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This answer will deal with not just what to do if you personally are dealing with depression/suicidal thoughts, but also if someone you know is feeling that way too. Any numbers, websites or hotlines will be listed towards the end of the answer. What to do if you are feeling depressed or suicidal: Contact a helpline immediately, if you are afraid of talking ...


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(I've been in all the parts of this dynamic over the decades.) Do not worry about "bringing up bad memories." When you see your friend, tell him you are glad to see him. And mean it. If he wants to talk about what happened and how he feels, he will. Do not check up on him later "you don't still want to kill yourself do you?" but do check in: are you ok? ...


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I'm going to take a stab at this, just because we get a lot of these... The advice I received from a licensed psychiatrist, for dealing with suicidal people in person, or over the phone, in my own community, was to treat every suicide threat as legitimate and call the authorities. Where I live in the US, they treat these things seriously and dispatch first ...


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tl;dr My answer got a bit long, and is primarily focused on some of the more generic skills for having difficult conversations. Since Avazula provided an excellent answer with some very specific suggestions for things you can do to move forward, I'll leave my answer with just the skills for how to have the conversation instead of what conversation to have. ...


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It's great that you're looking out for your friend and you seem to be doing all you can. Suicide can be a really sensitive topic though, with many conflicting thoughts for the person, without being a psychologist or medical expert I'm not sure there is much more you can do. I would suggest if they wants to play it like they're back to normal, try to act ...


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I have never revealed to a group of people something as personal and serious as this, so instead I will be pulling from my experience in interventions, family meetings, funeral planning and other compulsory group conversations to answer your question. Firstly, for your goal: to 'reveal' my suicide attempt to a group of old friends I think you are going ...


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I, sadly, have a very dear friend of mine who encountered a very similar situation to what your girlfriend is currently experiencing. My friend lost her best friend to suicide about 18 months ago and as your girlfriend, feelings were involved, as she fell in love with him shortly before he died. My friend - let's call her Ananda - has been with her partner ...


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This does not at all feel like an interpersonal question but as I sympathize with your sense of urgency and the delicacy of the situation I will toss in some advice. The following was grabbed from Wikipedia: Iran Organization of Well Being (http://moshaver.behzisti.ir/page.aspx?id=1480) has provided the free and governmental hotline, 1480, by which the ...


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I agree with the part of this answer that cautions against doing this in a group, especially in conjunction with what was supposed to be a fun activity. Instead, you should tell people (who you want to know) in one-on-one conversations. I haven't had to communicate anything this serious to others, but I've been on the receiving end of revelations that were ...


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After carefully reading about the difficult situation, and seeing your three choices, the most noble is #3, where you give a good response; you will likely be asked for more emotional support but that is a gamble you could take. Option #1 is the least favorable because you could not tell yourself "at least I tried". Option #2 is possible but not if you are ...


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It depends When I read your question, I first assumed this was a large group of friends, maybe 10 or so. However, I notice you don't actually say. If it's 3, really close friends (e.g., you're a circle of friends from high school, or something like that) then it might be completely appropriate to inform them as a group somewhere relatively private. Simply ...


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Suicides are on the increase, and everybody wants to help. Not all people giving advice on the subject are qualified to help, or even right. I'm certainly not qualified, but I do have some experience of this close to home. Talking is vital to the prevention of suicide. And you are seeking an interpersonal solution so you obviously want to say something to ...


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First a cautionary note... I would strongly recommend asking your therapist before taking any advice you find here. They'll know more about your individual case and will have a better picture of where you are in your treatment and recovery. I advise caution because revealing something this personal, and having people react badly, may end up being a set ...


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