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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

It sounds like your wife is having what is often called an emotional affair. Even though it is just talk, the heart is involved. I say this not to escalate the situation, but because it is important ...
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How to reduce the awkwardness on the way to the bedroom?

From personal experiences, it's always going to be sort of awkward, because very few can act like a suave George Clooney-esque character from a movie, so just embrace the awkwardness and have fun with ...
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How to tell someone I'm uninterested in them romantically?

First off, you're never obligated to have sex with anyone ever. That's worth repeating so, you're never obligated to have sex with anyone ever. Not. Ever. If you don't really really want to, you don't ...
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Asking my friend out even though I have a girlfriend

I've been in polyamorous relationships for some time now, so I speak from a bit of experience here. The first question to ask yourself before you even decide if this is a path you can take: You ...
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How to have an honest discussion, when all outcomes are undesirable

What I think you haven't fully faced is that your conversation already has only one possible outcome: breaking up. I am certain that given what you have been through, the idea of coercing your ...
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How to invite a significant other to spend the night without implying sex?

I was in the same situation as you just a few weeks after I met my fiancee. It was very late and we were near my apartment which was about 50 minutes from hers on public transportation. I invited her ...
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Communicating during sex when my partner doesn't like direct questions?

Consent conversations are usually better had before sex... Don't get me wrong, it's always good to be aware of how your partner is feeling during sex, and checking in is a good thing to do, ...
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Showing someone you are interested in a relationship but not ready to send nude

Your question is primarily-opinion-based, but I'm just gonna go ahead and say it... Don't share nude or inappropriate pictures of yourself with people you don't know and trust extremely well. Once ...
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How do you distinguish between a guy wanting a relationship or just sex?

Friendships, dating and intercourse can be incredibly confusing even to those experienced in them, and if you are new to dating and those kinds of relationships it makes it even more difficult to know ...
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How to say I want to stop having sex unless the relationship becomes serious?

You are allowed to adjust your intimacy permissions anytime you like in a relationship. A respectful partner will not pressure you on this. If they do, perhaps you're better off in a different ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

First off, the bitter pill to swallow: Don't kid yourself, this is a serious threat to your marriage. What she is doing is an emotional affair at best, a regular and emotional affair at worst. It ...
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Is it rude to "sexile" someone the night before a test?

I wouldn't say it's rude exactly, it's just asking for a pretty huge favor, and when asking for a pretty huge favor, you shouldn't​ be too worked up if someone says no or things don't work out as ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"

The elephant in the room is her gaming addiction. She is basically spending an entire working day at it, every day, if I understood you correctly. That is massive. Who takes care of the kids? Who ...
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How to talk about limits/boundaries with regards to BDSM requests from my girlfriend?

Basically you need to have an informed consent conversation. And when it comes to any kind of kink, that informed part is as important as the consent part. You both need to really understand what you'...
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How can I talk about sex with my girlfriend without giving her an ultimatum?

You can focus on letting her know what you would ideally want out of your love life, finding out what she would ideally want and finding a way to meet somewhere in between. When talking about ...
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How to tell my ex not to expect sex

In cases where you have to tell someone things that they probably don't want to hear, these are the principles that I generally try to abide by, and they have served me well. Be clear but not unkind. ...
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Communicating during sex when my partner doesn't like direct questions?

Communication is about 15% words. This applies during sex too. If you cannot tell the difference between a pleasurable and unpleasurable response, ask her to help. Have her do something pleasurable,...
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How do I communicate to my husband that I don't like oral sex?

First I would tell him some things you appreciate about him as a husband. You said he is a good husband except for this one thing. Tell him this, and explain why. Then bring up the topic of oral sex. ...
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How to reduce the awkwardness on the way to the bedroom?

When the bill comes at dinner, tell her that you've had a lovely time spending the evening with her, that you wish the conversation didn't have end, and that also, you would be overjoyed to be ...
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Telling shy person about discomfort during sex

Poor confidence and low self-esteem in your partner are going to significantly complicate matters, and the guiding idea of my answer here is that you are going to have to account for those traits. A ...
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Communicating during sex when my partner doesn't like direct questions?

It's great that you are concerned with her consent to sexual activities. Too few care about that sort of thing. But I don't think you have a communication problem. Instead, you are ignoring the ...
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How can I have a conversation with my wife to be ensured of her faithfulness?

I don't claim to fully understand Indian culture, being from the West. For you to be concerned about adultery I assume it does happen in your culture. However, would it be fair to say that if both you ...
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How do I bring up one-sided sex to my sexually inexperienced girlfriend without pressuring her into anything?

From personal experience, I've been the more experienced one (like you i guess) in my relationship. Sex and the like are very touchy subjects and most people who have not engaged in them before are ...
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How to tell my ex not to expect sex

I've never been in your position with someone that I previously had a physical relationship with, but I have had the need in the past to make it clear to someone that when they are staying over, sex ...
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How do I communicate to my husband that I don't like oral sex?

Like anything else, you're always free to say: No. Particularly when it comes to sex, or particular sex acts you aren't comfortable with, "no" is always an option. In the case of oral sex there ...
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How can I tell my brother to stop giving me condoms for my birthday?

There are three ways that I've tried to get people to stop doing stuff. The first is to ask them to stop. That sometimes works; more often than not the other party says "Hey, that bothers ...
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How do I ask my fiancée if she likes oral sex?

As an Indian I am familiar with the social and cultural circumstances that make it difficult for you to ask your future wife the direct question on such an intimate subject. However I would suggest ...
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