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My religion prohibits me from being profane, how can I tell my friends to stop swearing so that I am not influenced by their actions? You don't. You can't expect other people to follow your religion. If you phrase your request like that, it will likely feel to them like you're asking them to adhere to the rules of your religion. What you can do, is ask ...


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My religion prohibits me from being profane, how can I tell my friends to stop swearing so that I am not influenced by their actions? Taking your personal beliefs and imposing it on your friends who do not share your beliefs is not likely to work out well in middle school, or life in general. They do not follow your religion and cannot be expected to ...


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Don't mention the religion Only let your friends know that you personally find their constant swearing disturbing. If they care, they will control it. To strangers, don't mention anything. Let them be. My experience Some close friends back in college hostel used to swear too much. It was considered normal back in their hometown. Swear words were like normal ...


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Most religion asks you to adhere to certain principals, some encourage you to proselytize... (encourage others to join your religion) The particular religious tradition I was raised in encouraged the "make a friend, be a friend, bring a friend to X" sort of proselytizing Basically it's often better to be an example, develop a relationship, and then let ...


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This is a tricky question, and one I deal with every day. Cussing is in every second sentence with most of the people I work with currently, and for the rest, it's in every sentence. Here are several things I have found that can help. 1. Request (politely) that they cut out some of the cuss words. I usually go something along the lines of: Say, for ...


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A couple of years ago some friends and I played an absolutely NSFW knockoff version of Cards Against Humanity... if you've ever played CAH, you'll know that it's already pretty NSFW. This game, aptly titled Personally Incorrect was a last-minute buy when we realized that one simply doesn't walk into Target and buy a copy of CAH... There were six of us - ...


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I think this is something of a potential minefield if handled incorrectly. You are young now, but as you get older this won't just be about what's trendy or rebellious; so certain arguments may not age well. The way you express disapproval is very important. There are good and bad ways of doing it. You have chosen to adopt a belief which is unpopular. ...


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As you can see from many other answers, giving a specifically religious (especially Christian) reason for a request is considered inappropriate in contemporary Western culture. Profanity, which used to be considered inappropriate, is now considered appropriate and deserving of toleration and respect, while your religious convictions are considered the ...


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Your religious beliefs have absolutely no claim on others, not even your closest friends. It is really that simple. The belief that one's own religious beliefs should have any consequences at all for the behavior of others is a tragic error that will destroy friendships and alienate coworkers. Profanity is an unfortunately weak kind of speech. You should ...


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It often feels really awkward to ask somebody a favour, especially when you don't know them very well, but once you summon the courage to do it, it's not really so hard The key is to be polite and to explain why their language makes you feel uncomfortable. Once you've gone through what to say once, it just doesn't seem so hard. If you have clear reasons ...


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I "sugar-coated the pill." Early in my career, I remarked that "John Doe is a good guy, and he'd be a great guy if he would cut out the foul language." He didn't quite do so, but he "moderated" his use of such language, at least around me.


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You can try showing your comfort with explicit topics by engaging in the conversations a bit more actively and/or enthusiastically, but since you don't necessarily want to talk about certain things you self you can ask questions or prompt people for more details (if appropriate). Basically you want to show interest, even if you are not the "driving force" ...


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A good question Showing respect for the feelings of others is very important. My kids swear with their friends, and not at home. It is about emotional expression and how they want to come across. It would simply not be appropriate with us, their parents, as it is not like they have to prove anything to us, but rather respect a more caring approach. As ...


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You really can't change an entire community that simply is not possible. Especially if swearing is acceptable to some degree in the community then you are really out of luck. If your problem is getting people you interact with to understand, then I might have a solution. The problem is that you are telling them it is the worse swear word in English but ...


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There is nothing two-faced about talking and acting appropriately to the situation. Think of a formal event, or of a children's party - it's not two-faced to watch your tongue in those situations, even if normally you would use profanities, right? Same for people - in certain company you might feel that using profanities is inappropriate (because they're not ...


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Ah, yes. That stage. I remember it quite well. I was exactly like this. I didn't like swearing, but my peers at school would also try and trick me into saying something like "shut up" - which was a big deal since I always made sure not to say it. I'd recommend you to do two things: Stay conscious Depending on how respectful your friends are of who you ...


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Often asking politely will bear fruit, especially if there's one or two people whose use of expletives is significantly higher than the norm in the environment. Addressing the religious portion of the question, I had a coworker who would say "Jesus" or "Jesus Christ" for emphasis quite frequently. After one of the incidents, I turned to him and said: ...


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I remember saying as a young man, "X is a good guy and he'd be a great guy if he'd cut out the foul language." He didn't quite do so, but he did "moderate" his language." Your approach will differ slightly from person to person, situation to situation, but there will be opportunities to tell your friends, "I like you, but I'd like you even more if you would ...


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I don't really like it when others swear. I myself don't swear. That said, unless something someone else says is especially frustrating to me (i.e., I don't call out some of the more minor uses of strong language, but use of significantly stronger language I might say something like, "hey, could you not use that language?" or whatever) I don't bother them ...


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(Just a little hint: not everyone knows what "8th grade" is, so giving your age would be more useful. I assume you are around 14 or 15 years old.) how can I tell my friends to stop swearing You cannot, period. This is a very tough cookie, which takes some people years or decades to swallow and work around. What to do if other people do or say things ...


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I think it is more about profanities being thrown around which makes you uncomfortable and in general throwing profanities makes many people (including me) uncomfortable and offended. When I was in school and college years I made it clear to my friends and other that I don't like it and most of the time people around me did not use profanities knowing that I ...


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I have several friends who are Preacher's Kids. Needless to say, they watch their language around their parents. Yet they can weave a colorful tapestry of profanity that would hang out over Lake Michigan to this day. There's a word that guys use in conversation with each other that women (as a group), to put it mildly, find very objectionable. So many ...


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I work in a situation very similar to your school situation. When I first joined the job, it was the case for a couple employees in particular that every second sentence contained a swear word. The other sentences were nothing but cussing. The trick I used was simply to show by my lifestyle that I didn't approve of their swearing. This showed itself up ...


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