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How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am?

First I question why you need everyone to trust your abilities. Some random JoeSchmo from chat's opinion hasn't got much bearing on what you can actually do, so convincing them is probably not ...
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How do I say no to a stranger asking to borrow my bicycle for a minute?

Stranger: Can I borrow your bike for a minute? You don't know them or have any mutual friends. You have no guarantee that they will return it in time and in good condition. They have not mentioned ...
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How do I say no to a stranger asking to borrow my bicycle for a minute?

"No" is a complete sentence. It does not require justification or explanation. In this case, it certainly should be enough. You can soften it a bit by saying "no, I'm sorry". He asked, he should ...
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Is it rude to stay for only 30 minutes or an hour at my girlfriend's family barbecue?

In most cases like this I would go to the event and be up front in greeting It's great to see you! I'm very sorry but I'm only going to be able to stay around 30 minutes. My parents are expecting ...
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How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am?

I must disagree with the answers posed here so far. I wouldn't try to persuade them with direct arguments at all. At best, you will come off as cocky (by giving yourself a great self-assessment) or ...
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What should I do if I have a nosebleed in the middle of a meeting?

I would say it depends on the situation. It'd be fine to hold a tissue to it for a minute or two. Holding it for an hour would be distracting. If it's in any way a distraction to others in the ...
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How do I approach telling guests not to overstay their welcome?

This can be often tricky to get the point across to people. On one hand, you don't want to be too curt or rude, but on the other hand you want the evening/event to end. As someone who enjoys company, ...
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How do I approach telling guests not to overstay their welcome?

This is a case where feigned obliviousness can be your friend. As you head into the cleaning-up-the-game, planning-the-next-event portion of the evening, you can turn to these two and ask, in your ...
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How do I say no to a stranger asking to borrow my bicycle for a minute?

Israeli culture teens will often borrow other people's bikes, and that it's considered perfectly acceptable. Since it's really acceptable in your culture, it's like some known person is asking for a ...
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My teen son's friend stinks due to cats in his house. How to handle?

This is really difficult because the person(s) with whom you need to have a conversation is Tom's parent(s). As a 14-year-old, Tom may have some idea that he smells but he is not really in a place to ...
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Is it rude to stay for only 30 minutes or an hour at my girlfriend's family barbecue?

When I was still married this was the juggling act that we had to preform with nearly every major holiday... My ex-wife and I both came from split families so every occasion meant making appearances ...
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How can I better improve peoples views of me?

It sounds like what you want to contribute is "don't do that". Groups of people, and especially groups of teenagers, rarely accept these sorts of contributions. The two major retorts from such groups ...
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How to address the disapproval of someones actions when he/she throws litter on the ground

Method 1 Suited for when people are likely to be agreeing with you. For Reference -Strategies Explanation of Purpose: About that soda can on the ground... Complaint: I think you shouldn't do that. ...
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Is it right to ask someone to keep the curtains drawn if we're claustrophobic? If so, how?

She doesn't like the sun; the rest of you do. Absent a pressing reason (like a medical need) to favor one over the other, you're going to need to either compromise or find ways to solve individuals' ...
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How to react to teenagers trying to making fun of you?

I'm 18 years old, but I'm not the most intimidating sort of person, especially to kids in this age range (early teenage years). As such, in cases where I have to tell kids this age to do something, ...
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What does one do at a dance without a date?

As the question is too broad and really depends on what you were hoping to accomplish/what type of person you are, I can only give you what I would have done in this situation. Please keep in mind ...
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What should I do if I have a nosebleed in the middle of a meeting?

I have the same issues you do from a dilated blood vessel in my nose. Dry buildings during winter are my biggest enemy and as a result I can have anywhere from 1 to 3 bloody nose incidents a day. ...
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How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am?

This is a losing battle, and it's not worth your time to fight. The people who are giving you a hard time for being 15 already have their minds made up about what 15 year-olds are like and what they ...
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How to get out of another group's interpersonal problems without hurting their feelings

It might be that she does not see you as your emotional problem solver or expects something like that. I believe it to be more likely that she might just need someone to talk to, to vent. Everyone ...
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How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am?

I've been a moderator on an online forum as well in my teen years, it's really hard to convince people that you're more mature than your age however you don't need them to trust you completely. Since ...
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How can I properly express my true academic and career ambitions to my father?

Being worried about revealing your true ambitions to your parents is very normal. When someone thinks that the truth about themselves will damage their loved one's opinions of them it can be difficult ...
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How do you point out major design flaws gently?

Divide your efforts. There's really two problems to solve here. The first is that there's a first-year that you have to gently teach how to develop aircraft. The second is a safety critical concern. ...
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How to react to teenagers trying to making fun of you?

Although I'm from India, I think I understand your situation. I'm 16 now, and I have a 13-year-old sister, and her friends to bother about. At school, I have a number of responsibilities which include ...
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How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am?

Some people achieve amazing things while still in their teens, and some teenagers do have knowledge beyond their years. However it just isn't possible to claim the same experience as an older person ...
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How can I better improve peoples views of me?

I think there are a few things to consider in addition to the points made in Kate Gregory's excellent answer. The biggest thing to watch out for is how you contribute. Let's take a look at your first ...
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How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am?

Fight them back with evidences and providing what you actually did; put your portfolio in front of them: Other person Wait, really? Are you sure that you can do this? I'm not sure if I trust a ...
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How can I convince my teacher that I'm still suffering from mental illness, despite him insisting I'm over it?

In most countries, the diagnosis of health-issues is performed by health professionals like general physicians, psychiatrists and psychologists. They are also in charge of providing proper treatment ...
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I don't want a large birthday party. How can I let my friends know?

Based on location and age I think you are also likely somewhat dealing with "an excuse" to throw a party. While they are likely wanting to throw you a party, people that age that I know are also ...
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What should I do if I have a nosebleed in the middle of a meeting?

Should I attempt to stop the bleeding while at the meeting or leave the room to take care of it? If you can choose where you sit, I'd carefully pick a seat next to someone you know that won't be ...
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