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As some others have mentioned, you should also consider whether you want a baby or not, rather than just make your decision based on your partner's desires/ability. Based on what you've said, it seems like you would want a baby given that it will be taken care of properly. I see 3 possible scenarios here: You value a baby more than your current relationship:...


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You question the stability of your relationship. After reading your story, I share your concern. I suggest that instead of talking to him about reasons for not having a baby, you talk to him about a divorce or whatever legal separation is required for the setup you currently have. Here are a few things that indicate your relationship is not a healthy one: ...


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In my opinion you might have to first make sure of your own feelings before you can communicate this clearly to him. If you have a child, this child will learn certain things from you and his father. Do you think it will be bad for your child to learn how to live from someone that likes to play games, and spend time working on his projects? This is a wild ...


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I have known somebody who wanted to undergo a surgery, and the lifestyle of the patient needed to change in a way that was not possible for that patient. So overall, not doing the surgery was the better alternative. Instead of going judgemental, I provided the patient with two alternatives: Go have surgery, face the array of problems after, when the ...


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When your boyfriend says we would likely break up in a few years if we did not have a baby he's saying that you need to have a baby to preserve your relationship. That is a really, really, really bad reason for bringing another human being into the world. It's generally accepted that having a child is not going to preserve a relationship. For a quick ...


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Nonviolent Communication would argue what you identify as what you want to communicate (the fact you believe he's not ready) is a judgement. Communicating negative judgements is risking negative reception and even more so when the way to make it positive again (how to be ready to have a baby) is unclear. I have all sorts of negative experiences regarding ...


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