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Some relationships are not worth fixing, especially abusive ones, seeing as she tried to catfish you as well as name you in a fake police report, stalks you online, threatens to murder you, et cetera. I would instead urge both you and your wife to stay far away from her and have her behaviour documented by the police if she keeps harassing you. If she ...


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I recommend looking into how to respond to and handle emotional abuse, in general. My personal experience with a narcissist has taught me several things how to handle situations like these. I think the best one overall is the grey rock method. The Grey Rock Method To avoid the mother-in-law making drama or taking "digs" at you (chipping at your ...


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I am asking for advice on how to tell a very touchy person who is not accustomed to listening to anyone about anything that she may be letting herself in for more than she can cope with. I'm not sure that can be done. People who don't want to listen will just not listen. However, you can try and work descriptives of how bad the winter is into every day ...


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I'm going to preface my answer with a gentle warning. It simply may not work. Living with people encroaches on ones personal space and privacy. The more people you live with, the less personal space and privacy you get. That being said, you should be able to carve out some space for yourself, and that is how I would approach it. This is a request for ...


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Do not try to convince your girlfriend to not cycle to work. You likely won't convince her, and you might risk annoying her. Join her in campaigning for safer infrastructure instead. I've always cycled to work and school, and I've cycled in London too. I found it not all that bad, not as bad as a typical English rural narrow hedgerowed country road at ...


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I"m going to challenge your question as a whole here. Through most of his life, when he left the house, he was unavailable via phone. That's HIS usage pattern of the phone. Why does he need to adapt to a modern usage pattern? I understand why you want him to do so, but what's the benefit to him? How will it help him out? I'd submit you need to come to ...


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how to tell very touchy people who are not accustomed to listening to anyone about anything that they may be letting themselves in for more than they can cope with. So you're saying they're not going to listen to you. So don't tell them what to do. Avoid anything like "you should..." or "If I were you..." Maybe try causal stories about your experiences, or ...


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I would say that a good way to get touchy people to reconsider such a thing without risking conflict is to get into a conversation about it while avoiding mentioning what you think they should do. I doubt they have forgotten how bad the winter gets, it is more likely that they are stubborn and embarrassed at needing help. Starting up some idle chatter about ...


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I faced a similar situation with my mother, who is technically competent but tended to go out either without her phone, or with it turned off. After we had a situation that was complicated and upsetting but wouldn't have been if her phone had been with her and on, we did a sort of post mortem where she ended up concluding that was the issue. That's ...


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I know how you feel, but there isn't much you could say to strangers face to face. You could though volunteer in organisations for safe driving awareness (delivering information sheets, organising events etc.) share information about safe driving on social media share unfortunate accidents on social media or with friends and family when there is a related ...


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In these cases what is one to do? My answer will focus more on pre-emptive conflict prevention because although completely preventing conflict may be impossible/undesirable, knowing what to do and what not to do around a person of concern will greatly reduce the number and aggressiveness of said conflicts which makes it the most effective method in ...


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When talking with relatives with vastly different worldview I have found, that fact based discussion is almost impossible, because set of sources they consider trustworthy has little to no intersection with my trusted sources. What I do in this situation is to try to build empathy instead of engaging in discussion. For this I found stories and personal ...


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Those outbursts are dealt with by administrators but are not always grounds to permanently remove the aggressive member of the group. Eventually after so many outbursts and continued poor performance, the aggressive person is told their time with the group is up and they'll have to leave at a certain date. ...group members go on in their work while ...


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Firstly I'd like to address your comment about how "we can't live in fear". While I agree that it is unproductive to have a life which is dictated by fear, fear is a very important survival mechanism, which should not be ignored for the sake of short term peace of mind. Instead, fear can and should be used productively in situations like the one you have ...


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