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There are three ways that I've tried to get people to stop doing stuff. The first is to ask them to stop. That sometimes works; more often than not the other party says "Hey, that bothers OldPrussian. Let's do it more!" And the problem gets worse instead of better. The second way I've tried to get people to stop doing things is to make it their problem ...


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You are putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself. I too have siblings that are very busy/stressed etc. It's my responsibility to always be available for them but it's their responsibility to make the time. A few times each month, I call/text different family members I don't see often and tell them I need 10-15 minutes to catch up. They call me ...


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In reading your question, I see one very important thing: you are over-committed. I ran into this issue when I was in Graduate School as well. The first thing is to decide your priorities and focus on them, then communicate those and decline activities that do not fit with your priorities. I needed to do that and it saved my sanity. That's more of a long-...


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I've been in that situation, on both sides. Me and my siblings are not good at keeping in touch with our mother and grand-parents. What I've found is that the best way to remind a sibling that they are being a bit inconsiderate or forgetful, without going into an argument or them becoming defensive, is to gently remind them. Once. And then let it go. To ...


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Try to see where you might be wrong It sounds like you've got some pretty common older sibling traits. Check here for more details but the key one is: Serious/solitary – Babies aren’t much fun for the oldest child to play with. Little brothers and sisters can be OK if they are close in age, but the oldest child will prefer his or her peers or parents until ...


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I'm coming from a very similar situation where my stress and unhappiness from my previous job caused me to be very forgetting and additionally very easy to get angry. Causing some small fights. You need to do the same with your family members, as you did with your girlfriend. Since you can't have the same long talk with everybody focus on the important ...


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I think you actually said it all already. You miss at most a part of the interpretation. I really don't mean anything bad by that. But communication is really about how your message is interpreted, not only the message itself. And how you communicate it most definitely influences the interpretation: I didn't do what I was supposed to do That is what ...


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