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One thing I have learned is that it is generally better to assume ignorance or stupidity over malevolence. I think there are two things I haven't seen in the other answers yet that I would try first: Empathize. Sit down and ask your boyfriend something along the lines of "Seeing those pictures really bothers me, and despite having said a couple of ...


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I dont think you need to focus so much on WHAT to say, but just the fact that you are talking to them. According to Open Democracy, a lot of homeless people are lonely, 77% of homeless people often or sometimes feel lonely, according to a survey undertaken by Crisis in 2015. That’s more than three times the level of loneliness amongst the middle-aged ...


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How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer? At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request. First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort ...


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I've worked with homeless people weekly for couple months per year over 2-3 years at a winter shelter (Toronto, Canada). You are already doing far, far more than most people (eye contact, shake hands, have a conversation). From a respected mentor, here are the things that homeless people appreciate: Eye contact: Most people walk by and try to avoid them. ...


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The answer is actually quite obvious: ask them! If you start the conversation (after the hello/how are you?/fine you?/ok ok ...) with a genuine interest in how they feel, you'll achieve exactly what you are asking for here. Asking how they would feel about you talking happily about your work shows them 2 things: 1) That you are willing to give them ...


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I would like to add a few thoughts to the excellent answers already given. I used to visit a homeless shelter once a week for a period of about 5 years, and it never ceased to make me feel humbled and thankful. Kindness shown towards others, especially those less fortunate, not only brightens their lives, but also changes YOU in the best possible ways. ...


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Tl;Dr: Don't overthink this. Make fun of it, make fun of yourself. And take it easy. This is strongly dependent on where you are from. I am from Czech Republic, the country that is steadily in top ranks regarding beer consumption per capita. And consider, there are a lot of people that dedicated their drinking career to spirits and those, who dedicated ...


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Right now I have some health problems, and drinking ANY fermented beverages is not an option for me. But before being in this situation, I had exactly the same kind of problem. What I did: When placing the order, I asked about the availability of non-alcoholic beer. If they actually had non-alcoholic beer, I ordered that, EXPLICITLY stating that I order ...


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How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer? Other: ... I asked him if he would mind removing her picture. He said "I can do that". Fast forward a few month. The picture is still in the frame ... ... He is the kind of guy that leaves stuff he does not deem important ...


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It seems that he already knows that you dislike the pictures, but for some reason he does not do something about it. We might suppose that he's lazy about the issue, because you say that he procrastinate things... hence, he needs some help. I usually procrastinate a lot of things, but I have discovered that asking someone for help often solves all my ...


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First of all, you should decide for yourself to cancel your friendship. You should be 100% sure of your decision. This is important. Explain it once why you would like to break up and you may leave feedback to your friend why you want to cancel your friendship. From your words it should be understood that there is no way back. There is no way how he can ...


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