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As a woman, how to avoid angry stares from other people's wives or girlfriends

With brief interactions with strangers, I agree with the other answers that there is little you can do. They are projecting their relationship insecurities on to you - this is not your fault, and ...
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Can my sister convey to her womanizer boss by her body language and general behavior that she is not 'available' for an 'office romance'?

I hope to have this answer surpassed by others with a better grasp of the localized environment. Until that time, this is my take on it. From the described reputation of the future boss, I'd say that ...
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Pointing the index fingers to one another as a way to excuse oneself: is this a common gesture?

Maybe it's just me, but in the UK I would not understand any of that. It's completely alien to me. If you work in an international setting, it might be better to use full words and sentences to ...
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Why is it socially not acceptable to point at someone with your finger?

(Moving my comment to a full-fledged answer) As well as designating someone/thing, a pointed finger may also be an accusatory gesture. Without any context, the person being pointed at (or people ...
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How to non-verbally communicate that I am listening?

Someone asked you in a comment: When people go on these 'longer talking periods' do you the classic nodding, "mhm", "yes"? You responded: I try avoiding interrupting the conversation at any ...
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How to properly maintain eye contact with people that have distinctive facial features?

You can't. That is not an issue that you can resolve. They are not very comfortable with how they look themselves. Eventually, they will get around this, but there is nothing you can do immediately, ...
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Pointing the index fingers to one another as a way to excuse oneself: is this a common gesture?

I recognized the gesture immediately from the title: Some call it “finger twiddling”; it's a self-touching fidgeting behavior and I've seen variations of it IRL (eg joining the palms and tapping the ...
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Can my sister convey to her womanizer boss by her body language and general behavior that she is not 'available' for an 'office romance'?

After putting up this personally important question, I was motivated by the answers to think a bit about what strategies Indian women actually use in these situations, and recollected something a ...
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What impact does "mirroring" have on other people?

Mirroring is a process we do naturally and without thinking about it. But apparently, people can be trained to mimic this behavior. But, I would think that it can backfire if done poorly. Scientific ...
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Can my sister convey to her womanizer boss by her body language and general behavior that she is not 'available' for an 'office romance'?

Is this even possible to convey through body language and general behavior and if so, how can she achieve this aim? At work: wear unisex business clothing if possible; otherwise dress conservatively ...
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Why is it socially not acceptable to point at someone with your finger?

Pointing your finger at someone is seen as either an adversarial gesture or threatening one. FWIW: in some Asian cultures, it's insulting, as you only point your finger at an animal. About the ...
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How to properly maintain eye contact with people that have distinctive facial features?

Being on the autism spectrum, eye contact is uncomfortable for me. I've long had trouble with making it and holding it. Over the last several years, I've had to learn to make eye contact because it's ...
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How to talk about things I'm ashamed of, without showing this shame through non-verbal-communication?

Signs of shame Not showing 'shame' is easier if you first understand how shame, and feeling ashamed, is usually communicated. This image shows a typical (but maybe somewhat exaggerated for ...
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What impact does "mirroring" have on other people?

Mirroring is one of the components of "active listening." It indicates an empathy or sympathy with the person you are communicating with. These mirrored gestures are in some measure a natural ...
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Why do people want eye contact when talking?

Eyes communicate intent Fair warning: this answer got long! The gist of it is that eyes are an important and useful indicator of intent due to a long history of biological and cultural evolution. ...
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How to non-verbally communicate that I am listening?

Though this is not what you asked for (non-verbal communication), I have found myself in situations like that way too often. Not sure if some people just like talking a lot or if they're used to being ...
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How to tell an unknown cyclist I don't want to give them the pace

I used to bike to school (roughly 9km). It takes a lot less effort to take advantage of someones wake so I did it often myself. The worst way to handle this that I've experienced was when the guy in ...
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As a woman, how to avoid angry stares from other people's wives or girlfriends

I'm not sure that there is really anything you can do. From your description of the event, it doesn't seem like you are doing anything inappropriate at all. If you truly wanted to change your own ...
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What non-verbal communication can I use to ask if someone want physical comfort?

These situations are generally context dependent. Your relationship to/with the person makes a big difference in what would be expected or appropriate. If it's someone you already know well, there's ...
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How to listen to music without looking antisocial?

You can try wearing only one earbud; most modern music doesn't sound too awful when listening to only one of the two stereo channels. Especially if it's wireless, half of the people (the ones coming ...
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How to interact with a person asking for change without giving them false hope?

I'm not homeless, I've never been homeless, but I do tend to have unkempt hair, my winter trench coat tends to pick up a lot of dirt, and I go grocery shopping with a cart that some have referred to ...
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Pointing the index fingers to one another as a way to excuse oneself: is this a common gesture?

Disclaimer: I never used or saw such usage of that emoji, therefore my answer focuses on its IRL understanding and offers an emoji alternative that may be better understood in an international context....
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How to make eye contact while talking with more than one person?

... in an office environment or while talking to friends ... I think you have 2 very different settings and backgrounds here. I never had a problem with family, friends and acquaintances, but I had ...
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How do you talk to someone when you know you have bad breath?

Take a step back. I feel like this could also be taken as rude and possibly make that person think that they are making me uncomfortable While it is true it could possibly be taken as a little rude, ...
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How do you talk to someone when you know you have bad breath?

Apart from a deliberate admission of possible bad breath, I'm not sure that there really is an interpersonal solution to this problem. Something like: Sorry I just ate [insert pungent food item ...
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Gently turning down undesired physical contact/setting boundaries in a nightclub environment

Honestly it sounds like your current approach is pretty spot on. I'm not much of a dancer, so I ran your question by my partner who is: Consider going "squaded up" with a few friends, if ...
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What is the proper etiquette for making one's presence known non-verbally?

Unfortunately (or not), much of the responsibility for avoiding this falls on your own shoulders, s you can't force other people to become more sensitive to your presence, nor is that a reasonable ...
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