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I'm not much of a talker myself and my father isn't either. However, every Saturday my father will ask me to come grocery shopping with him and I will agree (even though I no longer live at my parent house which means that the food which is bought these days isn't even for me). I don't really like to do grocery shopping and my father definitively doesn't ...


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My gut feeling is that your brother might never become interested in programming. He might seem interested, but I believe it is still a means-to-an-end for him at this stage (I want to make a game, and programming will get me there). Introduce him to the other domains of designing games, like graphics or sound design and check whether those aspects piques ...


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what are the pitfalls I should watch out for when engaging in conversation with my half-sister and half-brothers? I was actually in a very similar situation to this myself. My biological father had nothing to do with raising me. I knew he existed, but during my childhood a meeting was never suggested or encouraged by my mother or step father. This had ...


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There's a few points worth discussing. I will talk about my own experience, maybe you can show him this and it'll be some help to know what being an indie dev is actually like. I did my undergraduate degree in Games Design. Bad decision. It touched on the basics, but in the end I still couldn't make a game. A few years later I decided to learn how to ...


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People from different cultures have different customs and values. That is a reality. In India, many women are second-class citizens, and that's also a reality that must be dealt with in any answer given. My major concern is for the young woman's safety and happiness. Say your friend reaches out to her, and her husband finds out. Would her husband believe ...


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The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Even though these people are genetically related to you, you're a stranger to them. And that genetic link may well mean less to them than you can ever imagine. For example, they may see you as an intruder trying to shake up their perfect little family life. After all, it's not easy finding ...


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Is this question purely about furry pornography? Seems like approaching from a less explicitly sexual angle may accomplish the same goal without as much potential for embarrassment or awkwardness. From my admittedly limited knowledge of the furry subculture it's not all about kink, there is also a fair amount of general fantasy fandom. Granted an awful ...


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TL;DR You cannot convince your brother to take up programming. Programming is hard, tedious, and requires a certain type of brain to find any sort of fulfillment in programming. I think that you are misunderstanding the dynamic of the proposed relationship of the situation. Your brother is not saying "Hey, I personally want to build a game from the ground-...


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Let him listen Some quiet people don't necessarily need silence. They like conversations; they just don't want to contribute. So rather than asking him questions, try just telling him things. It's preferable to pick subjects he enjoys. But of course, you may not know which subjects he enjoys. Ask him Every once in a while, when you face a choice ...


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Siblings that age -- especially the teenagers -- are probably not going to listen to you. They won't see you as an authority figure (you're only a year older than the oldest one), but unless they're very thoughtful and perceptive, asking them to stop so you can focus on your homework is unlikely to produce long-term results. Been there, done that (my ...


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Give her a goal for departure My in-laws are saints and open their house up to a lot of men who were recently released from prison. They let them stay for a while and help them find a job, participate in family things, etc. Occasionally someone will get too comfortable, or too scared to leave, or whatever, and they have to push them out. Most of them don't ...


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My father does not talk (or when he talks socially he is quite awkward). He is a brilliant guy with a huge knowledge, it is just that he does not want and does not know how to chat. He met a new family member (someone who married into my family) during a family gathering, someone like him. At some point, we realized in horror that we left them both alone in ...


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Make racist remarks back at him? NOPE. When they go low, you don't. You have two equally valid options remaining: Tell the teacher. or Ignore him. If this is a one-off retaliation after he got the punishment, I'd suggest ignoring it. Once ignored, maybe there's no longer an issue from him. But if he continues, then report it to the teacher, or even ...


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Even in American culture, a male friend whose presence has been hidden from a husband would seem very suspicious suddenly appearing several years later. If he does decide to contact her, I would contact both husband and wife together to demonstrate that you're friends of their family unit and not a threat to it. Whether the husband is the best guy in the ...


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You and the sister of your girlfriend belong to different world. Her world is her family world. Your world is with your girlfriend. The meeting point of these 2 worlds is your girlfriend. In my opinion, if you try to reach the sister of your girlfriend directly, this will be at best awkward. You may need to involve your girlfriend. I would talk to my ...


