6

When you express they might be closet trans, I actually read, through your partner's behavior, that they certainly would already label themselves so: They claim to be agender They asked you for gendered pronouns different from assigned sex This alone is enough to claim oneself transgender. But the trans label is vague and regroup actually a lot of ...


5

First, a small frame challenge. You can move together even if you're not married. Just as you can get a job in that other country, so can she. It could be a fun adventure together in which you both work on the project of finding the appropriate pair of jobs, and a place to live. Of course, this would also move you quite a long way along the living together / ...


3

It will be very hard for you to get anything from me or anyone here as you are up to your neck in the struggle and may not have the distance or perspective needed to see a way through. You talk of many situations so it is impossible to say who is wrong. In fact I don't think that matters much. You need to pull way back on the arguments and fighting for there ...


3

In non-violent communication theory, as well as my own experience, a healthy relationship in essence is only possible if both partners are involved in satisfying their own needs at the same time they are involved in satisfying the needs of the other person. When you set yourself goal to go abroad you only care about your own part of the equation. But how is ...


2

In seminary we learned about counseling others and I've volunteered with the elderly. For the most part, people in advanced years and declining health know what's happening. We all face our own mortality - some do it earlier than others. Some choose to ignore their decline, others choose to act like it's not happening, still others are realistic about it. ...


2

I'm going to challenge this question a little bit. You are in a relationship with someone who only apologizes after a long period if at all and apparently does not accept accountability for their actions. You are asking for a way to deal with the surface level of that behavior. How do you think this will affect you over the long run? Do you think that this ...


1

My sister (65 at the time) handled this for us, I witnessed it years ago, and it worked fine. Once, when we met at our mom's, she started talking about her own will and what would be done, how, what she had decided, who was in charge, well, everything was set up. That started an informal discussion between us, where we mostly said or asked who had already ...


Only top voted, non community-wiki answers of a minimum length are eligible