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How to align personal interests with family?

Life is about setting priorities, and while it's common for people to say that you should spend "all your time" with your family, the truth is that for many people that just doesn't work. Lots of ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

Not to stray too far into parenting but I had a similar problem with learning reading comprehension at a young age. My primary motive for not reading much was the same too: I was uninterested in what ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

What I've done with my daughter that did not like to read is to encourage her with carrots, not sticks. First I would sprinkle around the house small notes written "Ice cream" or "hot chocolate". ...
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How to refuse someone who would like to borrow our baby?

For some reason, people saying "no" always seem to think that they need a reason. Hint: You don't. "Thanks for offering; I'm fine." "I appreciate your offer but not right now." Or, for someone ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

Allthough I am not a parent I am diagnosed with PDD-NOS, an autism spectrum disorder, so I think I can try and give an answer. While this might not be the complete case I think it might have ...
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My wife has now decided she doesn't want have children, but I fear it's just because of mental illness (depression)

Disclaimer: I am not a professional. This is based on my personal experience going through depression and talking to friends who wen through such ordeals. I wrote this in hope it helps you understand ...
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How to align personal interests with family?

The tough truth is that you have to change your lifestyle now. To what extent and how - is your decision and depends on the sort of work you do. But you always can to involve your child into your ...
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Family of migraine patient - how to help kids understand violent outbursts of migraine patient (mother) in response to noise

First, let me argue with your "it's ok for my wife to hit my daughter because she gets migraines" theory. I get migraines, have for decades. I got one this week that interacted with a tooth ...
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How can I help my autistic son with unrealistic life ambitions

(Note: I am autistic myself) As a general rule, autistic people like facts. So, what are the facts that make you believe your son can't do all those things? Please, remember that your son has the ...
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How to announce to our relatives that our daughter has dementia?

I have no experience with dementia so I can't tell for sure if this advice will work for you. My answer is based on how my family told me that my niece is autistic and how a friend told me our now ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

How can I be encouraging Jane to practice her reading, even if she doesn't recognize any use in it? The best way to convince someone to practice an activity that they don't see a benefit to, is to ...
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How to align personal interests with family?

As a parent, this does strike me as not sounding like you understand how to give your child the basic needs. Providing food and clothing and lights is not enough. Children need to be loved. They ...
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How to align personal interests with family?

Your question doesn't provide much information. I got that you are the working parent and that your wife pressure you to spend more time with your child, but don't how much you already spend with her, ...
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How to align personal interests with family?

I think I can provide a different point of view here. The kid's view. I come from completely broken family. My parents divorced when I was ~20 after more or less 10 years of constant bickering, ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

she doesn't see any use in practicing reading. As someone else already said, show her the use. Show it in an aproppriate way. "You need to read the street signs" or "You cannot order food if you ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

I'd like to suggest something completely different that may work. My source for this is my own nephew who has high functioning autism. Essentially he went from being one of the worst at spelling to ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

Note: High functioning autist here. Since this is interpersonal and not parenting, I think I have valuable input how to talk to autistic people/children. People who themselves aren't or didn't know ...
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How to refuse someone who would like to borrow our baby?

To know how to say no it helps to know why people want to "borrow" a 7 month old. There are three reasons I can think of: they love the baby and want to spend time with her, they want to do you a ...
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Persuade community staff to be more lenient on unwritten "rules" about hot tub

My family did a lot of RV travel when I was growing up. In general it was a very positive experience! Most of the people we met were very personable and friendly. Since you're neighbors with these ...
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Persuade community staff to be more lenient on unwritten "rules" about hot tub

You can try and reason with the person in question, but I think you'll find it quite difficult to not come across as ... difficult. This is because these people are trying to paint their personal ...
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Explaining to my future child why I chose to be absent from their life

A good friend of mine does not know who her father is. Her mother never told her. She is now over fifty, her mother died years ago, so she will never be able to answer this question. And during her ...
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How can I help my autistic son with unrealistic life ambitions

Personally I have a handicap that have been predicted as making me not being able to get a job, and I've not only found one but also been consistently praised in doing well. I'm supporting Ael's ...
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Asking teacher to fix course software in group chat to speed up resolution

If the group chat contains other troubleshooting questions then I'd definitely put this concern there as well. The trick to avoid your child's teacher feeling attacked is simple: don't attack them. ...
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How to convince younger brother to participate in helping me and others instead of being too focused to something?

Here is what worked for my brother and I (done by my parents when we were that old) and what I think would be nice additions to it. What it boils down to is that he needs to understand that he has ...
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How to get my adult son to stop criticizing his Dad (me)

I think I know how you feel about this situation. Just "think", because I was "the Seth" in my case, living not close, but WITH the family. Being smart, making jokes etc. I did it to be "fun", but ...
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Is it appropriate to remove a privelege from my younger brother for bad behavior?

As tempting as it can be respond this way to a negative interaction, reprisal is rarely helpful (in the adult world reprisal can quickly lead to job loss). Instead it's better to try to deal with the ...
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How to talk to someone who is interfering with my parenting?

Background My condolences on the loss of your mother-in-law, that is a very difficult situation. Something to note, everyone is grieving and may make even simple interactions more difficult (even if ...
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Family of migraine patient - how to help kids understand violent outbursts of migraine patient (mother) in response to noise

We have a bit of a problem here, a kind of double-bind. If I understand correctly, your wife did not make it clear what the problem was, then she let it fester, then when she couldn't take it anymore ...
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