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How to quickly end a date?

Reddit has a lot of threads regarding this question. Generally, the most honest way to do this, according to what I've seen on that particular forum, is to gracefully say, "I'm sorry but this ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

It sounds like your wife is having what is often called an emotional affair. Even though it is just talk, the heart is involved. I say this not to escalate the situation, but because it is important ...
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How to quickly end a date?

You can always say "I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me. Goodbye." At any time. That said though, it would usually be strange to say that so soon. The only reasons generally would be if the ...
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How do I phrase an introduction on a dating website?

I'm Catija. I'm female and I met my (male) spouse on one of these dating sites. We met about 11 years ago and this is what made me respond to his message... and what made me not respond to others. ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

First off, the bitter pill to swallow: Don't kid yourself, this is a serious threat to your marriage. What she is doing is an emotional affair at best, a regular and emotional affair at worst. It ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

The elephant in the room is her gaming addiction. She is basically spending an entire working day at it, every day, if I understood you correctly. That is massive. Who takes care of the kids? Who ...
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How to quickly end a date?

As a person who dates, I would find it very rude if someone left after only 1-2 minutes. Most people need at least an hour to have any idea if they are compatible with someone, either in terms of long ...
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How do I ask people out in an online group?

I think there's another step you can take, that could eventually lead to having more contact with these women, although it doesn't directly focus on asking them specifically for a one-on-one chat. My ...
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How do I ask people out in an online group?

I recommend taking small steps first. Something like this continue being yourself in these large-group situations. Laugh at people's jokes, say interesting nice things when you're talking, respond to ...
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How to quickly end a date?

This is based on dating for many years before meeting my wife, both people I met offline and online (although not via Tinder, that came after my dating days). Further I will assume that your date isn'...
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What to do when meeting an online friend in real life for the first time?

Are there things I should do during her stay? Plan activities where you have something to do, other than sit around awkwardly staring at each other. Playing games, going for walks, really anything ...
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How to quickly end a date?

I use dating apps quite a bit and this answer is based on my experience. You should finish the date, especially if it's only an hour long. They at least invested the time in coming out to meet you. I ...
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Asking a girl you love (without being rude) to be your girlfriend when you're married

I hate to say it, but I can relate. My, now ex, partner and I were married for 5 years, separated for a year, tried to make another go of it for 6 months, and are now separated again. Ending a ...
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How do I phrase an introduction on a dating website?

An entire book could be written on this subject, so I don't know how on target it is for his site (possibly "too broad") and there are thousands of variables/no "one size fits all" approach but: ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

I am afraid that talking about this with her would result in an argument and could potentially cause a rift between us Whilst approaching the topic right now may cause a rift, surely this would only ...
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How to quickly end a date?

To be honest, unless you are willing to be very rude, there is no way to terminate the date that early. But I'd wager that you are not setting your dates properly to begin with. I'll first give you ...
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Reassuring my wife being jealous of my close female friend

My undestanding of the situation is two-fold : You apparently displayed many (more ?) signs of affection/interest at Diana than your wife (whatever the reasons). Your wife resents such signs, reacts ...
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How do I phrase an introduction on a dating website?

Remember that "how to start a conversation" is not always about the message you'll sent her. If a stranger send me an introduction and wish to know about me more, this is what I will do, in order: ...
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Long Response Times Before Texting Back

The behaviour you describe appears to be gentle push-back, that is she wants to reduce how often she talks with you but without making a confrontation about it. This could mean she is not that ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

You say this: So I started to hold my wife more, hug and kiss her. Gave her more attention. After a few weeks, she told me I was trying too hard. That I was suffocating her and not giving her ...
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In online dating, how do I ask a date why she seems so disinterested?

Some general advice that works well for me in a variety of situations, and appears to fit here as well: instead of asking "please tell me why you are not X-ing", especially why someone is ...
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How to contact to partner after breakup who does not want to talk

The lesson you must learn from this experience is that you can only control your own actions, not those of other people. You could have controlled yourself differently during the "heated" and "bitter"...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

As someone who has been through the same motions, I can say: she might love you, but is not in love with you anymore; the bigger problem is she neither having a full-time occupation, serious hobbies, ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

Firstly, I am sorry for your situation. I know how you feel. I had an attitude for my fiancee a while ago and afterwards, when I was OK, she had it. My thought was exactly the same as yours: I did it ...
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How to ask for calls and deal with my SO's reluctance to calling?

It sounds like she is very introverted (I'm seeing a lot of myself in her behaviours). Texting is easy, it gives her time to think about what she says and if needed, to read something back, delete it ...
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What to do when meeting an online friend in real life for the first time?

If you've spent a lot of time talking to each other online, you'll probably have shared jokes or 'memes' which you've used to each other a lot and which make you both laugh. Try using them in real ...
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How to communicate with a friend I've known online for eight years?

i simply don't know how to approach him if i see him Is that the problem? Just that? Then I'd start with something cheerful/funny to ease up the initial embarassement: Sooo, look who's there [big ...
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Approach former date online without making it awkward

Having had personal contact/friendships/relationships with people with anxiety and/or depression (usually both), I can assure you that from their perspective social interaction can be very difficult ...
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How do I tell a friend that's trying to start another long distance relationship that it isn't a very good idea without hurting our friendship?

I’ve learned that telling people I disagree about something is always going to carry the chance of upsetting them. It’s just going to be a risk; whether or not it’s worth it is up to you and your ...
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How do I ask people out in an online group?

If there is someone that interests you, it's definitely reasonable to message them privately however you can do it (e.g. via meetup messaging), and ask them if they'd like to chat privately (what in ...
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