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I agree with Astralbee's approach for a long-term solution. If for some reason you need a short term solution, where you need to break into the conversation before getting to know the group, then I've found a useful technique to be asking a question. I do so immediately after a topic I'm uninformed on comes up. A paraphrased real-life example: Alice: I ...


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Some people find talking in social situations much easier and can seemingly break into a group straight away, but that isn't always a good thing. Most social groups build up gradually and organically over time, and people don't instantly break into them as easily as you might think. When you see someone loudly and confidently breaking into a new social group,...


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As an intro, I am a person too that has a very not-happy facial expression and I know your situation, being asked how you are due to this expression. Since I started to watch other peoples' expressions, I learned this is very common. Almost nobody walks along smiling or laughing, so why should I? Are others being asked that too? How to let people know I am ...


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If some people inquire your state it's probably because they see you isolated and offer a conversation if you would like. So the exercise is similar to saying a polite "no" to a stranger. They offer a conversation that you decline. In order to decline something the most polite way I usually don't have to make the negotiation go at length, but just ...


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