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How do I prevent people from repeating to others everything I say to them?

Don't give them anything to talk about This is a critical IPS skill that, unfortunately, not everyone comes by naturally. Sometimes you have to really work for it, and it can take a lot of trial and ...
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How to tell a classmate I don’t want to give him a contact for an internship?

In your place I would talk to the former tutor and be frank about your impression of the student. Let him decide if he wants to give him a chance or not. They might be in dire need of new employees ...
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How to tell a classmate I don’t want to give him a contact for an internship?

Contact your former tutor and say "I have been asked for your contact information by another student. May I share it with him? This is not a recommendation by me, I am simply facilitating his contact ...
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How do I prevent people from repeating to others everything I say to them?

It sounds to me, like the person was surprised by your request and wanted to express that surprise. This is likely due to a difference in cultural norms. Like BlackThorn mentioned, it appears you're ...
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How to deal with intimidating people?

Inappropriate comments from someone in authority over children, such as a teacher, are always a cause for concern. Since your parents hired this person you should talk to them about this behavior. I ...
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How do I prevent people from repeating to others everything I say to them?

First of all, you won't be able to avoid those situation in the future, but maybe next time you will be more prepared to face them. My opinion regarding the 'hamburger' situation, you should make the ...
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What concept was my teacher trying to explain when someone might not answer my question unless I answered the same to them?

I taught this concept to my children as "give before you take." I had occasion to remind my 32-year old about it yesterday when discussing how she would ask the school bus driver her name. ...
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How do I turn an acquaintance into a friend?

It feels to me like you're really good at greeting people, but you're not getting more involved than that. Sometimes people are lucky, and they're able to just greet people until someone asks them to ...
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How to tell students to not ask questions

How to tell students that I am new to that subject This part is simple: "I'm sorry, but I am new to this subject. I may not be able to answer all your questions" and not to ask doubts in ...
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As a PhD student, how can I politely tell Masters students that I don't have time to help them

Set an appointment with them. I'm in my PhD as well and I have to assist two master students with their thesis. They used to ask for my help for every little problem in every moment, thus hindering ...
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How to handle being laughed at in a room full of people in a foreign country?

You should forgive yourself in this case. For starters, it was very harsh to line people up from dumb to smartest, but maybe that itself was a show of humility - i.e. if you think you are smart you ...
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How do I turn an acquaintance into a friend?

Ed Grimm's answer is really great, i would just like to add that at university there are a lot of casual opportunities to socialize.The easiest way to brake the ice with your fellow students is to ...
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How to communicate to a fellow student of the opposite sex that avoids me that I have no interest in her whatsoever

People are complicated. What is platonic to some can be the beginnings of a major relationship for others. How things got to be the way they are tends to be a really important thing to understand ...
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How do I prevent people from repeating to others everything I say to them?

You can't really prevent people from talking about what they heard or saw. You can, however, prevent people from discussing awkward things you said or did, by not saying or doing awkward things. If ...
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How to tell a student in same school I want to get to know him?

It sounds like your goal is to encourage him to text you more often - so my answer will be built off of that premise. "How can I ask for a texting routine? (e.g. every Tuesday and Thursday). I ...
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How do I turn an acquaintance into a friend?

There are a variety of ways to make friends at a university and while the other answers address quite a few of those scenarios, I'll give you a few that happened to occur for me in my experience at a ...
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How to bring a student back to studies?

Thank you for the question. As it shows you care about your students. Instead of turning it into an argument, why don't you just sit and ask her what she likes or would like to do in future? Maybe it'...
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How to greet Teachers and Staffs?

Prof K. in a lab course when I was sick, helped a lot in getting me to appropriate resting room and then keeping a check after medications and in the make-up(recovery) lab. Turns out he is good at ...
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How to deal with intimidating people?

First of all, the feeling you have is anxiety. This isn't a normal emotion to experience around a tutor so don't just dismiss your concerns about him as you overreacting. It's a valid problem and ...
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How should I handle the situation when I caught my student cheating in examination?

I am from Russia and here we think different. I'm far from my school years and academy but I remember it all. No matter how badly he cheated it's not good to act like you did in front of the whole ...
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How to tell a classmate I don’t want to give him a contact for an internship?

In cases like that, I would try to tell the truth: Hey Jonh/e Doe, I would definitely do it but we never worked together so I am not comfortable giving recommendation. This is true, AFAIK, because ...
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How to tell a classmate I don’t want to give him a contact for an internship?

There's probably a formal process he should go through to apply for an internship, tell him that you can't do anything but point him there. This has the virtue of likely being true. It's unfair for ...
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How to tell a student in same school I want to get to know him?

How can I ask for a texting routine? (e.g. every Tuesday and Thursday). Please, don't do it. It's awkward and even if my best friend or my girlfriend would ask me for something like this it would be ...
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How to deal with intimidating people?

Your conflict likely comes from the conflict between some of the issues being discussed and your parent's attitude toward them. You fear for the fate of your tutor would your parents find out he is ...
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As a PhD student, how can I politely tell Masters students that I don't have time to help them

This is where boundaries come in to play. They want more from you than you want to give, but they don't have the right to get more from you than you are willing to give. First if you just want them ...
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How to tell someone I won't do their work

You've said she's studying too much at once (presumably she's taken on extra classes?) but then you also say that she's openly admitting to not coming to lectures because she's not feeling like it, ...
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How to bring a student back to studies?

One thing I've found to work teaching 9th grade is believing in them. The other answer by ConfusedANDHungry01 is really good and touches on this but I want to say it explicitly. I've found kids to ...
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How can I let a classmate know I can't help them on an assignment anymore?

However, I no longer wish to work with them on the assignment. The first reason is a lack of time on my part: I have a part-time job, I have to do my own project, and I also have to write a large ...
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