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Red flags everywhere. I dated a girl (early 20's) a bit about half a year ago, while she was on a break from her ex relationship. Classic rebound relationship. She doesn't like you for you, but instead likes you for the temporary emotional void that you are filling. She loves both of us No she doesn't. but she says that she'll eventually love to ...


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This sounds complicated, and I've been in her position and it is not an easy one. When I was in my early 20's I was in a controlling and verbally abusive relationship. My father was similar toward myself and my mother, so it was the "norm" for me. I was definitely unable to break out of that for a long time, and it took someone saying to me that I needed ...


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You've identified the problem: cultural differences. So this isn't an issue of who's right and who's wrong, who's be reasonable and who's being unreasonable. Both of you are right and being reasonable according to the culture you were brought up in. So the two of you will need to negotiate a compromise; an arrangement you both can live with, even if neither ...


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I've been in an identical situation and it was torture, so I'm sorry for the painful and energy draining situation you're in. I know her regular contact makes it all worth it, but there's a far better way to go about this, for both you and her. My best advice, and the only thing that helped me after over a year of us being stuck in this situation, was this: ...


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I had an ex which was very close to his parents and especially to his mother. He moved from them to go in with me and we were seeing them once every two weeks or so. I have myself a very distant, somewhat cold relationship with mine. I clearly never had nor want the relationship they had with my own family. From the very first day we met, he and his mother ...


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It's impossible to say from the info you've given. There are two possibilities: The first is she isn't sleeping with her co-worker, which means a colleague either massively misinterpreted something or (much more likely) is purposely spreading false, damaging, and serious rumors. She may naturally become defensive because she's caught a lot of flak for ...


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My problem is that she gives me some very vague and contradictory answers to some questions, and they are sometimes opposite to her actions. I have found people's actions to be more reliable than their words at indicating what someone truly wants / believes. I was in a similar situation to you where I knew someone who claimed they wanted to be with me, but ...


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