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I don't typically comment on aspects of people's appearances because I try to avoid finding myself in a situation such as you've found yourself in, but I have witnessed it on many occasions, and I have never seen someone react poorly to receiving a compliment. There are lines that can be crossed though. One common one is asking to touch the hair (which you ...


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As a dutchy: Just ask them you want to try to learn Dutch. We're a fan of direct communication, be clear what you want. Pick your timings though, a cashier is good for a basic "hi, lovely day" conversation, but not much more. They get paid to cashier, not to talk. I suggest creating specific situations with specific people, e.g. you can ask a friend to ...


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I'm in a similar situation to you -- I'm an English speaker who moved to Montreal a few years ago and I'm working on my French. Most people in Montreal speak English, so when I try to speak to people in French they'll often switch to English. Honestly what's been most helpful for me is trying to put myself into social situations where French is strongly ...


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There's no fixed standard for it; it depends on the people and their own preference. This website (in Dutch) identifies 3 different moments. The lower bound seems to be January 6th (the celebration of Driekoningen), the middle seems to be January 15th (two weeks) and the upper bound seems to be January 31st (because doing it in February is not done). So I ...


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This answer is based upon the etiquette I've been taught and always heard since childhood. Its rule have been followed for decades by people I know/met, and I've seen it used in Western Europe countries (Belgium, France, Germany1). The Netherlands being so close to those countries, it might apply here too I believe2. So: sending greetings/Christmas cards ...


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When I was a child I was forced to write greeting cards to my old relatives to wish them a happy New Year. I really disliked the thing all in all so I would postpone for as long as I could. My parents would say I have to send them before the 31st of January because otherwise it'd be rude and look like I had forgotten about them in the wishing well process. ...


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I think you might be struggling with picking your 'target audience' for your practices. You said you would like people to 'just have a conversation with you'. But if there's a language barrier involved, a conversation isn't something you 'just' have, it becomes something that actually takes a lot of effort. Let me give you a few examples: I've worked ...


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