New answers tagged saying-no
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There are generally 2 reasons why people might ask to see photos:
Asking is the socially expected thing to do.
In this case the expected response would be a non-committal:
Yeah, I'll bring them in sometime.
(or something like "they're on my Facebook profile", which presumably doesn't apply here)
In most cases people aren't actually going to hold ...
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I would just smile and say "Sure, I'll bring the album in some time" and then just... not. If you get pushed or someone reminds you about it, just repeat the same line again. Eventually they'll forget and/or stop asking.
Explicitly stating "no" is much more likely to lead to further pushy questions about why you're not comfortable ...
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I'd just start with honesty. Saying "My wedding was a private affair and the pictures are not going be shared with anyone (except guests)" should really get the point across that your wedding is none of their business.
You can keep repeating it, if neccesary. You don't have to lie about being a private person; I'm pretty sure your colleagues will ...
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You ask an interesting question. Generally in the US, people are pretty excited about showing off wedding pictures so this is... unexpected.
Yet people have the right to be private about things; I know that I am! And people also tend to have a hard time adapting to unexpected behaviors as well.
This is a situation where a compromise is a challenge. You don'...
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This will not be a fun conversation. Possibly the worst thing you can do tomorrow during lunch is to first lead him on with small talk ("Yeah, I too am really excited for starting the PhD"). I've had conversations like this with parents regarding dropping out of uni and with student councillors about said dropping out. It's not fun. The thing that ...
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I'm sorry your mom doesn't accept your boundaries. I have similar issues with my parents.
My brother handles this really well. He says no and never gives in. He accepts right away if they propose something or says no, stays with that and maybe gives another option. I'm trying to learn from this.
So the strategy would be to say, 'No, I don't want you to visit ...
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