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How to properly tell others that forgetting something doesn't mean I don't care about them?

In reading your question, I see one very important thing: you are over-committed. I ran into this issue when I was in Graduate School as well. The first thing is to decide your priorities and focus ...
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How to stop divulging information that I don't want to share?

People like this, in my experience, like to pick away and have little to no sense of boundaries. They want what they want, and other people are there to provide it for them. I've seen other people ...
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People assuming dead person's intentions

People can't read thoughts and can't really know what are things that could comfort you through grief. Usually people either copy what is the social norm where you live by in expressing condolences, ...
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Dealing with older people who insist on doing everything themselves, refusing help and hoarding skills/knowledge

Making an older person change his ways of doing things is quite difficult. It's better if we just accept that this is how it's gonna be. We want them not to do something risky? We can't do that. All ...
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How to properly tell others that forgetting something doesn't mean I don't care about them?

I'm coming from a very similar situation where my stress and unhappiness from my previous job caused me to be very forgetting and additionally very easy to get angry. Causing some small fights. You ...
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How to get relative to respond without coming across as overly nudgy?

It seems like you are both on a different pages when it comes to "response etiquette" which is normal. Some people respond to a text within seconds and others it takes more time, even weeks in your ...
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How to encourage a relative to follow their initial will to try therapy?

I was in a similar situation myself, but I was the person who wants to find help for myself. Two things helped me to overcome the initial pushback: First I found a person who had used this help before ...
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How to stop divulging information that I don't want to share?

A couple of points to make: Firstly, this seems to be an issue of assertiveness. You're not sticking up for your boundaries - you're not comfortable saying no, even though you have every good reason ...
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Dealing with older people who insist on doing everything themselves, refusing help and hoarding skills/knowledge

This is something that definitely happens in my family. So I can only offer an answer within the family scenario. In my family it happens because it seems to be easier and faster to do it themselves ...
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How to tell a sister-in-law I don't like her how much personal content she sends me?

As a people pleaser, creating boundaries can be difficult for me and is something I am constantly working on. A tip from my therapist was to structure my boundary setting in the following way: ...
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How to be less awkward at a funeral?

I understand your feelings. I might say that I've been in the same club once. One of the main things you could have done is getting to the hospitality. in that way you will not be noticed much and ...
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Dealing with older people who insist on doing everything themselves, refusing help and hoarding skills/knowledge

Well, I admit my boyfriend would sometimes qualify, I'm sure I also have tendencies, but so does most of my family's men. I do not know for sure the origin, but to me it explains by gender role ...
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How to apologize about a broken relationship with a relative?

I have personally had difficulties with relatives in the past, and I have found the best way is to try and not repeat past mistakes, which you seem to be working on already, and also to "clear the air"...
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How to properly tell others that forgetting something doesn't mean I don't care about them?

I think you actually said it all already. You miss at most a part of the interpretation. I really don't mean anything bad by that. But communication is really about how your message is interpreted,...
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