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There are generally 2 reasons why people might ask to see photos: Asking is the socially expected thing to do. In this case the expected response would be a non-committal: Yeah, I'll bring them in sometime. (or something like "they're on my Facebook profile", which presumably doesn't apply here) In most cases people aren't actually going to hold ...


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I would just smile and say "Sure, I'll bring the album in some time" and then just... not. If you get pushed or someone reminds you about it, just repeat the same line again. Eventually they'll forget and/or stop asking. Explicitly stating "no" is much more likely to lead to further pushy questions about why you're not comfortable ...


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I'd just start with honesty. Saying "My wedding was a private affair and the pictures are not going be shared with anyone (except guests)" should really get the point across that your wedding is none of their business. You can keep repeating it, if neccesary. You don't have to lie about being a private person; I'm pretty sure your colleagues will ...


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You ask an interesting question. Generally in the US, people are pretty excited about showing off wedding pictures so this is... unexpected. Yet people have the right to be private about things; I know that I am! And people also tend to have a hard time adapting to unexpected behaviors as well. This is a situation where a compromise is a challenge. You don'...


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It is highly desirable to face the person you are talking to. Facing away transmits the message that the person you talk to is not important to you. I was quite offended. You should not be. As long as your boss just made a statement, there is nothing offensive in this. To me I thought that it was almost like a parent chiding their kid. From the point of ...


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I think you, as a retired psychiatrist, no doubt are well-versed with these principles of which you may perhaps wish to remind yourself from time to time: When a friend shows her care in a way that is unhelpful, it does not mean she would want to burden you or impose some sort of solutions on you. It probably means she is so desperate to help you out the ...


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I cannot judge on whether the committee members’ comments on your attitude are justified as I was not present at the event; and much of people’s impressions on one’s attitude often have to do with the way, the facial expressions and the demeanour in which one spoke. The reason why the adjudicators regarded your remarks that you did all the work alone as ...


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