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Option 2 seems to be the most viable option. But I have a story that I think you'll appreciate. I am from India. Attended school in India. Bullying is a big thing in India, but never something actually addressed. The term bullying is not a recognized as something that needs to be addressed. When you go to the teacher about someone bullying you, you usually ...


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I am a programmer working in the games industry, so I have plenty of experience with people trying to get me to make their game ideas. In an industry where pretty much everyone has more ideas than they can ever make into reality, ideas are absolutely worthless unless you have the skills to help push them into being. However, the skill he contributes doesn'...


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Well, sounds like you're interested in your friend's little sister and it also sounds like you're pretty set on pursuing a relationship. So... Let's take a moment to examine what sort of relationship you want to pursue with this young woman, cause if it was a young woman who meant something to me, that would be my first question. Are your intentions ...


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Writing my comment as an answer on OP's request. Answer given by anongoodnurse is completely on the right track. Her last line reads "I hope someone more familiar with your culture can offer a better answer." While this may not be a better answer, I am a person more familiar with the Indian culture. I am from India, and I have some such "siblings" of my own....


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Something similar happened to us lately. In the 1960s my next-eldest sister, who was a teenager, disappeared for a few months and came back thinner. We smaller ones did not think this was special, but later we heard the gossip that there had been a baby. No-one ever mentioned it. Cut to 45 years later. All of us are married or partnered, with kids. A man ...


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You are putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself. I too have siblings that are very busy/stressed etc. It's my responsibility to always be available for them but it's their responsibility to make the time. A few times each month, I call/text different family members I don't see often and tell them I need 10-15 minutes to catch up. They call me ...


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I am experiencing the same exact thing with my roommate. I am a programmer and he is not. He never wants to learn anything about game development, but always wants to create a game: Your brother isn't interested in learning about game development, but only fascinated about the concept of creating a new game. Offer him some Youtube videos that he can ...


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My 2 cents: I have and currently am in the same boat as your sister. My mom is extremely athletic, but my dad and sister are also extremely not. I grew up doing varisty everything and like your sister, quit everything cold turkey in college (also due to injuries). I gained weight, a lot more than probably your sister did. I have been trying for a decade now ...


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Unfortunately it is becoming the norm for children (and adults) to spend a substantial amount of time using phones, tablets,...etc. What you can do to help your sister is to invite her to participate with you in any real world activities that you do. You will build a better bond with her, and at least temporarily keep her away from the electronic devices.


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It sounds like it bothers you that your brother is heavy-handedly trying to get you to bond with his significant others by using terms that suggest their relationship is stronger than it actually is (especially when this happens with different girls in short periods of time). This probably isn't something your brother will realize on his own from passive ...


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Notes: as Tinkeringbell noted in the comments you definitely should reach for help at the institutions you already were in contact with, this is surely not the first case like this I am not personally anywhere close to a situation like this [in response to your comment] This answer might seem harsh and inconsiderate but I am trying to balance between what ...


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As a strong silent type, I want connection, but do not enjoy initiating conversation or the innate obligation to communicate. Invite to Join Instead of asking how our day, week, or weekend, went, ask if we are up to joining an activity. Interact Non-Verbally Observing and interacting non-verbally are enjoyable. Wither it's sitting in silence or doing ...


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her brother is probably Kim Jong-Un Answer: "I know. We have nukes." Also, there's one very good line she can pull on a bullying guy: "I don't care what you think or say." Make racist remarks back at him. NOT RECOMMENDED If she looks korean and the other is african, then all the anti-racists, teachers and staff included, will side against you. Don't ...


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Stop trying to teach him and tell him how to learn. On YouTube, you can learn how to do pretty much anything, so there's going to be tutorials there. Some presenters are really great a describing things and making the subject matter engaging. Show these to your brother (or just point him at a channel name) and allow him to learn at his own pace. Let him ...


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