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You can't without angering people. These people know they aren't following the rules. They also know they can get away with it. They know people will let them in because they don't want to be rude, and they are taking advantage of that. People who do this often get aggressive when they're refused, because they know this will often get the person refusing ...


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In my experience, its easy to think that every question you ask someone in a conversation needs to be an amazingly clever, insightful, etc. question, which is generally not the case. Often, the questions that get people to share more, and feel like they are listened to, are simple questions that show that you're interested in what they are talking about. ...


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I know you have an answer already, but for anyone else who wants a simple one-off to try, here's a line that has worked for me in similar situations: [smiling] Thanks, but I like it this way. This one preserves politeness and if said assertively avoids being further hassled, thanks to how short it is and without room for misinterpretation. It may not ...


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Your goal to come up with a response where you can decline their requests without damaging the relationship may not be attainable. These people have come to rely on you to help them for assignments and tests. That is what the relationship consists of. They love you for your free and reliable services. They will be nice to you all semester in return for this ...


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Broken record method. Please use card to gain access. Please use CARD to gain access. Please USE card to gain access. Do not take responsibility. Do not blame rules. Explain it's the doors that require that. But, most importantly, talk with a supervisor or manager about enforcing the rule on your coworkers because it's not only disturbing your work (...


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You need to prioritize your needs over others' wants. You also need to get used to dealing with disappointed faces. It's honestly fine. Put yourself in their shoes; if you hoped that someone would help you and got turned down, would you be all smiles? Probably not. But disappointment with the situation doesn't mean they're disappointed in you specifically. ...


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