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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?

Given the constraints you've laid out in your question, you can't. You want to be seen (roughly) as a peer to these students, but also want them to treat you as a professional that is off-limits for ...
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How to improve my ways when teaching my wife

You're forgetting what made you love programming in the first place. (hint: it wasn't "getting yelled at"). Learning cannot happen without both wanting and ability. You must admit there's a ...
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How to improve my ways when teaching my wife

Self-taught programmer here. From the sounds of things you're both getting frustrated as you're at different points in your coding career. Also, from the phrases you've wrote like: you did it ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?

Note: I am answering as a teacher, now teaching in a high school. In the past, when I was teaching assistant at university, I have been in the situation where students were trying to flirt with me. I ...
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How to handle students in a classroom who might have feelings for you?

Stop flirting with your students. It's ridiculously unprofessional, and if anything makes the other students respect you less. On top of that, most educational institutions have policies forbidding ...
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Keeping a potential music teacher a possibility for future learning?

How do I tactfully put the 2nd teacher on hold? As I would do for any reseller/supplier who finishes second in the grab-a-student-race: politely let them know they came (too) late. Don't blame them, ...
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How to improve my ways when teaching my wife

Preamble: You, my friend, are a very brave man. In trying to teach your wife how to program, you are taking on two roles. One as a husband, which is an equal partner relationship. The other as a ...
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How to get more co-operation from a teacher who discourages a student from asking questions to clear his confusion?

I am an Indian, just like you. I am actually from Tamil Nadu (South India). In my 11th grade, I had a physics teacher like that. She was a hardheaded "strict" teacher (to the point that boys were not ...
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How to talk to my teacher after my valedictorian speech script was altered beyond recognition?

You do not want to trouble the teacher and that's nice of you... ...but he/she is troubling you and this is worth at least an attempt to fix ...and you won't have the chance to trouble him/her ...
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How to improve my ways when teaching my wife

I can very closely relate to you. I've learned programming by myself, out of passion, and learned a lot more a lot quicker than most courses would handle. That's not bragging, it's just, as you put it,...
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How can I decline to help my teacher with their personal IT problem?

I agree with the assessments that this is a position of authority abusing their authority. Saying "no" in that position will be uncomfortable; you are correct. There's not much you can do in that ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?

Your best non-offensive way to answer that type of stuff is a smile with a deflecting comment like, "Hey, that's not robotics!" and start talking about something else without answering the question. ...
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How to deal with a teacher who bullies me?

I recently got a haircut. Ever since I got a boy-cut, everyone in my school spreads vicious rumours about me (...) I got physically bullied as well (...) Before my haircut, all these teachers were ...
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How can I decline to help my teacher with their personal IT problem?

If you don't find any other way to handle it, you still can play "dumb and scared". Start with "In theory its easy, ..." and describe the process step by step. Than tell her the "BUT": you never ...
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How can I decline to help my teacher with their personal IT problem?

Well, this can be challenging because they are a figure of authority in your life that seems to be misusing that authority. Some points to recognize first: It is inappropriate for your teacher to be ...
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How best to address a former teacher

Having taught in both the US and UK, my experience is that most former students address me by my title and Surname on first instance of meeting again. In the UK context this is less uncomfortable than ...
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How to ask someone to pay fees on time

The key here is to flip the embarrassment around. Nobody ever wants to admit they need to be paid. We all like to pretend we are independently wealthy and don't have to worry about petty stuff like ...
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How can I deal with a teacher who became stubborn because I previously was incorrect and arrogant?

I was a teacher for a while so I can see the point of view of your teacher. Personally I would not have acted as she did but I can understand why someone would. After your 'rude' approach of ...
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How to improve my ways when teaching my wife

I tried to tutor my partner at programming last summer too. It didn't go well...until maybe the last month of tutoring. Teaching someone you are too close to is very difficult, as the intimacy works ...
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How to handle being laughed at in a room full of people in a foreign country?

You should forgive yourself in this case. For starters, it was very harsh to line people up from dumb to smartest, but maybe that itself was a show of humility - i.e. if you think you are smart you ...
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Should I thank my private teacher after qualifying and ask for having my books back?

(1) I am Indian myself and this is a good learning experience for you not to give excessive importance to teachers during your higher studies. As you noted, there is a tradition in India that the ...
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How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?

Warning: I never was in a similar situation before. But I had to deal with comment or question that were making me uncomfortable. So, here is what I suggest doing: Wait for the thing that makes you ...
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How best to address a former teacher

Neither way is considered improper. Addressing them by their full/first name is probably the choice that best suits your situation. It shows an element of professionalism and as you said equal ...
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Should I thank my private teacher after qualifying and ask for having my books back?

Disclaimer, this is from an American perspective and doesn't take into account any nuances of Indian culture. However, now, I am no longer in contact with this teacher, due to his attitude and high ...
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How to politely word a reminder email to a teacher

It's very possible that they did not see your earlier email, or they saw it and meant to do it but forgot. I would simply send a followup email, worded along the lines of Dear sir/ma'am: I am writing ...
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What is the smartest way to wave-off a compliment and not look arrogant

I really don't like it when people make such a mountain of a molehill, but I'm afraid that if I say anything, it might sound like I'm turning down their gratitude, which might make them feel bad, and ...
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How to get more co-operation from a teacher who discourages a student from asking questions to clear his confusion?

I am fifty, a project manager at Dailmer, responsible for a key internal software application, and had/have a learning disability. First, accept that if you do not ask questions until you ...
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