" someone to participate is not the right thing to do. Someone who isn't "contributing" may be taking it all in, mentally summing up, and just waiting for the right time to launch their bolt into the blue. Or they may not have anything to say, in which case you're just embarrassing them. Or they may have been invited to a meeting ...


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This sounds like, in the end, you are going to need to grit your teeth and stand your ground. But they are a few things you could try before that. If those are work meetings, the easiest solution would just be to say "Sorry, I'm not available at this time but this <other time within work hours> works for me". I work part-time so this issue ...


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In my experience at work, people often forget meetings, especially with subordinates or colleagues as opposed to with their managers. It probably was not a brush-off but it could have been. If you really want to meet, you should let some time pass - perhaps a week or two - and then ask again. Maybe something like: Hey! Just wondering if you're still ...


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I've often found myself not speaking up in many meetings because 1) the active participants don't leave enough room between expressions and 2) I don't believe the thoughts I'm having are very different or very important compared to what is already being expressed. I do speak up when I feel there's something important left unsaid. When called upon I'm more ...


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I have the same issues you do from a dilated blood vessel in my nose. Dry buildings during winter are my biggest enemy and as a result I can have anywhere from 1 to 3 bloody nose incidents a day. From my experience, if you are having them as frequently as I do, people are going to inevitably discover that you deal with frequent nose bleeding so no sense in ...


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Normally, it's a good idea to be "inclusive." But there are times when people don't want to be included. They may be shy about expressing themselves, or whatever. There are times (critical ones) when everyone must "stand up and be counted." These informal meetings that you are running don't appear to be among them. While it's good of you to give everyone a ...


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I'm Russian and speaking from experience here. Meeting for breakfast or lunch is used not only for dating but also for business people. So your language practice meeting may fall into the "business" area. I think there is no way to be really sure about her intentions, but at least you can make your intentions clear. (if you ask such a question, then have ...


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People miss meetings all the time. It stinks, but if he's a busy guy with a lot of stuff on his plate then just sitting down with the new hire to talk about the kinds of stuff he does is very low priority for him. Don't take it as an insult, or a sign that he doesn't want to talk, just that there was something more pressing. I was actually in this situation ...


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In your case, the meeting (or avoiding a meeting) is not the final purpose, but only a means to the purpose. Your correct desired result is: How can I fulfill my role in the team, without sacrificing my weekends? And the answer comes rom the science of management. You need to do the following (you might be able to do it by yourself, without the need of ...


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Is this common in Russia as a first meeting Yes, it's quite common. And not only as of the first meeting. Coffee shops are often seen as a "neutral territory" to meet at. Some people use them for small business meetings (like passing a document or drafting something), students may come over to copy each other's homework. Personally I have a few old friends ...


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You wrote: I would find myself spending the entire day chatting with her happily And also: it has probably gone too long that to try and ask for something casual will be weird enough I disagree. It sounded like the two of you were reasonable friends back then. Anecdotally, I have friends who I hadn't seen for a good 6 or 7 years or so. When I happened to ...


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Should I attempt to stop the bleeding while at the meeting or leave the room to take care of it? If you can choose where you sit, I'd carefully pick a seat next to someone you know that won't be bothered with your temporary impediment. If possible, a seat close to the door, just in case you need to step out because it becomes more important. If you want/...


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Step outside of the room! I get nosebleeds all the time, and my very first thought is to get to a location where I can take care of it privately. As I'm sure you know, the flow can vary dramatically between nosebleeds. If it's light, you'll only be gone for a short while, but if it's heavy, you can take all the time you need to deal with it privately. If ...


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A couple of approaches that haven't been mentioned: Depending on the meeting, it might make sense to interrupt it long enough to note what's happening, that if it gets worse you may have to step out for an indeterminate amount of time, and even ask if you staying will disturb anyone. Don't necessarily assume everyone (anyone!) will be grossed out. Leaving ...


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I would email the person. Say that you've been hearing a beeping in some of your calls and not in others, and that you're nearly sure that this person is the common link. Apologize for being unable to concentrate with the beeping and acknowledge that many people can, and that others don't hear it. Ask the person if it's possible there's a nearby smoke ...


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Clapping is a social convention, and social conventions will vary at the highest level across cultures, and at the lowest level within individual groups. It is possible that you have been bought by a company where the convention is to applaud the bigger boss. Plus, it is also possible that your local boss is trying to improve his social standing with the ...


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I am sure your coworker realizes that abruptly turning away from you and looking at something that has nothing to do with your current conversation is rude. Any suggestions around telling them they are rude is not going to help; they surely must know, and are simply overwhelmed. I suggest reacting to these weird shifts in a compassionate and empathetic way. ...


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How can you ask? - Simply mention that you have a loyalty card for the place, it will save 10% off the bill. Now what is her answer to be, surely it must be "yes"; or she will explain why it is "no". If she needs to spend a particular amount in order to avoid a clawback such a savings would be unwelcome. What if her boss takes her there for a annual meet-...


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"Hey, I'm going shopping this weekend for socks. Wanna come?" It's as easy as that. Do your own thing, invite her to join you. It doesn't have to be a 'date' or anything like it, just an opportunity to spend time together. If she's interested, she'll say yes. If not, and she doesn't seem interested in arranging a different opportunity, drop it. ...


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I have a feeling that you would prefer to speak with her not that straightforward about the meeting up. What about just texting her that yesterday you saw her somewhere and ask was it her? You can say that you saw her in the shopping center but she was on the other end of a shopping center and you tried to say hello but she did not see you. I know it ...


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TL;DR: Excuse yourself and leave the meeting to assess the situation; return if possible. "The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few. Or the one." While you don't want to miss the meeting, you don't want to make the others miss too much of the meeting either. Rationale You don't want to interrupt the meeting too much. While you're ...


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The first thing to do is to talk about it with a few people. Your boss for instance. And the meeting organizer. And maybe one or two other people that you work with on a day to day basis. These people deserve and "early warning." They may also have useful suggestions. In this case, it's a bona fide emergency and you should probably leave the room so not to ...


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Most appropriate thing to do is step outside. It's something you probably want to deal with more privately or in an appropriate area like the washroom, especially if the meeting is on the formal side. It can be distracting to others to see someone trying to deal with a nosebleed in the middle of a meeting. Also, who wants to sit in a room of people with a ...


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Hmm ... how about "Hey X, would you like to weigh in on this?" That is, ask them if they want to give their thoughts. If they don't, then let it be; it's too bad for the shy or apathetic one, because he'll be less likely to get what he wants.


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I think it depends on why they are quiet. The key here might be to talk to regular shy participants and ask them what would make them more comfortable participating. I've had this discussion with people before and here's a few of the reasons I got: I find it hard to think on the spot during a meeting: After I heard this I started trying to give as much ...


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I do not know how this would work in Indonesia but I would say something like: Hey Sam! I'd like to make sure that you're happy with what we're deciding. In a moment I'll check in with you to find out if there's anything you would like to be considered. Carry on the conversation with the group before returning to Sam with... Hi Sam, what are your ...


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