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How to tell friends something goes against my religion?
My religion prohibits me from being profane, how can I tell my friends to stop swearing so that I am not influenced by their actions?
You don't. You can't expect other people to follow your religion. ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?
Given the constraints you've laid out in your question, you can't.
You want to be seen (roughly) as a peer to these students, but also want them to treat you as a professional that is off-limits for ...
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How to stop classmate from bullying me
This is definitely bullying. Even if you are a "bit annoying and difficult" as you say, personal attacks such as calling you fat and ugly are definitely way too far. This is what worked for me when I ...
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How to politely correct a teacher?
I think your approach was actually pretty good. I think what you should attempt in the future is to ask a specific question that you think/know will not work. Also, definitely avoid accusing him of ...
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How do I correct my daughter's teacher's grammar?
Don't.
It is a minor thing, and one that our (American) culture is used to. Forty years ago everyone said "Mary and me went to the store", and faux-erudite people jumped on that bandwagon so hard ...
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How to tell my professor that I don't understand the class and that I want office hours?
tl;dr: that's the duty of a professor to answer reasonable inquiries from students. As professors tend to be very busy, keep things simple and go straight to the points that you have a problem with.
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How to tell friends something goes against my religion?
My religion prohibits me from being profane, how can I tell my friends to stop swearing so that I am not influenced by their actions?
Taking your personal beliefs and imposing it on your friends who ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?
Not to stray too far into parenting but I had a similar problem with learning reading comprehension at a young age. My primary motive for not reading much was the same too: I was uninterested in what ...
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How to tell friends something goes against my religion?
Don't mention the religion
Only let your friends know that you personally find their constant swearing disturbing. If they care, they will control it.
To strangers, don't mention anything. Let them be....
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How to tell family members that they should not downplay your major?
You don't.
*NOTE: this is coming from a US perspective, cultural norms may differ in Poland. YMMV.
This is your girlfriend. Even if she were your wife, interfering in her family's internal dynamics ...
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How to tell family members that they should not downplay your major?
Since they dismiss her opinion, the idea is basically to bring in external data to support her case.
Use facts or statistics
Gather as many statistics as possible about the course and throw one of ...
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How to stop classmate from bullying me
Most of the answers so far are standard advise from people who have not been in the position of the victim. They require skills or traits that you may or may not have.
Ignoring / staying calm - that ...
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How do I correct my daughter's teacher's grammar?
There's no reason to correct the teacher, unless it is something you see often repeated.
Everybody makes miskates. And in case you wish to correct this, do so as an aside to something else, subtly.
I ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?
Note: I am answering as a teacher, now teaching in a high school. In the past, when I was teaching assistant at university, I have been in the situation where students were trying to flirt with me. I ...
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How to tell a friend to stop being rude and an attention seeker?
I feel you. It must be uncomfortable to hang out with someone like that. Keep in mind, however, that throughout life our own personalities change, and it seems to me that your friend is discovering ...
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Should I lie to my friend if it inspires him to do something good?
If it makes any difference whatever you tell him, why the confusion? Be honest then.
Chances are what you're worried about (him being discouraged from helping the class)
won't happen and you both ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?
What I've done with my daughter that did not like to read is to encourage her with carrots, not sticks.
First I would sprinkle around the house small notes written "Ice cream" or "hot chocolate". ...
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How can I calm myself down when giving a presentation?
I too am a verified geek. I even went through high school with a briefcase and pocket protector. To compound the problem my family moved very frequently (attended 13 public schools, from 21 addresses, ...
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How to tell my classmates that I don't want to sit in the back row
I'm no personal coach or professional, but I've had my personal share of experience and watched a lot of therapy videos.
Make sure not to sit in the back. Don't be victim of manipulation, although ...
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How should a person be told to apologise when he thinks he isn't wrong?
Here's the thing about Indian classrooms
Teachers usually expect "pindrop silence" and undivided attention when they're teaching, and complete "obedience" in general.
That is, ...
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How to stop classmate from bullying me
I abhor violence but I actually do agree that sometimes a good hard knock works. I've taught my daughter this too and she is the sensitive type. One time on the jumpy house another girl was getting ...
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Should I lie to my friend if it inspires him to do something good?
Discouragement is natural. You're both in the same boat, so tell him you didn't get it. If he gets discouraged about helping out, why don't you inspire him by setting an example? That no matter what, ...
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Approach a friend's lack of sleep
I would suggest the opposite of what AbhigyanC answered, I like to believe your friend is aware of the sacrifices he's making, and that he's actually trying to fulfil his tasks respecting the deadline....
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How do I correct my daughter's teacher's grammar?
I don't believe there is a way to correct him without a serious risk of causing embarrassment and/or offense.
Grammatical and spelling errors are unfortunately quite common, particularly in email, ...
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How to handle a younger sibling being verbally bullied, with sometimes racist remarks, at school?
Make racist remarks back at him? NOPE. When they go low, you don't.
You have two equally valid options remaining:
Tell the teacher. or Ignore him.
If this is a one-off retaliation after he got the ...
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