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Netiquette Netiquette is highly specific for different websites. Just as etiquette differs from county to country, so does netiquette from website to website. Facebook has a very wide userbase (also from different countries), so the netiquette is very likely to be different from group to group as well. As such, it is hard to say whether this went against '...


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What I'm wondering is: Is this rude to the other users of the room? Yeah. People respond to being intentionally ignored in a chat room about as well as they do to being ignored in real life. (Which is really, really poorly). A public chat room is a shared space, where multiple conversations can happen at the same time, and anyone can join in and ...


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Does it go against netiquette to provide constructive feedback in a Facebook group? That depends on the definition of "netiquette". My personal brew of common sense would say "constructive criticism is even essential to a community that exists for the purpose of mutually giving tips and tricks and ways to improve". That being said - My personal brew may ...


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The person who sent you the message could have posted publicly and instead chose to send it privately. Even if you think there's no privileged information and the sender shouldn't be concerned, that's not your decision. "Don't forward private email" has been one of the basic netiquette rules for decades. This is even stronger when a conversation started ...


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I agree with the others, it is rude. It may or may not be noticed, but ignoring anybody that may innocently try to add to your conversation is being unkind and unfair for your own convenience, which is basically the definition of rude. However they respond to you is deserved, if they are hurt or dislike you or insult you. It is fair to ignore others having ...


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I am neither 30 nor from the Balkans, and I’m also not in the online dating world. However, I find it hard to fathom that common netiquette would not apply - as this exact type of conversation can for any type of relationship. This is more or less what I would write for any friend, acquaintance, or colleague: “Hi [name], just wanted to follow up on my last ...


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You didn't actually do anything wrong here. But that isn't the point there is it. You'll have to talk to the moderator some more, and figure out what expectations they have of the members of the group. As for "netiquette" this varies wildly, but generally sandwiching criticism is really best practice - it makes people more likely to accept your criticism ...


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It's at the very least unsmart. You're holding a public conversation, in a public space, broadcasting the conversation to every person in the chatroom. By abusing a public chatroom for a private conversation, you may occasionally be fooling yourself into acting like it is a private conversation, which will lead to you occasionally saying things that cannot ...


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This is a great case for using BCC (blind carbon copy). This article quotes a business school professor explaining its use: “Moving you to BCC,” Argenti told me, is essentially a shorthand for saying, “I know you really don’t want to hear this, but I do want you to know that we’ve gotten in touch, and thank you very much.” Bim, bam, blessedly silent boom—...


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This was well received by the maker, we continued our chat via private messenger and I gave her more advice (...) She also showed me some tricks (...) So your feedback seems to have been well received and led to an interesting discussion in which you and her learned something new. Perhaps you even made a friend. Very good. Now, there are several kinds of ...


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Yes it’s rude and not politically correct. Things you have to consider: How do the people you are talking to feel about you ignoring everyone else, how will this effect their relationship with the other peers, and most likely, consequently with you? How do the people you are ignoring feel about you ignoring them? Just because there is no verbal or written ...


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I am a gamer myself, and I know exactly where your frustration is coming from. Sadly, there is nothing you can do about that. Talking/chatting with them will not achieve anything, because they do not speak your language. Using Google Translator to translate a rant is techincally possible, but in practice they will just laugh at you and call you a flamer. ...


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Personally, I only keep the person in the loop if it's helpful to them to have that information. So it really depends on the situation. In your example, if I ask someone for help because I think they have the answer, and they respond with "Actually, that's Gary's domain", I would stop including Bob. It's not in his work scope, so I doubt he's interested. ...


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It doesn't happen that often to me (I have a rather uncommon first name), but for the one or two mails a year which are addressed to me by accident: if it's a personal email sent only to me, I'll reply. That might be in self-interest; a few months ago I received an invoice for a name-cousin; if I hadn't replied, I'd probably got a reminder a couple of weeks ...


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I believe there are 2 main reasons why a user would send you a private message instead of a publicly available one (in the context of reddit or similar sites). 1) They fear other users might jump the bandwagon on the negative part of their message and want to spare you the humiliation that might come with it. 2) They don't want to become the target of ...


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You really can't. One's spoken language (which is usually tied to nationality) can be a sensitive topic. Many people will subconsciously take bringing up the language barrier as an insult to their language (and perhaps even nationality) and make them aggressive. Also, telling them that their language barrier is an issue is like saying, "Stop playing the ...


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So, I sandwiched my feedback, complimented the maker on their technique and expressed an interest in learning some tricks from them. I then gave some advice on how to pick colors, and on what to keep in mind when picking different kinds of yarn. I ended with a compliment to the creativeness of the craft. This is exactly what I would have done, so I ...


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There is no one netiquette for these things; some communities are looking for constructive criticism and improvement and some only look for validation. This one is clearly the latter case. There is no real point in debating with them or pointing out (lack of) group rules, since such small groups are ran by one person or a small group of like-minded ...


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Judging by all twitter account I came across that write about "current events" they don't go and delete old ones. You can go to news twitter and read about issues from years ago that were written as "this is happening now". You can go to celebrity tweeter and read about their attendance to some events that is long gone. I would even says that deleting old ...


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In general, friendships develop naturally over time. When we find ourselves in new circumstances - for example after a move to a new place, or starting a new place of employment or education - we might feel that we have to make efforts to cultivate new friendships, and perhaps try and rush the process. Everybody is different, and it is good to be aware of ...


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What I usually do is send one reply-all email along the lines of, "Thanks Bob. Me and Gary will take it from here" and then send a separate email to only Gary about the issue in question. This accomplishes the goals of Reaching out to Gary Letting Bob know I'm following up Unambiguously cutting Bob out of the rest of the conversation The only downside is ...


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I don't see anything wrong with the excerpt you included here, it seems you are keeping a respectful tone and focusing on providing constructive feedback, exactly what they asked for. Keep in mind that if this commentator has a particularly busy schedule or large audience they may lack the time to address specific repeat comments or are likely to get a ...


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As you describe it, his standards deviate from the norm. His notion that all criticism is destructive criticism is plain wrong. It's his forum, his press and his freedom of press, and he has a right to set any standard he pleases. But where he deviates from normal expectations, he needs to be clear about that. The fairest way to resolve it is to daylight ...


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Background Simiarly, I belong to a group for building brands, where the ages can be as low as 14. Being a designer myself (as a career), I've learned to take criticism and feedback as comments on my piece, not necessarily comments on my person. All of this took time, experience and confidence building, had over the years of college and on-the-job situations. ...


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